aarsky Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 Need an opinion please. Not sure if I should send this letter. Dear ******, Im writing this letter to say goodbye to you for now. I think for all thats happened between us, and as much as we try to maintain a friendship, I truly don't think it's possible right now. You have goals that you hgave set for yourself, which i really admire, and you have other priorirties in your life which are very important to you from what isee over and over. I had this theory about whats going on in your life right now, but i will keep it to myself, for if I am wrong, youd hate me for telling you, and if im right then i think it would be too hard for me to find out anyway. You were rioght about me when you said id become somewhat obssesive about you, but i guess i thought over time maybe youd miuss me and it hasnt turned out that way. Believe me, with how busy you are in your life, its not something you should be concerned about anyway, but i had to do this for me, because I love you so much and the rejection feeling is all around me. I ask you to do things, even if only as a friend, and always get a maybe response, and im starting to feel more of a distant feeling from you. For now, it's just time to move onand focus on my life and getting back on track. Not a day goes by where I dont think about all the fun times we had. I kkep thinking about what you said about no one knowing what the future holds, but for now the present is here and fotr how hard as it is, I can start to move on only if i put you out of my mind. In the last few months, all Ive tried to do is help you out, but you dont want it. I know I still have the occassional out burst, but its just a little jealousy of not being able to do the things we used to doand knowing there are all these others in your life that you do them with. I have felt for a long time anyway that Im not part of your life anymore. Dont get me wrong, as I know I caused alot of the **** that made you feel thisd way, but some people can change for the better whether you choose to belive it or not. So, for now, Im saying goodbye, and that I will always love you and there is a special place for you in my heart. To send it or not to send it.\ Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 Nope. Just keep it for yourself. I hope you don't take this the wrong way (but to be fair, I don't see how you wouldn't) but your letter makes you sound really pathetic. And it's pretty clear from what you've written that the love in your relationship is pretty clearly one-sided--your end being the heavy. At least keep it for a few weeks before you decide what to do. Trust me - after some time has gone by and you have some distance from the situation you'll be glad you didn't add more pain to your hurt feelings. Because there's no real way to respond to that letter, so if you're expecting anything much, you're going to be disappointed. It's only going to give YOU closure to send it. So keep it for yourself. That's my advice. (I hope you aren't hurt about the pathetic remark. I've definately been there, if that means anything to you.) Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 First - spell check before you send it. There are so many errors. Second - What's the purpose of sending it? It's not a very "nice" letter. You are somewhat accusatory and condescending in tone. If I got this letter I'd be a little perturbed. If you want to get one last jab in before leaving then send it. If not, then I would change it up a bit before you send it. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 NO don't send it. Obviously he is all good with being broke up... he already knows you love him and care about him... this letter won't change his mind or make him realize he's being a jackass... Don't say anything more. Leave him alone and DO what you've said in your letter.. get your life back on track for you. Hang in there Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 Obviously he is all good with being broke up... he already knows you love him and care about him... this letter won't change his mind or make him realize he's being a jackass... Don't say anything more. Leave him alone and DO what you've said in your letter.. get your life back on track for you. Hang in there I think it's a "He" sending it to a "She" considering the way it's written. I don't know. Maybe I'm wrong, but the style and the language used seems masculine to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aarsky Posted December 9, 2004 Author Share Posted December 9, 2004 Yes I am a male. I know the spelling is lousy but i was typing fast. Your remark about holding on to it is advise I got from someone else as well. I know it would only hurt to send it and open old wounds, so I'll hang on to it for now and read it to myself occassionally. I just wish i knew how she felt. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 There is no point or purpose. Don't send it -- you've vented your feelings on paper, let that be your closure. Move on and be happy in your life. It's over and wondering how she feels or felt is not productive to your own healing process. Focus on your self and what YOU want for yourself, and from yourself, in future relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 hand write the note, then read it over and over until memorized... then burn it and throw out the ashes Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 Originally posted by Pocky I think it's a "He" sending it to a "She" considering the way it's written. I don't know. Maybe I'm wrong, but the style and the language used seems masculine to me. Sorry my bad.. change it to She.. Other than that.. my 2 cents stands Link to post Share on other sites
bigacesteve Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 Don't send it mate. Put it up somewhere and read it in a few weeks time; hopefully you'll read it and think "thank ***** I didn't send that!" I've written stuff in the past; I'd have a think about it and then I'd just leave it in a bottom drawer. Everytime I've come back to read what I wrote I'm glad I didn't send it; just binned it. Link to post Share on other sites
xxsilverdragonxx Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 Originally posted by magda Because there's no real way to respond to that letter, so if you're expecting anything much, you're going to be disappointed. (I hope you aren't hurt about the pathetic remark. I've definately been there, if that means anything to you.) This rings true man. I've been thinking about writing my ex a letter, but the more I thought about the actual purpose and more-than-likely outcome, as in no change, I thought it probably would do me better with no to the letter. Right on. My thoughts: More-Than-Likely she won't change after reading it. And since you don't leave a opening for her, she won't respond. If you want to get her something, go pick out a nice card and send it to her for christmas. Link to post Share on other sites
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