Stealth3 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 If I email, text or call her again.... Theeeeeeee f guys? She said she will call the cops immediately if I ever go to her place again. All I did to get that threatment was sending an email saying I miss her a lot and if she wanted to go get lunch. I'm leaving out of state tomorrow and I figured I would try my best to reach her before I go. Guess I should have stuck to nc. I did respond promising she won't hear from me ever again. I'm done..... I don't understand how the f people go from loving you to treating you like ****. I never did anything to deserve that. She only started acting that cold once I found four she left me to date some other dude she's been talking to. And he ended up rejecting her due to age difference.... So she sort of cheated on me. Once she realized she can't be with him, she started acting like a total bitch to me when I would try to reach out to her. Link to post Share on other sites
crazybestie101 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 If I email, text or call her again.... Theeeeeeee f guys? She said she will call the cops immediately if I ever go to her place again. All I did to get that threatment was sending an email saying I miss her a lot and if she wanted to go get lunch. I'm leaving out of state tomorrow and I figured I would try my best to reach her before I go. Guess I should have stuck to nc. I did respond promising she won't hear from me ever again. I'm done..... I don't understand how the f people go from loving you to treating you like ****. I never did anything to deserve that. She only started acting that cold once I found four she left me to date some other dude she's been talking to. And he ended up rejecting her due to age difference.... So she sort of cheated on me. Once she realized she can't be with him, she started acting like a total bitch to me when I would try to reach out to her. DONT contact her, it will create trouble for you. I understand you miss her and all but unfortunately she cant see reality right now. I have heard " calling cops " story before , i am sure you dont want to get into such trouble. I think its testing moment for you to see kind of person she is . There is nothing much you can do then to go complete NC and move on. I know its hard but that only thing you can do right now .. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 I mean, I don't know what to say except stop contacting her. She overreacted, but you shouldn't have initiated anything. Just use this experience to stay NC. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 If I email, text or call her again.... Theeeeeeee f guys? She said she will call the cops immediately if I ever go to her place again. All I did to get that threatment was sending an email saying I miss her a lot and if she wanted to go get lunch. I'm leaving out of state tomorrow and I figured I would try my best to reach her before I go. Guess I should have stuck to nc. I did respond promising she won't hear from me ever again. So yeah, maybe she's overreacting. But I'm kinda laughing at you... She told you never to contact her again or she'd call the cops. So you contacted her so you could tell her that you wouldn't contact her again? Once it's already off the rails like that, wouldn't it be best just to stop immediately? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 I thought she wanted you back since her new relationship didnt work out? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 I hope you truly got the message this time and realize that you need to stop "trying". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Vinsanity1307 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 Hey man my ex dumped me through text after 5 years with no reason and everything appeared to be all and well a day prior... I showed up at her house after the text and she was doing the same thing...No decensy to even talk face to face. Kept threatening to call the police.. i know how you feel man.. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 What are you reaching out to her for anyway when she dumped you like a sack of potatoes the second someone else caught her eye? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 Why does it take getting threaten with the cops for guys to get the picture? It's been a running theme on here the last couple of months. You gonna take NC seriously now? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 OP- based on your previous posts, you believe that your actions are utterly justifiable and you are even shocked at her reactions and rejections. You need to get through your head that your ex is now a stranger and she is willing and ready to take action to contact the authorities and ultimately get you in trouble. This is survival man, it's either you or her who is it goin to be? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 Just do what she asked and stop talking to her. Trust me when I say you don't want to have to deal with cops. Look up the user "frederickkk" and you'll know why. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stealth3 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Share Posted October 17, 2013 Well I'm done with her. She contacted me saying she wants to talk but changed her mind after a few days saying she doesn't want to talk anymore. Probably after talking it over with her friends. Im done with her, its over. This is the last straw....from now on she is dead to me. I don't deserve to be treated like a criminal. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 Well I'm done with her. She contacted me saying she wants to talk but changed her mind after a few days saying she doesn't want to talk anymore. Probably after talking it over with her friends. Im done with her, its over. This is the last straw....from now on she is dead to me. I don't deserve to be treated like a criminal. Thank God. I was really hoping you wouldn't be one of those guys who wanted to drop by her house to explain why her getting a RO would be unfair to you, roses in hand. You're doing the right thing, man. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stealth3 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Share Posted October 17, 2013 Thanks for the support guys! It's like I don't even know this girl anymore. Guess that's how they are after they dump you. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 I don't deserve to be treated like a criminal. THIS!!!!! You are exactly right. You're not a criminal! You're just a guy that got dealt a raw deal. If a few weeks or even a few months go by and she happens to toss you a breadcrumb or two. IGNORE IT! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 Thanks for the support guys! It's like I don't even know this girl anymore. Guess that's how they are after they dump you. Hence why I keep saying, strangers. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 (edited) Thanks for the support guys! It's like I don't even know this girl anymore. Guess that's how they are after they dump you. Actually, I think we ever really knew them. Only what they chose to display to us. Scary thought, huh? I feel the same way. Did I even really know her? Did she even show me any of her true self? Ever? Doubtful!! Edited October 17, 2013 by mtnbiker3000 2 Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl3 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 Actually, I think we never ever really knew them. Only what they chose to display to us. Scary thought, huh? I feel the same way. Did I even really know her? Did she even show me any of her true self? Ever? Doubtful!! We can see a person true character by his behavior after break up! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 Actually, I think we ever really knew them. Only what they chose to display to us. Scary thought, huh? I feel the same way. Did I even really know her? Did she even show me any of her true self? Ever? Doubtful!! I *don't* think Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 We can see a person true character by his behavior after break up! Wonderful!! Link to post Share on other sites
aybc123 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 (edited) Interesting question: Girls, how many of you have had guys do this kind of thing to you after a breakup? I've read a lot of these stories on here, not all involving threats to call the cops, but you know refusing contact and acting in a cruel way. This one seems to be one of the more extreme overreactions if op is telling us everything but it seems extremely common for women to suddenly 'switch' and go from being extremely friendly/ in love/ sweet/ whatever to cold/ disdainful and cruel. So i'm wondering if guys do this too or if it's just a girl thing when they're the dumper. Im going through a similar thing now. In a relationship with seemingly the sweetest girl ever never said anything bad about anyone except if a guy hit on her and she was telling me she was grossed out or something to please me. Always trying to help people and putting herself out, lots of very close friends etc and always treated me frankly fantastically. Then when we break up it's like she turned into this other person or stopped seeing me as a human being became extremely cold and when I told her I still had feelings for her and was finding it hard to move on decided to cut me off completely without explanation (bear in mind we had previously broken up for a few months where I initiated it and when she said similar things to me, tearful calls at 2am, having a nervous breakdown over it etc I was always there for her and kind but firm just wanting to help her). I'm by no means a saint, infact im probably a bit of an ass, but i'd never want to hurt another person if i can help it, especially someone who used to mean the world to me and still meant something. So how do people that seem so kind and good act in such a way that is frankly, evil? I should note that I've actually been broken up with 4 times since I was 18 or so twice from girls who you would think may act cruelly (they were a bit bitchy/ opinionated/ harsh to people regularly) and twice by girls who were made entirely of sugar and spice, and both times the sweet girls have acted like bitches and the others have acted like decent respectful human beings. I find it very bizarre, i'm not sure how to interpret it. Edited October 17, 2013 by aybc123 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 I recall the last conversation I had with my ex, and keep in mind I was not harassing her in any way, she simply said: "from this point forward any communication coming from you will be forwarded to my therapist." That was my cue to leave her the hell alone as she was ready to take action against me. It was merely an affirmation and realization that my ex was now someone who had absolutely no problem causing me harm. Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 I actually dont get why they have to be strangers. I would keep contact with my ex bfs if im the dumper. that is , if they want to contact me. I would not contact them and give them false hope but if they are fine tuen I would not have a problem talking to them. ur gf is probably not a truely nice girl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
harrybrown Posted October 17, 2013 Share Posted October 17, 2013 Glad you are going NC. Keep the crazy lady out of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stealth3 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Share Posted October 17, 2013 She used to care so much for me and tell me she really likes me and loves me....then all of the sudden she changed into this. That's what makes it so hard...that's why I tried so much to reach her before, hoping to understand why her feelings changed so fast. I don't get it, maybe you're not suppose to get it..... I can't believe she said she wants to sit down and talk only to change her mind a few days later to I don't want to talk nor be with u....I'm calling the cops bs I'm moving out of state tomorrow, I hope things get better. Link to post Share on other sites
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