I have a big problem.

[Groundzeroharvester]

I'm a fairly, young guy and even though my appearance might be more on the extreme side. I'm really old fashioned especially with relationships. I actually like to do a thing called courting. I've only had sex with three different ladies, all of whom I was seeing for over 6 months. I'm kind of a rarity I guess. In the last year, I developed an anger issue towards guys that have sex as quick as possible especially if that get a girl pregnant and move to a new girl. I guess there's fault that needs to go to the girls also, but I feel that the guys are usually more in control of the relationship.

 

 

Earlier this year, my brother's friend was bragging how he had sex with 3 girls in an hour. I became outraged and I started to preach to him on how I didn't think it was so cool. We got in a little fight. Then I started to openly look for guys who gotten girls pregnant without getting married. For this year I've been in 11 fights. I never throw the first punch so I can always get off by saying it was self defense. What has me worried is I'm getting more violent and have more rage and don't want end killing someone. Plus, I'm only 5'8 and 180 lbs, it's not like I'm a big guy, I could get seriously hurt. I have to try and break this habit, but I can't really explain how much this angers me. I won't date a girl that had a baby out of wedlock. I feel these guys are ruining ideal women that I could be dating. It makes it so much harder to find an ideal woman. How can I end this behavior? Anyone had issues like this before?

[theothersully]

That's pretty bad. You have to get that checked out. Both finding what the underlying reason is and anger management. Go talk it out with a counselor.

 

Main question being... what right do you think you have telling people what they can do? If they want to have kids outside of marriage, so what? Let them ruin their lives. Laugh a little inside at it. Getting angry/violent is definitely a way wrong reaction. Get that checked out.

[Groundzeroharvester]

The entire underlying issue is that these guys are reducing the amount of women that I can date in my area. I feel that by confronting them there's a chance of stopping the flow. I know of one guy who's impregnated 3 girls. Suppose I could have knocked some sense into him before that well that would give me three more suitable mates.

[Criticality]

You're a sociopath.

 

You need intensive psychological help, possibly medication too, as fast as possible.

 

Women don't exist solely for the reason to act as your mates.

 

Other men don't "ruin them" by having sex with them.

 

That's a sick, sick way to view the world, and you need professional help.

[Chu]

First off, Kudos to you for seeking help for this problem. You obviously know how much of an issue it is and I don't think anyone disputes that fact.

 

I would highly suggest going to your family doctor and asked for a referral to an anger management group. I've been through a Stress management group and an anger management group myself and I've found them extremely helpful.

 

The main point I wanted to say is that you're striving to control something that is not controllable. You may feel that by "keeping a guy in check" you are making your choice-pool higher with women. But really, do you think your needle in this haystack is making that significant a difference? Besides that there are a few points:

 

a. With your tone and level of intensity, they will shut you out and deem your advice "crazy" anyway. You're not getting through.

 

b. You're not attributing enough of the "blame" to the women. (We women are not helpless idiots who are purely emotionally driven.)

 

You cannot control the situation and you're ceaselessly stiving to control it. That will create frustration in anyone.

 

Instead, you could focus your energy towards where you can make a difference. Like, who you date: Seeking avenues to find the type of girls that you like to date etc.

 

But first, I really think you'd benefit by finding some sort of support in dealing with your anger. Even though rage is intoxicating and feels powerful, It also hurts to be angry. So I really wish you the best with whatever you choose to do.

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

I'm a fairly, young guy and even though my appearance might be more on the extreme side. I'm really old fashioned especially with relationships. I actually like to do a thing called courting. I've only had sex with three different ladies, all of whom I was seeing for over 6 months. I'm kind of a rarity I guess. In the last year, I developed an anger issue towards guys that have sex as quick as possible especially if that get a girl pregnant and move to a new girl. I guess there's fault that needs to go to the girls also, but I feel that the guys are usually more in control of the relationship.

 

 

Earlier this year, my brother's friend was bragging how he had sex with 3 girls in an hour. I became outraged and I started to preach to him on how I didn't think it was so cool. We got in a little fight. Then I started to openly look for guys who gotten girls pregnant without getting married. For this year I've been in 11 fights. I never throw the first punch so I can always get off by saying it was self defense. What has me worried is I'm getting more violent and have more rage and don't want end killing someone. Plus, I'm only 5'8 and 180 lbs, it's not like I'm a big guy, I could get seriously hurt. I have to try and break this habit, but I can't really explain how much this angers me. I won't date a girl that had a baby out of wedlock. I feel these guys are ruining ideal women that I could be dating. It makes it so much harder to find an ideal woman. How can I end this behavior? Anyone had issues like this before?

 

Very strange problem.

 

I think your brother's friend was exaggerating there....or he must not last very long.

[madjac74]

Sorry I just had sex with 11 women while I was reading your post. It must be true