Sunny4 Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Good morning, As so many others I am new to this forum. I came here to see how not alone I am. Yes, I am that "other woman". Please forgive me if I do not use the correct acronyms yet. I have been in a relationship with a MM for only 2 months now. But as so many in this situation it has been intense. It is like someone stepped on a gas pedal and we went from 0 to 90 in virtually no time. This past weekend he dropped off the radar and it had me very concerned. He does not live at home full time due to his job, about 400 miles away to be exact. At first I just texted as normal. Then when he didn't answer I called a couple of times. Still nothing. I became concerned that perhaps he had been injured or something (crazy I know) and was in a slight panic but I did not contact him for the remainder of the w/end. Yesterday I get a call that all is well. He was "freaked out" because of a change in his calling plan and thought his wife was checking on him. Turned out not to be the case but it has left me with a harsh reality check. He promised he would never leave me blowing in the wind and would respond to me....even if it was to say he didn't want to talk or couldn't, etc. I shudder to think how quickly he would sacrifice me should it ever come down to it. So why am I still pining for him??? What is wrong with me? I want to tell him that this is unacceptable and that I will not tolerate being ignored. But also am fully aware that in doing so the relationship could end. I know what I should do....any thoughts? Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Patrice Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Get ready for a long bumpy ride, if you don't cut it off. After two months, he goes off the radar? Expect that he will remain with his wife, no matter what he has told you. You are sacrificing your self respect, worrying about a man who is safely with his wife - while you wait and worry. It is a harbinger of things to come, and in the end you won't end up winning - this time should be spent on finding a man who is available to you at all hours of the day. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Lina114 Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Hi sunny! I don't think much good could come out of this. I mean I understand that you love this man and that it will be hard to let go but in the end he will always be with his wife. It seems as if he will just drop you and pick you up as he pleases, whenever he feels necessary. Try to find a man who can reciprocate your love. A man that you don't have to share. Link to post Share on other sites
AlwaysGrowing Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 So, what have you learned about your MM? What have you learned about what he would do if he was caught? Where/who would his "damage control" energy go to, if he was caught? You have been given a glimpse of the future. Only a glimpse. How did it make you feel? What do you think the full view will feel like? You know your answers. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Now he knows he CAN ignore you - and you won't leave him. You deserve an available man who makes YOU his priority! You know he had someone else he was paying more attention to - enough to ignore you - yet he thinks you need to be ok with being bumped way down the priority list when it suits his schedule. That sucks. He's married! He's probably got other, other women besides you! Anytime a guy pursues heavy from the beginning then slows down - there's good reasons - he's just not going to be honest with YOU - because if you knew - you wouldn't stay. Open your eyes - you are settling - get rid of him, he belongs to someone else. Look for a single guy - one who is honest! Never settle! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
unicorn farts Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Would it be acceptable for an unmarried boyfriend to treat you like this? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
cat Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 I know what I should do....any thoughts? Thank you. Run. Now. Before it goes any further. I am not kidding. Don't do it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Thought you were special, now you find out you're not really. Sweet words and promises, but you've witnessed the cold and harsh reality. Link to post Share on other sites
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