JDPT Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Weekends are really bad for me... That's when we used to hang out too... Thursdays was "our" night lol. Link to post Share on other sites
crazybestie101 Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Its only six days of NC .. Nothing pains more than seeing my ex having fun , taking pictures. I am totally NOT on his mind . You can ready my story about "poured out my heart to EX". It's heart breaking how he doesnt care about anything now. I am still here thinking about it , analyzing it . Worst part is my roommates are couple , so whenever i see them talking , laughing and doing things together , it reminds me of my time with him. I think he hates me now. He told me he doesnt want to see me and talk to me . He told me to leave him alone and never contact him back. Why being so jerk ? Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Its only six days of NC .. Nothing pains more than seeing my ex having fun , taking pictures. I am totally NOT on his mind . You can ready my story about "poured out my heart to EX". It's heart breaking how he doesnt care about anything now. I am still here thinking about it , analyzing it . Worst part is my roommates are couple , so whenever i see them talking , laughing and doing things together , it reminds me of my time with him. I think he hates me now. He told me he doesnt want to see me and talk to me . He told me to leave him alone and never contact him back. Why being so jerk ? I know what you mean, it's soooo hard to see couples now... Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Thankfully today I feel calm. It's always a matter of weathering the storm when it strikes, hanging on to dear life. It's back to business. Link to post Share on other sites
Janni Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Today started as any other day - I remembered that we are not together anymore. I didn't feel like getting up. But had made plans so I had to get up. Yay for me. So I got up and then things got better. I've felt okay the whole day. Haven't thought a lot about him. Ofc I still feel empty and lonely somehow, but I didn't feel as sad as I normally do. I felt okay. Then an hour ago I suddenly felt an urge to contact him. I haven't had any desire to talk to him since I initiated NC. So that was a bit strange. I posted in the thread "Write here instead of contacting you ex" and I felt better. So now I'm okay again. Overall, quite a great day compared to how my days generally go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author geegee81 Posted October 20, 2013 Author Share Posted October 20, 2013 I saw him last night at a party....so i am annoyed right now. I wish we didnt know the same groups of people. I want him to disappear. Link to post Share on other sites
Axee Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Day 20 : I just felt questions filling my head " why? " "How could he?" "were his feelings anytime genuine? " " Did he feel anything at all ?" I feel like breaking NC.. but I really dont know what to say... I never responded to his final msg.... He texted him saying he cannot commit to me and so its over and aplogised...after a phone call the previous night... Its not being lazy or something.. Its an inability to face me.. with a guilty conscience I guess.. Oh God.. I want to move on now.. Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyjuan Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 I think I am 4 months and a bit in, lost count. I feel awesome! I have done for a good few months now. I saw her the other day and she looked really miserable and annoyed when she saw me. I think part of her is annoyed that I look so much better now and look really happy. Maybe her life isn't as good as she thought it would be...tough **** All my effort in the gym is really starting to show now I'm enjoying the attention I am getting from different girls and enjoying doing what I want when I want I like my life to be unpredictable and not set in a routine like it was with my ex. It does get better everyone Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Much better today. I just got home from the gym and feel ok. Link to post Share on other sites
Transplant Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 I feel quite awful as well - it seems since the breakup I've been forcing myself to accept that it's over and haven't allowed the true grieving process to take its course, perhaps stunting or prolonging the healing to occur. It's been hard to 'count my blessings', as it were and to be thankful for the good. I was meeting with clients the other week and this woman said, 'son, you look like you carry much sorrow', which was odd because I put on smiles all day but I guess even with facades, some sorrow is just so vivid to others, even strangers. Keep fighting readers, and with kindest regards, I remain Very truly yours, Transplant Link to post Share on other sites
WhiskeyJack Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Im only 36 hours into no contact and Im still dying on the inside. He's been trying to text me about little things and it hurts not to reply. I feel like if I dont reply then he'll think I'm not interested and then just choice to break up for good. But if I do reply that just shows him Ill be there for him without a commitment from him and he'll need no reason to date me again. He has to learn to miss me. Figure it out 100% in his mind. So basically I'm doing no better then I was a couple days ago. Link to post Share on other sites
im_thedude Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Today would have been our three year anniversary. Woke up from a bad, bad dream. On top of that, I have the day off. Thankfully, I foresaw this a week ago and asked my best friend to be available today. Heading over to his place in a couple hours for lunch! Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Today would have been our three year anniversary. Woke up from a bad, bad dream. On top of that, I have the day off. Thankfully, I foresaw this a week ago and asked my best friend to be available today. Heading over to his place in a couple hours for lunch! Excellent job projecting ahead. I'm already making plans for the holidays. I want to sorrounded myself with as much people as possible and have a great time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Sad and frustrated. Trying not to look at my phone every 5 mins. and not to think about that cruel individual! I know he is not with my time, but that's easier said than done. Link to post Share on other sites
Nancy87 Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 i feel okay! i miss u too. but i know i am doing the right thing. if we belong together, everything will fall into place.. Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Tomorrow will be 4 weeks since our breakup. Today I realized how wrong my ex was for me and how poorly she treated me. The only mistake I made as not ending it sooner. I have a great potential date already lined up so I'm moving forward! Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Tomorrow will be 4 weeks since our breakup. Today I realized how wrong my ex was for me and how poorly she treated me. The only mistake I made as not ending it sooner. I have a great potential date already lined up so I'm moving forward! That's great ponchsox, I hope everything works out for you. :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Still-I-Rise Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Today I am afraid he is going to try to come back. His walking away from us without any support, etc., was devastating. I begged him to stay and try counseling instead of throwing away a life-long friendship of 38 years and a 21 year marriage but he left with a cold heart. And now, friends and our children believe he is angling to return home and I don't want him to. My broken heart is healing and we, the five he left behind, are learning to become a new/improved family and move ahead to a brighter future. Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Today I am afraid he is going to try to come back. His walking away from us without any support, etc., was devastating. I begged him to stay and try counseling instead of throwing away a life-long friendship of 38 years and a 21 year marriage but he left with a cold heart. And now, friends and our children believe he is angling to return home and I don't want him to. My broken heart is healing and we, the five he left behind, are learning to become a new/improved family and move ahead to a brighter future. You can't really "fall apart" because of your children. You said "new/improved", which tells me that you're better off and happier without him being around anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author geegee81 Posted October 23, 2013 Author Share Posted October 23, 2013 Today, I feel pretty healed. For 2 days i haven't really thought about him. I stopped checking my phone. Ive been chatting with new guys, and i went on a date last weekend. I feel that the hormones are wearing off, and im now able to see that he was not "all that" . I deserve way better and i will get it oneday. Just stay strong everybody. We are in this together. Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Well, I caught myself rocking out to Top 40 radio on the drive home, so I guess that's a good sign. Tonight, I feel peaceful. That's a rare and precious state for me. Sending good thoughts to all! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mikejensen3355 Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Today, I feel pretty healed. For 2 days i haven't really thought about him. I stopped checking my phone. Ive been chatting with new guys, and i went on a date last weekend. I feel that the hormones are wearing off, and im now able to see that he was not "all that" . I deserve way better and i will get it oneday. Just stay strong everybody. We are in this together. 2 days is amazing! Congrats! There are times I wish for 2 minutes. You're doing awesome. I can only hope to one day get to that point. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Today, I feel pretty healed. For 2 days i haven't really thought about him. I stopped checking my phone. Ive been chatting with new guys, and i went on a date last weekend. I feel that the hormones are wearing off, and im now able to see that he was not "all that" . I deserve way better and i will get it oneday. Just stay strong everybody. We are in this together. I'm right there with you! I'm two straight days without contact, talking to a couple of very nice women, and I hit me today like a ton of bricks how poorly my ex treated me. A simple yet effective method is to make a pro and con list of your bf/gf. If you are completely truthful, and the "con" list far exceeds the "pro" list, ask yourself if you are better or not without them! I want someone that completes my life, not adds their problems with it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 Congrats everyone who has the ability and the strength to stick with the decision on moving on without any contact..I admire that. I am still having a hard time, dealing with that fact. I guess the reality didn't hit me yet and I am subconsciously still hoping, I don't know what is going on. I went to have dinner with some great people, my mind was somewhere else. It's been a month, and I think of him every minute. It's exhausting, and I am really tired.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mario79 Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 so sad. anxious. angry. because of my ex. Link to post Share on other sites
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