are there women out there who left their children w/ dad?

[Owl]

No arguments from me on this Jangle...like I said repeatedly in my post...DON'T just take her back automatically. She really does need to start feeling what she's done. Otherwise, she's suffered no consequence from her actions, and she'll be open to doing something like this again.

 

I understand your point about them having had sex...and that is a key difference between your situation and mine. Perhaps what I should have made clearer is the very FIRST thing that needs to happen...you need to decide what YOU want in this situation. If you're willing to reconcile, then what I've suggested might make some sense. If you're ready to cut YOUR losses and end the marriage, then obviously that will take some other steps I don't know much about. Either way, no blame from me on your choices!!

 

As far as knowing your pain...I DO know it. I still live with my pain EVERY day...and it hurts more than anything else. I've told my wife that if she were to ever consider doing this again, at least have the decency to poison me first and get me out of the picture in a more humanitarian way! LOL

 

I think that you're right about her pain being due to the loss of EVERYTHING... Its no surprise. She HAS screwed up or lost everything due to this time of horrifically bad judgement. And she does need to understand that these changes may very well be permanent.

 

Its up to you on what YOU want out of this now... Good luck either way!

[k.j]

I am doing what you are having your problem thinking. This is my take on it. Call me crazy if you wish.

 

I moved back to my home to be with my kids after being away for 1 year, However within 5 months (not with dad) I can not stand this and it has really effected my kids. I am not happy because it is hard to find work out here for me so I am staying at home. I am deppressed because I feel alone (1 friend understands me)

 

As for my kids, They all 3 of them know that I am moving back in 2 weeks, they know that they will only be seeing me 2 timesa year plus they will be flying to me in the summer time. They are not happy with it but I talked to them and got them to understand that I am not happy, My youngest one is 9 I put it in a way that how happy he is with his friends and school, how he is use to living here and I am not. If you relate to the kids on there age level then they understand, My kids are from 9 to 15.

 

It is never eazy on this kids when one parent leaves, expecially us mothers but there are things you can do to stay close to your kids.

 

I write often, We talk on the net, (i made sure my kids have computers) We talk on the phone, I keep involved with the schools and the education, I show them that I still know what is happening with them, I show them my love, If I say that I am doing something I make sure that I do it. I always make sure that I am here on there birthdays.

 

Hope this works. and good luck