is it OK to feel this way about my incarcerated mother?

[fmpro]

My mother is in jail for six months for a financial crime and I am her 14 year old daughter. It seems in movies or TV shows when a parent goes to jail the kid usually looks miserable and depressed but honestly I am not feeling this way. I actually feel totally normal. In fact I find this situation kind of unique and exciting. First off I want to make it clear I have no problem with my mother at all. Other than this misdeed she was a good mother but she will only be gone for six months, not years and years. I can handle that

 

 

Also, I am not going to lie I find it funny more than anything. Mom is the now the one in the punishment situation and is the one taking orders from others? That is kind of humorous. I even made some joking comments to her saying maybe you will understand how it feels when you punish me, maybe when you come back things might be different". My mom is not asking for any kind of pity party and it is clear she does not mind being self depreciating about this.

 

 

also, it feels kind of interesting to be connected to law enforcement. I kind of wanted to see this side of law enforcement and see how a jail looks like and works and this kind of gives an excuse to be able to see it.

 

hell even my dad said he hopes if I visit my mother there it will be an "educational experience". Also, I find it interesting he will have to do some things now my mom usually did, like go to parent teacher conferences and other things

 

 

so yeah it is clear I don't seem to feel like how others might feel about this. I also have no underlying issues with my mother at all. She is also not defending herself or asking for any sympathy or saying she should not serve her punishment so I still have no problem with her

 

also is this weird. I kind of feel more comfortable talking to her about things now. I don't know why

[Criticality]

LOL! You sound like a pretty awesome 14 year old!

 

And in the future, your ability to meet challenging circumstances that you cant change yourself with a good sense of humor, will become very useful. Trust me

 

It's probably going to be interesting for you to be more alone around the house for the time being, now that you only have one parent, right?

 

Just two words of advice: You think it's kinda funny, as do I, but I'm just some stranger on the Internet, so who cares what I think... But don't let it be known by too many people, don't talk about to more than your best friend if even that much. You don't want rumors to spread around this, just for the fact that teenagers, especially girls, can be awful and use something like this against you if you'd happen to "steal" a guy they like, or if they for some other ridiculous reason feel like starting a vendetta against you.

 

Oh, and do write your mom some letters, and let her know that you love her and doesn't judge or feel differently about her. I'm sure she'd appreciate that.

Edited October 18, 2013 by Criticality