The transition - lifting the OW status

[Mascara]

There's something not quite right here. I can't put my finger on it, but I've read the unfolding of this latest drama. I think it's to do with the 3am walk out followed by "they have their separate spaces in the house" and "they will share the house, but on alternate weeks".

 

It kinda feels like they're very slowly moving back towards each other. It just seems a bit off.

[Mascara]

I've found the whole thing a bit off. I'm worried that MM is a master deceiver. He could very well be leaving his wife. But I wonder is LGOW was his first affair - or if she'll be his last.

 

I'll tell you the way it feels to me

 

Furious argument

3am walkout

I'm never going back to her

She wants a divorce

I want a divorce

I'm looking for a place

She's got the appraiser

We've cooled down a bit

She's being ok now

Maybe I'll just stay while I'm looking for a place

If we divide the house up we can be "separate but together"

This is working really well

Maybe it's a waste of money to get my own place

It's her week to leave, but she's going to stay an extra few days

We're getting on fine still

My week to leave, seems a waste of money

Of course I'm still leaving, but we're getting on so this saves money

We hang out in the evenings, together, not in our separate rooms

Of course I'm still leaving

Of course I'm still leaving

Of course I'm still leaving

What do you mean I've been saying that for a year now?

[jlola]

I've found the whole thing a bit off. I'm worried that MM is a master deceiver. He could very well be leaving his wife. But I wonder is LGOW was his first affair - or if she'll be his last.

 

I doubt it's his first round in affairland too. People who take their affair partners around family and friends and brag to friends bout it are not new to the game. I think wife is finally done and has left the building for good!

 

She left quickly because she is sick of his games.

[jlola]

I'll tell you the way it feels to me

 

Furious argument

3am walkout

I'm never going back to her

She wants a divorce

I want a divorce

I'm looking for a place

She's got the appraiser

We've cooled down a bit

She's being ok now

Maybe I'll just stay while I'm looking for a place

If we divide the house up we can be "separate but together"

This is working really well

Maybe it's a waste of money to get my own place

It's her week to leave, but she's going to stay an extra few days

We're getting on fine still

My week to leave, seems a waste of money

Of course I'm still leaving, but we're getting on so this saves money

We hang out in the evenings, together, not in our separate rooms

Of course I'm still leaving

Of course I'm still leaving

Of course I'm still leaving

What do you mean I've been saying that for a year now?

 

He already has an apartment rented and furniture. So I think he is really leaving.

[Mascara]

Ok cool. Maybe it's not that then. Something doesn't add up though.

[AlwaysGrowing]

Oh something is up. His wife is done, done, done. The BS is a successful, independent, strong woman who leads a busy life and has no need of a man that spends hours polishing rocks for his mistress while she is left taking care of everything.

 

There are many men who are jealous of their wife's success. Double-edged sword for an educated woman. Luckily, there are just as many men who love not having to be "everything" to keep a woman happy. Who will let their woman shine in her success, and not try to knock her down because of it.

 

At least now, if OP STBXH comes over and there is violence, her MM won't have his STBXW as an excuse for his lack of action.

 

I am happy for the BS.

[jlola]

? What? In my world, "most people" usually let other people make their own decisions about their marriages, and do, in fact, "back them up" without trying to tell other grown adults what to do. If I had friends like the people you describe, I would get new friends, lol. I mean, what adults think it is their right to tell other people if they should or shouldn't divorce or who don't back up their friend's decisions? Unless they think their adult friends incapable of living their own lives?

 

Back up means "support" . Not control!

[LilGirlandOW]

We will see I suppose right?

 

More "action" were taken today to split things.

 

His W wasn't the only reason he was terrified that night, I just can't post it online, but I was told that posting it could lead to some better understanding, if things were to fall apart, I will definitely post that reason! it's real and had him in fear more than the BS finding out.

 

As far as meeting his family, no he hasn't brought around OOW to them, it's so hard to find a parallel explanation of how I know this, but I do.

 

As far as him lying to Nd cheating on me, that's a possibility in ANY relationship, I'll tell you one thing for damn sure, I'll never be his BS, no matter what excuses he were to concoct.

 

I agree the BS is a strong, independent career woman, good for her. I never said I was better, just different.

[Speakingofwhich]

I agree the BS is a strong, independent career woman, good for her. I never said I was better, just different.

 

Can't remember reading your writing anything negative about her, Lil. I would think your positive attitude toward her will go a long way toward making your future with MM and the kids the best it can be. And her lack of vengeful behavior (and drama) toward MM and you will bode well for her future with her kids and everyone she invites into her life, too! She seems to be a smart lady, as do you!

 

What is MM called now? BF?