peanutgallery Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 My husband has routinely gotten upset with me or our son if we spill something or dirty something. We have embraced that he is very particular. 2 weeks ago I accidentally spilled red wine. I cleaned it up in the middle of the night just minutes after I knocked it over. But the next morning use was cert angry that he felt I didn't do it well enough. Tonight our dog spilled my drink. We had both just nodded off. He was very angry with ME and said he was mostly angry because I said it was just a little bit.... And he felt it was more than that. He was livid the entire time picking it up and told me essentially I couldn't help him. I feel very hurt and sad... Punished like a child. Is this normal? Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Why keep asking the same questions about a man who uses and abuses you? You need to help yourself and throw him out! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Outsider77 Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Maybe he has OCD. I do, and things like this bother me. I don't really have a choice in the matter, I just am bothered by things. Either that, or the guys just a huge jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Criticality Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Well if you can't clean it to his high standard, then why bother trying at all? If he can't accept how you clean it, then the next time you spill something call him over. And explain that from now on, or until he can accept how you clean it without complaining, he is in charge of getting stains out of the carpet. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Sounds like my husband. I created a thread several years ago when we were dating that I spilled a drink on him and he shot me a dirty look and ran up the stairs to change his shirt. After that I learned he was an anal retentive neat freak. His anxiety is not about me...it's about him. It's hard to separate the two sometimes because his anxiety manifests in me. It's super annoying but I have just learned to adapt to it. If he is being super nasty about it I tell him that I am cleaning it and that I don't appreciate him speaking to me like that. He usually apologizes right away and he has made an effort to tone down his anility (if that's a word?) Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 If HE doesn't like the way you do it - he can DO IT himself!!! But you should not ALLOW him to make you feel bad so he feels better - that is NOT OK! Link to post Share on other sites
deathandtaxes Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Next time you spill something, accidentally 'spill' it in his lap. Sounds like a complete d-bag. Why do you subject yourself to this? Why do you put up with it? Does he offer to help? Link to post Share on other sites
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