bentleychic Posted October 18, 2013 Share Posted October 18, 2013 (NOT trying to trigger any BS, but this may not be the best thread to read as a BS and I am NOT posting this as a debate/to be debated. Will alert the mods to close it if it turns that way.) I was just thinking about this in the thread about love. I'm not saying these prove he loves me (and I'm not asking anyone to verify or discredit that! LOL), but a couple things MM does that I love... MM has this HUGE smile that he gets that totally lights up his face when he sees me (even now, a year + in to it) that makes my heart melt b/c it is totally a "Gosh, I am SO in love with you!" expression. Also a certain way that he'll just keep kissing my forehead and cheeks and top of my head over and over again every few minutes or so when I'm cuddling up to him. (Not looking for anything, not intending to get intimate. Just sweet, affectionate kisses.) I know some consider talking about the future at all to be future faking, but I don't since I'm seeing the progression moving towards that. It makes my heart happy to have him bring something up about it, particularly in regards to something about my kids and things that he's looking forward to doing with them. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
yellowmaverick Posted October 18, 2013 Share Posted October 18, 2013 (NOT trying to trigger any BS, but this may not be the best thread to read as a BS and I am NOT posting this as a debate/to be debated. Will alert the mods to close it if it turns that way.) You're good, but thanks for caring enough to post the warning. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cozycottagelg Posted October 18, 2013 Share Posted October 18, 2013 I am so rooting for you. I have been since I first saw your posts. I really hope that all of this pays off for you. Do you look anything like Rapuntzel? It's totally how I picture you Link to post Share on other sites
Author bentleychic Posted October 18, 2013 Author Share Posted October 18, 2013 Not trying to start any BS, but, as I've said before, your threads often remind me of my affair. I know he didn't future fake but it still went south at the end. I'm hoping yours is different. I think you're prepared either way. That is good. I've been having a lot of "The future is out of my hands." aha moments lately. LOL I know that I could do something about the A now and change that dynamic (before anyone says that! ), but I just mean in a lot of aspects of my life, including work. We'll see. If nothing else, I've definitely learned a lot from this relationship I am so rooting for you. I have been since I first saw your posts. I really hope that all of this pays off for you. Do you look anything like Rapuntzel? It's totally how I picture you Aw, thank you. I have LONG hair, but not enough to let anyone climb up (other than perhaps a small gnome ) and not blonde. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted October 18, 2013 Share Posted October 18, 2013 Me and my AP are currently NC (as of what, yesterday? psh), but I'm not opposed to thinking about happy times right now... I think back to when we were kids, all the times in school when he would tease the crap out of me and I'd get so mad at him. He'd make sarcastic remarks at me and ohhhh the glares I would give him. Years later he told me he only did that stuff because it would either get a laugh out of me, or it would get him a piercing glare. That the look in my eyes, even when mad, drove him nuts. That I was adorable when I got all huffy. Telling me how I was the first girl that caught his eye on that first day of school. I was amused, I said "Really? But you were just a kid then, you were too young to be thinking about girls that way" - he told me I'd be surprised lol. Through the years we got closer as friends, and then I was transferred to a different school on the other side of town. We surprisingly grew even closer. Not a day would pass that we didn't spend hours talking. We were both in marching band in high school, and we were both the Drum Majors of our bands. Our schools were cross town rivals. I think our band mates were slightly appalled that the leaders of our rival bands were actually good friends. Our bands would both travel hours and hours to compete in mass competitions, and we'd always find each other. His band dressed in deep maroon, but him in white, I could always spot him. So many memories with him from those times in band. It's been almost 10 years now... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted October 18, 2013 Share Posted October 18, 2013 More recently some of the little things.. When he calls me sweetie or sweetheart. Because he's not doing it in a cutesy way, he does it in a sassy way with me. Like when I'd say something completely nonsensical and derpy and he just looks at me with this incredulous look, starts laughing, and says "Ok, sweetheart" - it's just a new way of teasing me, like the teasing he did back in our schooldays. And so I glare at him and give him my meanest tough girl face, and he laughs some more "Sweetie, I hope you know you're not scary in the slightest". I know We both know exactly what we're doing and why we're doing it. He teases, I glare, we banter and laugh and smile, and both our hearts go wild. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LilGirlandOW Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Like you Bentley, I love when he kisses my forehead when I'm in his arms with no motivation behind it. I love and appreciTe that he never spoke of our future together while he was actively involved with the BS, even now it's just reassurances that he wants me to remain his gf, and we've made future plans but nothing too serious. I appreciate that. I love the sweet names he calls me. I love when I try to wrestle him, and he beats me by tickling me in my most ticklish spots. I love when he plays with my hair I love that he loves his hand in mine or his arm around me, generally he always initiates it too His voice kills me, he sang neyo-let me love you to me before and I almost died in awe. I love how he's such a great dad, and son. I love how he's always so proud of me and encouraging. It makes me smile after a hard day work if I give him a back rub and he falls asleep then I can burrow in his arms and just take in his scent and warmth. And so many other things about him make me smile, so many other things I love about him 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Bentley, you really are a sweetheart. You don't need to worry about posting the things that make you happy in your relationship or apologize for it(it is so kind of you to always think of the BS's) All BS' should know they are in the OW/OM forum and it is about that side of the relationship. I think it is sweet the things he does. It is those little things that make you feel loved 2 Link to post Share on other sites
solostand Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 (edited) The way he looks at me in amazement sometimes and says "you remind me of a little kid the way you're sitting right now" The way he cups my chin with one hand. The way he has said several times when describing attractive women "she kinda reminds me of you, you know, hot, kinda crazy, with wild hair" (I can wild hair). The time he said there was a woman on the front page of the newspaper who looked like me. I looked and she was gorgeous! The way he said once "I've met a lot of women in my life but you - you make my blood boil." The way he always supports me in every thing I do. When I was not speaking to my son, I was whining about it in his truck, and he said "Look, let's just phone him right now. What's his number" as he starts dialing the truck phone. The way he calls me sweetie and sweetheart and Cleopatra and Miss Kitty. The sweet bashful smile he has when I tell him he is adorable. The way he slyly looks at me and asks "what kinda underwear ya got on?" The way he tells me every second time he sees me that he cherishes my company and does not want our relationship to be about sex only. The way he says I'm exciting. And, oddly, the way he tells me "You are the sweetest girl but I have no doubt you would stab someone in the heart if you had to." The way he likes it when I start talking in his accent. His accent was frowned upon by the society where we live but it is my roots too and I love that accent. The way he stands by me. When my cousin died, he came to the wake with me. After I was up all night comforting my son when his dog died, he came to be with me. Edited October 19, 2013 by solostand 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 That look in his eyes when he would look at me. A mix of passion, love, and awe. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
AutumnMoon Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 His smile is infectious.. I immediately am grinning ear to ear when he grins at me.. I love though that he always seems to pick up when I need to hear something and he always knows what I'm thinking. I used to wonder what he was doing and within a minute hear my phone beep and it was him.. We don't text as often now for a few reasons but still happens a lot .. I love when we talk about music those are probably my favourite conversations with him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cif Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Me and my AP are currently NC (as of what, yesterday? psh), but I'm not opposed to thinking about happy times right now... Don't lose hope.. he's already moving out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
solostand Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 :laugh::laugh: You are starving for validation and this guy knows how to provide validation to you. It is possible he loves me. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Isn't love always about validation? Link to post Share on other sites
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