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The advise on this site can be harsh and annoying but it doesn't make them less valid and true. If you will be one of the few that will take the advise then you would have been truly special. I know your ex type and the only thing that can make you appeal to her is if you go and calmly and resolutely tell her you are through with her and never want to hear from her again. Not with anger just calmly and wish her well and say gudnite.

 

You have been asking 4 advise on how to get her back; there I have given you the best. This will definitely get her back for a while. But u are obviously in no frame of mind to do that. So for God's sake she dumped you let her do the work of getting you back

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Probably right, but eventually there has to be someone who listens, right?

 

16 - 20 = No way

21 - 25 = Slight chance

26 - 30 = Maybe

31 - 35 = Hopefully

36 + = Probably

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BigGirlPantiesOn
The advise on this site can be harsh and annoying but it doesn't make them less valid and true. If you will be one of the few that will take the advise then you would have been truly special. I know your ex type and the only thing that can make you appeal to her is if you go and calmly and resolutely tell her you are through with her and never want to hear from her again. Not with anger just calmly and wish her well and say gudnite.

 

You have been asking 4 advise on how to get her back; there I have given you the best. This will definitely get her back for a while. But u are obviously in no frame of mind to do that. So for God's sake she dumped you let her do the work of getting you back

 

Most sound advice ever.

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The advise on this site can be harsh and annoying but it doesn't make them less valid and true. If you will be one of the few that will take the advise then you would have been truly special. I know your ex type and the only thing that can make you appeal to her is if you go and calmly and resolutely tell her you are through with her and never want to hear from her again. Not with anger just calmly and wish her well and say gudnite.

 

You have been asking 4 advise on how to get her back; there I have given you the best. This will definitely get her back for a while. But u are obviously in no frame of mind to do that. So for God's sake she dumped you let her do the work of getting you back

 

Bolded for truth.

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Omg please listen to all this advice!

 

You'll feel miserable after meeting her, it's blatantly obvious she doesn't care about you nor she loves you!! She's giving you the the chance to meet her because she probably doesn't have another guy right now and she is bored.

Plus you insisted so much!

Everyone has given great advice here, you are ignoring it. Tomorrow night you'll post here again, broken and miserable. 100%

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I'm meeting her tonight. Just a quick opinion from you all, would her wanting to talk dismiss the fact that she's seeing anyone right now. I was curious if she was dating, and she is talking to me, an ex.

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Just a quick opinion from you all, would her wanting to talk dismiss the fact that she's seeing anyone right now.

 

No. (10 Characters)

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I'm meeting her tonight. Just a quick opinion from you all, would her wanting to talk dismiss the fact that she's seeing anyone right now. I was curious if she was dating, and she is talking to me, an ex.

 

Absolutely not.

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I'm meeting her tonight. Just a quick opinion from you all, would her wanting to talk dismiss the fact that she's seeing anyone right now. I was curious if she was dating, and she is talking to me, an ex.

 

Not at all. And if you are hoping this, I think you are in the wrong mindset for the meeting.

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a little backstory with her, out of all her ex's I'm the only one who she keeps contact with. Everyone else has been cut off and she ignores completely. she told me she's using this time to heal because she's still hurting. I sure hope she's not in another relationship already.

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a little backstory with her, out of all her ex's I'm the only one who she keeps contact with. Everyone else has been cut off and she ignores completely. she told me she's using this time to heal because she's still hurting. I sure hope she's not in another relationship already.

 

None of that matters.

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Don't believe you are the exception, she is providing you with standard treatment. In any case, make the best of it tonight, see you soon.

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a little backstory with her, out of all her ex's I'm the only one who she keeps contact with.

 

Completely irrelevant.

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organizedchaos
a little backstory with her, out of all her ex's I'm the only one who she keeps contact with.

 

As far as you know.

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How do you know? Perused her phone? Stalked her Facebook?

 

This thing is going to be, as my friend would say, "balls deluxe". That's bad. It's so easy to lie about who you're in contact with these days - separate emails addresses, FB', etc...

 

 

she told me herself.

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Nothing will change for you until you learn the hardway.

 

You will be the master of your own undoing.

 

Fasten your seatbelt; you are being naive, and in for an interesting lesson.

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BigGirlPantiesOn

Hey people,

 

There is no need to be hateful to the OP because he isn't taking "your" advice, or seeing things "your" way. He is in a lot of pain and confusion...like YOU once were, or still are when dealing with YOUR loss.

 

Let him learn the way we all learn: through repetitive pain. We are here to shame or judge people....right?

 

Be a friend...a compassionate friend.

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Hey people,

 

There is no need to be hateful to the OP because he isn't taking "your" advice, or seeing things "your" way. He is in a lot of pain and confusion...like YOU once were, or still are when dealing with YOUR loss.

 

Let him learn the way we all learn: through repetitive pain. We are here to shame or judge people....right?

 

Be a friend...a compassionate friend.

 

Sometimes we need tough love, especially when we are trying to negotiate our feelings. We have a tendency to convince ourselves or rationalize behaviours to coincide with what we want, not necessarily what should be.

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'Tough love' shall be presented in a civil and respectful manner in compliance with our forum rules of interaction. Thanks!

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I'm meeting her tonight. Just a quick opinion from you all, would her wanting to talk dismiss the fact that she's seeing anyone right now. I was curious if she was dating, and she is talking to me, an ex.

 

She could be talking to you and at the back dating other guys (there are so many possibilities)

 

After reading through 8 pages, just puzzled me greatly what you really see in this girl. I guess love is really blind. I would really much prefer you spend quality time on yourself or in someone that deserves your love and attention (sorry to say, once the girl did such a thing to you, just not worth it in my opinion)

 

Anyway, since you are "really" meeting up with her to talk. My personal advice

* Don't expect anything out of the meet up

* Don't settle for anything first

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