Author EC Posted December 12, 2004 Author Share Posted December 12, 2004 Well, this weekend is going very sour with him and I..... I mean I'm trying to act like nothing is wrong and yet something just seems very wrong. I have a huge feeling something is wrong. We were even alone together last night after two weeks of not seeing eachother ans we slept in the same bed and he didnt even try anything? no nookie man, you know thats a problem. But I'm typing quickly because hes downstairs. Theres sooo much more. Even my friend liz said from her observations..she asked if we were ok and I said perfect why? and she said because we looked like two friends now that kiss occasionally? I dunno wassup I wish i could just find out so that I know im not going crazy... Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd Well, this weekend is going very sour with him and I..... I mean I'm trying to act like nothing is wrong and yet something just seems very wrong. I have a huge feeling something is wrong. We were even alone together last night after two weeks of not seeing eachother ans we slept in the same bed and he didnt even try anything? no nookie man, you know thats a problem. But I'm typing quickly because hes downstairs. Theres sooo much more. Even my friend liz said from her observations..she asked if we were ok and I said perfect why? and she said because we looked like two friends now that kiss occasionally? I dunno wassup I wish i could just find out so that I know im not going crazy... EC.. you guys have been together for quite some time.. you've talked about a future together.. DON'T shut down now. IF there is going to be a future together, then you've got to be comfortable enough to have a conversation with him about whats going on.. feel safe enough to say how you're feeling.. talk to him sweetie or this is going to eat the both of you up. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 Well hopefully there is a good reason for the way he is acting. Keep us posted EC. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 You really do need to talk about this. Be prepared for bad news, though there might be some other explanation. It's useless trying to second-guess all this. Come right out and tell him you feel something's different and ask what's up. Link to post Share on other sites
tgrace Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 I'm throwing in my two cents because this all looks so familiar to what just happened to me. My bf and I were having a long distance relationship that wasn't pleasant but seemed to be working. He had a lot of contact with an ex girlfriend which made me uncomfortable most of the time. He seems to make more friends with women and seems to keep his ex's as friends. In fact, he recently found a girl he was friends with in high school so they started talking again, catching up on 18 years of time spent apart, etc. Anyway, I went over for a visit the beginning of October and I could also sense things weren't quite the same, but I couldn't put my finger on it. Sure we had that comfort level because we'd been together for 15 months and even lived together for 6 months of that before he left for school. We were getting along fine, but, for not seeing me for 3 or 4 weeks, I would have expected more. Finally, on my last day there, I told him I sensed some kind of wall and I was worried. He told me we were fine and he wasn't sure what I was picking up on. Five weeks after the visit, he made a visit to my house, we had an awesome weekend, nothing was out of place. The day after he went back home, he told me that he's thought a lot after my visit and decided that he loves me, but he's not in love with me and never really thought he was. He wants to remain friends with me and still calls. Go figure, after a lot of talking through this over the next couple weeks, he got a proposition from the girl from high school to start dating and that's what he's moved on to now. It has only been 4 weeks from the time he told me it was over to him currently staying at her house over Christmas break. The point of this is......go with your gut. Sure, there may be nothing going on and it could have just been a fluke day for you. And, certainly, I had been sensing some walls for about a month before I said anything to him. But, your instincts are pretty informative if you listen to them. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted December 13, 2004 Author Share Posted December 13, 2004 So I finally got my apartment and I am so happy. And not even my issues with him could have ruined my day yesterday. We want to close by the 28th so that I could move in by January. I can't wait. But my roommate sat down and was talking to my bf about how she's worried that because I'm such a good person and I have a good heart that I will let my mom and brother keep taking advantage and that she's worried because she doesn't want me to give my mom money and then not have for rent....but I'm grown I know this.... So last night he drove me home and it was a half hour drive and he gave me the speech on that. Then he told me that he loved me and that I was so special and he was never going to find anyone with a heart as big as mine but that I had to toughen up a bit. Then he told me how happy he was I was moving out and that he finally is going to transfer to that college closer to me..( and not the one in that hoes city) hes transferring to one right next to my new apartment!!!! and getting his apartment with his brother. So I was so happy. Then we rented movies and went to my house. We started the movie but were all over each other before it even started. lol FINALLY!! But I'm still apprehensive...I know what I feel and when I feel it...and I had definitely noticed something wrong and my roommate did as well. But now he's back to normal. So lets see. I was planning to talk to him about it all last night but then he told me all that stuff and the night was so perfect I didn't want to ruin it. But I still plan to talk to him about everything. I'm just waiting for the right time. But it has to be soon because he only has three weeks here. Link to post Share on other sites
hugznkisses21 Posted December 13, 2004 Share Posted December 13, 2004 honestly.....it may have been a bad day or two or what not...men are bazar creatures.....i have the same issue as u check our my threat about being confussed. My bf does this in spurts every now and then when he has lots on his mind, is stressed, and stuff....then goes back to normal when he is ok and things are sorted in his head...thats how some men r i guess but the baest thing u can do is talk to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted December 13, 2004 Author Share Posted December 13, 2004 Thanx Hugs.....I know. He did have a lot on his mind and was really stressed. About not having money for Christmas presents and a job interview he has today. And I was stressed as well. I mean that can excuse his behavior these past days but I can't ignore the other things like wanting to leave early, and the ex factor. Some things just don't match up. But I will talk to him..waiting for the right time. Lol this is so hard. And then I always choke up when I want to talk to him so everything comes out all dumb and I mumble and confuse us both. lol but I hopefully will get this right. Thank YOU! Link to post Share on other sites
hugznkisses21 Posted December 13, 2004 Share Posted December 13, 2004 when i know im going to be like that i will write him a letter...it sounds gay...butwrite on in your writing not typed and belive it or not they do read it a couple of times and keep it. MY man is a guys guys and is sooo worried about his man ego including saying i love u in front of one of his guy friends BUT when i write him a letter he always calls and initiate a discussion on it. Try it...u can correct it, read it over and say things how U WANT then to come out....so u arent stumbling over your words....right now i am going through something liek u with long distance, insecurities, and my man distancing himself doesnt help it kind is the icing on the cake and puts u over the top like ok now forsure something is up. Look at my post in the sexual board.....im overreacting (because of his stress and distance because he is fighting with his parents and is without a car) speak of the devil he just called....anyways back to what i was saying ya i overreact and im thinking i have an std and thinking its cause he is cheating...but he hasnt giving me any reason to not trust him...u have to think has he? I can help u get through this cause i am right where u are minus a couple or hours in distance with my bf.....but right now your confussion is teh cnfussion i have too Link to post Share on other sites
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