2sure Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 I didn't know there was an argument happening, I thought we were all just talking. Possibly pusuasively? So much is lost without inflection and facial expressions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodamnpragmatic Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 and not 50;), when it comes to infidelity. We don't know the whole story and I will happily lay the majority of the blame on the WS, however I want to make informed opinions and always want to know more details. I have read way too many (and usually it is men) write about their WS and how they had no hand in it and were 100% perfect spouses and yet they were cheated on. Nothing lives in a vacuum. What always bothered me is that they thought they had carte blanche because they were not the one to cheat. P&V is absolutely right if she wants a divorce (and she had been unhappy for a long time) to lay out her course of action as she has. That however doesn't mean I can't point out that she is vindictive and wants him to hurt like she does and her course of action is to take everything from him that they have built. As said her prerogative...... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
rumbleseat Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 It seems that to many ws and om/ow, if the bs and children suffer any pain because of their pursuit of happiness, it's acceptable, perhaps "collateral damage" . They didn't sit down and do it intentionally, but , in the final computation, that really doesn't matter. If the ws and ow in this situation feel pain, the perhaps it is just "collateral damage" from the OP taking back control of her life and making sure she is legally protected. Whatever steps they choose to take from here on in are up to them. The playing field has now been levelled,and they have the power to decide what do next. How they choose to handle that will be up to them. As for the ow's husband. I find I hard to pity her. The only one who has ruined her life is herself. At least her husband now has the information he will need to make informed choices about his life. As Martha Stewart would say "it's a good thing " 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Stellar Wench Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 Not to minimize the OP's experience, but threads like this one occur often with similar result. I recently read a thread on another infidelity site where a women who had been undergoing breast cancer treatment came into the office to change her insurance information. She proudly proclaimed that she had new and better health insurance, thanks to her POS husband. He cheated in her, and she took him to the cleaners. She was beyond thankful that she'd never have to worry about finances again. Same responses as here. Those who had suffered from infidelity were cheering her on and wishing her well. Others involved in infidelity were disgusted that she would make a public display. Her husband ran around on her while she was battling cancer, and she's the one who is disgusting? It's all about perspective. The OP of this thread has her own perspective. I reckon the perspectives of internet strangers isn't going to change that. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
rumbleseat Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 and not 50;), when it comes to infidelity. We don't know the whole story and I will happily lay the majority of the blame on the WS, however I want to make informed opinions and always want to know more details. I have read way too many (and usually it is men) write about their WS and how they had no hand in it and were 100% perfect spouses and yet they were cheated on. Nothing lives in a vacuum. What always bothered me is that they thought they had carte blanche because they were not the one to cheat. P&V is absolutely right if she wants a divorce (and she had been unhappy for a long time) to lay out her course of action as she has. That however doesn't mean I can't point out that she is vindictive and wants him to hurt like she does and her course of action is to take everything from him that they have built. As said her prerogative...... It's kind of funny you should say this. It seems that some people (not you) feel that her actions would be completely a-okay if she were a man. Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 Hmm, saw enough of the phrase 'mob mentality' to cause the desire to have Robert and I review the thread. In the meantime, I'll close this up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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