Tony T Posted January 13, 2001 Share Posted January 13, 2001 If you really love her, you should let her go. This girl is 17, even though one year older than you, she is still a child. She is still growing, learning, evolving, maturing, etc. She's not hardly ready to be tied down. Her early years, these years right now, are the only years of freedom she will ever have in her life...that is, freedom from paying bills, raising children, handling family business, working, nurturing a husband, dealing with all kinds of problems, helping her aging parents, worrying about taxes and retirement, worrying about teeth falling out, forming wrinkles, becoming overweight with age, other health problems, etc., etc. For God's sake, have some sense of compassion and generosity for this girl. Let her enjoy these years of freedom the way she wants. Let her do what she wants. Let her soul be free to roam in whatever direction she wants. And most of the above goes for you to. Be nice to yourself while you're young. In just six or seven years, you'll be in the rat race too and you'll never have these precious years of youth to enjoy...ever, ever again. The more freedom you give her, the greater the chances she will return to you. And if you give her no notion of needing to tie her down in any way, she very well may want to be with you forever. But nobody wants someone who seeks to take away the precious freedom they can never regain. If you don't let her go, she will bolt loose anyway and resent the hell out of you. She will not consider you even a friend if you don't care enough about her to let her be herself and enjoy her birthright, which is the freedom to grow in whatever direction she seeks. Does that put things in a better perspective for you? Link to post Share on other sites
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