A cure for shortness?

[bob the brave]

I am 5'9" tall. Not tall, but not short.

 

I have got along well with some girls and then have them ask my height. After I tell them, I can see a disapointing look, funny like they are really sad. It's like their thinking, 'Damn, I liked this guy, that's just a shame.' After theat they are distant.

 

I am a guy who likes people, relationships. Sex is a part, but only a part. I like the meeting of minds and hearts, the sharing of experiencing life. I don't use people to please myself or stroke my ego. When I am with a girl, I want to please her, to make her happy, to help her in achieving her goals and just enjoying life.

 

When I get this look, I know I can never do this, no matter what else I do. It saddens me - the loss for us both. I can only imagine how it must be for truely short guys.

 

Is there no magic to remove this curse? And please do't tell me confidense, they really dosen't work. Take the same exact words, personality and style from two guys, one tall, one short. The tall guy will be preceived as confident, the short guy as annoyingly agressive.

 

I want to know for certain. Because if there is no cure, I would like to give in and learn to enjoy life alone and quit agrivating myself and women.

[Assasda]

You obviously dont know what confidence is. Confidence comes from inside

 

By the way 5'9 is not short at all.

I'm going to assume that youre in the USA. The average height is 5'9 - So you are 100% normal - I guess you have a problem with being normal.

 

Your other problem is, if you have a problem with your height, then other people will have a problem with it, because people can sense your self-consciousness about it

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

I am 5'9" tall. Not tall, but not short.

 

I have got along well with some girls and then have them ask my height. After I tell them, I can see a disapointing look, funny like they are really sad. It's like their thinking, 'Damn, I liked this guy, that's just a shame.' After theat they are distant.

 

I'm 5'6 (actually short) and have never had a girl ask me my height outright and make it so obvious they're shooting me down because of it.

 

When I get this look, I know I can never do this, no matter what else I do. It saddens me - the loss for us both. I can only imagine how it must be for truely short guys.

 

It's really not that bad.

 

Is there no magic to remove this curse? And please do't tell me confidense, they really dosen't work. Take the same exact words, personality and style from two guys, one tall, one short. The tall guy will be preceived as confident, the short guy as annoyingly agressive.

 

This isn't true either. I'm generally perceived as confident and I'm well-liked at my work.

 

There are two guys at my work that are not well-liked. One is easily over 6 feet and the other is shorter than me. Both have aggressive personalities and both are looked at as a-holes.

 

I do agree that height can matter in dating, but, in anything else, it really doesn't.

 

I want to know for certain. Because if there is no cure, I would like to give in and learn to enjoy life alone and quit agrivating myself and women.

 

You aren't even short though. If you're gonna be insecure about something, at least be insecure about something that you are actually lacking.

[crederer]

lol wow sorry man this is rally a self loathing thread.

 

I'm 5'10", so basically the same height as you. They're looking right at you when you talk to them, so I seriously doubt they're disappointed when you put your height into words. That really doesn't even make sense.

[melell]

You are being insane about this.

 

I am a decent looking girl and I couldn't care less about height or size. I have been out with a guy who was 5'7 and I thought he was the most attractive guy i'd ever met, he didn't care about what anyone thought of him and I loved that.

 

Also been on a few dates with a guy who was 6'2, played basket ball, he was good looking and had an ego because of sport and height HUGE turn off.

 

Don't let the common ideas about what is attractive, and what isn't, effect how you see yourself!

[FitChick]

The cure for shortness is to become very, very rich. No one will care how tall you are or aren't. That's why there are so many rich and powerful short people. It's called a Napoleon Complex. The Mayor of NYC, billionaire Michael Bloomberg, is 5'8."

[crederer]

5'8" is short now? Not tall but if I saw a guy 5'8" I wouldn't think short. I'd think average.

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

The cure for shortness is to become very, very rich. No one will care how tall you are or aren't. That's why there are so many rich and powerful short people. It's called a Napoleon Complex. The Mayor of NYC, billionaire Michael Bloomberg, is 5'8."

 

This is stupid.

 

The cure for shortness is not giving a sh*t about it.

[almond]

Some guys prefer blondes. As a brunette, if a guy were to pass on me purely because of that, then I definitely wouldn't be bothered - we are what we are.

 

Different women will have different preferences, as do men when it comes to superficial things such as height and other physical characteristics.

 

If your average height is a deal breaker for some women, then I suggest that you consider yourself lucky that they've taken a pass on you. You say you care about the deeper aspects of human relationships - I imagine that someone superficial enough to walk away once they hear your height in feet and inches wouldn't be a good match for you anyway.

 

Work on your insecurities.

[skydiveaddict]

I am 5'9" tall. Not tall, but not short.

 

 

What the hell. You're good to roll. Do these girls carry tape measures in their purses?