Lost_Dragon Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 I thought it would be fun to share some bad qualities about my ex that I use to remind myself that I'm better off. She is not happy with herself. Keeps changing her appearance. Getting more trashy than classy. She needs constant attention from insignificant people on social media and thinks she is popular from it. She is a loud talker. To the point that her voice will make you insane. Even in another room. On top of that she gets told all the time she sounds like a man. Which I agree. She thinks that making crazy faces is funny and won't stop until you laugh at one. In reality it scared the hell out of me. She is very snoopy. Internet history, friends lists, FB activity, ETC. Needs to check them constantly. She rocks when she is sitting. Made me seasick all the time. She knows she does it but does anyway. Brittle hair, slight balding. Scared to run my fingers through her hair because I would pull more out. If sex took too long she would say I wasn't attracted to her. Constant low self esteem. Very childish and never an intelligent conversation. Every Christmas she would always try to figure out who was getting what and ruining surprises. She had flaky skin and never used lotion. Bit her fingernails and skin off and spit it out all the time. Gross. She stopped that but I still remember it. Used way too much toilet paper and clogged the toilet many times. Listened to the same song over and over and over and over forever. Worried about everyone's issues except her own. Used deodorant under her tatas and wondered why she was getting nasty sores under there.. Always very uptight and said the same things during sex. Didn't want me to see her nude. After 10 years? So much more but now its making me angry to think about it more. That's progress. Keep reminding yourself why it wasn't meant to be and eventually you'll be so repulsed that you will not think of them at all. Or at least be able to process it faster and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
mikejensen3355 Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Nothing. She was perfect in every way. Yeah, rough morning for me. Weird because I felt better yesterday and was actually telling other people that they'll get through it. Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Just that he wouldnt do the type of things i did for him back. He would bite his toe nails or pick his nose and do a roll flick I didnt care when he did it at his house but at mine I refused it to happen. He could fart while he ate, Gross. His ideals of how family, friendship and love works would drove me nuts since he's in a verbally abusive selfish family. Other than that I really liked him. Link to post Share on other sites
im_thedude Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Honestly, I can't think of any little things about my ex that had annoyed me when we were together. It was more like a few key character traits of hers that consistently gave me problems. Link to post Share on other sites
Transplant Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Well, she was way more attractive than me...so that sucks Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lost_Dragon Posted October 23, 2013 Author Share Posted October 23, 2013 Nothing. She was perfect in every way. Yeah, rough morning for me. Weird because I felt better yesterday and was actually telling other people that they'll get through it. Nobody is perfect. You must love someones imperfections as well as the good things. You will get through it! Sometimes the pain is there to remind us we still have a heart. That's how you know you still own your heart, because it hurts so damn much. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lost_Dragon Posted October 23, 2013 Author Share Posted October 23, 2013 Well, she was way more attractive than me...so that sucks That annoyed you? Was it other guys attention? Or you felt unworthy? Never put yourself down like that. The door swings both ways when being superficial. Your either too good or not good enough. We all have the same beautiful/ugly problems on the inside. Selfish both ways. If you were unhappy with yourself then how do expect to make someone else happy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lost_Dragon Posted October 23, 2013 Author Share Posted October 23, 2013 Just that he wouldnt do the type of things i did for him back. He would bite his toe nails or pick his nose and do a roll flick I didnt care when he did it at his house but at mine I refused it to happen. He could fart while he ate, Gross. His ideals of how family, friendship and love works would drove me nuts since he's in a verbally abusive selfish family. Other than that I really liked him. HAHAHAHAHA! Thank you for my first REAL laugh today! I needed that more than I thought. Sorry it didn't work out for you That is why we are all here.. Sad but it helps to have some support without paying for it out of pocket. This site has helped me in leaps and bounds. I don't even watch tv or play video games bc I'm addicted to reading all these stories. THANK YOU LOVESHACK!! <3 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 I have too many to list but I'll go with the annoying ones. I'd come home from working a 10 her day ( she worked two seperate 3 hour shifts ) and the second I walked through the door she would say " let's go here, or let's go there, I'm bored and I want to go out " I'd respond with but babe I just got home and I want to relax. She saw this as me some how neglecting her feelings. Total BS. she would have to get up for work an hour before me. She would get out of bed, turn off my fan ( instantly waking me up, I need the white noise ) and proceed to very VERY loudly get ready. Slamming doors and drawers. She would take one shirt out of the dresser, put it on, look in the mirror, take it off and throw it in the floor, and do it all over again about 5 times purdah. I cleaned my room 3 days in a row just to come home to it with clothes all over the floor. Selfish bitch. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Blastoplast Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 She was a flake Financially unstable Bitched at ME about stupid **** Couldn't cook Didn't appreciate anything I did for her Owes me nearly $10k Left a mess everywhere I could go on and on forever 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pinkie Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 multiple personalities, ocd, adhd, bipolar, negative outlook on life, controlling, afraid of everything, paranoid, lack of social skills, lack of empathy, disrespectful, narcissistic, addictions, little man syndrome. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Transplant Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Oh no, it really wasn't that - that was my sheepish way of trying to find something about her that truly bothered me. Of course I enjoyed her attractiveness and in no way did I feel 'sub-par' in this regard. We met each other 8 years ago when I was modeling. I moved to England for school and when we finally got rid of all the distance, it couldn't work in her eyes. I'm heartbroken, of course, but I can't complain too much; our happiness wasn't dependent on one another, it was only magnified when we were together but that changed for her. I don't like her decision to have ended things but I have to respect them...she's a hell of a girl and she's going to make some guy very happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lost_Dragon Posted October 23, 2013 Author Share Posted October 23, 2013 I have too many to list but I'll go with the annoying ones. I'd come home from working a 10 her day ( she worked two seperate 3 hour shifts ) and the second I walked through the door she would say " let's go here, or let's go there, I'm bored and I want to go out " I'd respond with but babe I just got home and I want to relax. She saw this as me some how neglecting her feelings. Total BS. she would have to get up for work an hour before me. She would get out of bed, turn off my fan ( instantly waking me up, I need the white noise ) and proceed to very VERY loudly get ready. Slamming doors and drawers. She would take one shirt out of the dresser, put it on, look in the mirror, take it off and throw it in the floor, and do it all over again about 5 times purdah. I cleaned my room 3 days in a row just to come home to it with clothes all over the floor. Selfish bitch. I never put up with that kind of crap man. Sleep is very important to me because I have insomnia and other issues that make it tough for me to sleep. So when I get that gem interrupted, I snap! It doesn't matter if it was Mother Theresa, I would of cursed her out and made sure she feared waking me up due to her ignorance. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lost_Dragon Posted October 23, 2013 Author Share Posted October 23, 2013 I recall also coming home from a tiring day of work and still cooking and cleaning even though she was there the whole time I was gone.. I was a doormat in that regard but she seemed worth it at the time and I was a clean freak. Also I like to cook. She would always try to cook for me but just stand there and ask me if she was doing it right.. ITS A FRIED EGG FFS!!! LMAO!!! Link to post Share on other sites
LuvsTrucks2 Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 I probably didn't think these things were annoying while in the relationship, but I have had plenty of time to be able to list a few: Lazy - overall, just lazy. Biting your nails down to the meat. Lack of ambition. Anti social. Smelling of cigarette smoke. Didn't really bother me until towards the end of the relationship and now since he is smoking more than 2 packs per day. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
AnyaNova Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Blaming me for certain particular lack-of-autonomic-responses on his part (which btw in case any of you are wondering, a male friend of mine saw me in one of the sundresses I was wearing on one of our dates in which that happened after we broke up--this friend knew about this issue in our relationship--and emphatically exclaimed that "You were wearing that dress? If he couldn't (fill in the blank however non-crudely or crudely you wish to) for you in that, that was all his problem!" To be a little fair to my ex, the poor guy hadn't had a relationship since high school before me, otherwise I would have dumped him on the spot for that. He never seemed very confident out in public. On the day of the breakup, he never even said, "I'm breaking up with you," or "It's over," or "We're through." He never said that. I mean, it was obvious from what he said, but he didn't have the chutzpah to clearly articulate what was actually happening. It took him so long to make a decision. Way too centered around what his parents thought of him. Way too unable to either figure out what he wanted and needed apart from what others thought he should, or way too unable to act on them if they were both societally acceptable and contradictory to what others wanted. After his mother knew we were a couple, she still called on Saturday night, our date night. He always seemed stiff at the beginning of our times together, as if he were somehow afraid that I would have stopped liking him since the last time we saw each other. Just a few, I guess. It is unfortunately true that the farther you get from it, the harder time you have remembering the bad stuff, or the stuff that annoyed you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 His flakiness. I don't think I will ever meet someone as flaky as my ex. Whenever I feel depressed I start remembering how flaky he was. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lost_Dragon Posted October 23, 2013 Author Share Posted October 23, 2013 Blaming me for certain particular lack-of-autonomic-responses on his part (which btw in case any of you are wondering, a male friend of mine saw me in one of the sundresses I was wearing on one of our dates in which that happened after we broke up--this friend knew about this issue in our relationship--and emphatically exclaimed that "You were wearing that dress? If he couldn't (fill in the blank however non-crudely or crudely you wish to) for you in that, that was all his problem!" To be a little fair to my ex, the poor guy hadn't had a relationship since high school before me, otherwise I would have dumped him on the spot for that. He never seemed very confident out in public. On the day of the breakup, he never even said, "I'm breaking up with you," or "It's over," or "We're through." He never said that. I mean, it was obvious from what he said, but he didn't have the chutzpah to clearly articulate what was actually happening. It took him so long to make a decision. Way too centered around what his parents thought of him. Way too unable to either figure out what he wanted and needed apart from what others thought he should, or way too unable to act on them if they were both societally acceptable and contradictory to what others wanted. After his mother knew we were a couple, she still called on Saturday night, our date night. He always seemed stiff at the beginning of our times together, as if he were somehow afraid that I would have stopped liking him since the last time we saw each other. Just a few, I guess. It is unfortunately true that the farther you get from it, the harder time you have remembering the bad stuff, or the stuff that annoyed you. It is good to forget the bad things. As long as you have moved on, otherwise you will forget them and focus the good. I use these as a tool to help me through it. It is hard to let go of all of it, good and bad. I feel like a new person now because these things are in the past and I'm free to do what I want without having to explain everything I did to my ex. It was always give give give. Always waiting for her turn to speak, even if I paused mid sentence she would start going on about what she wanted to talk about. I would say FK it and just give up. Another thing that just came to mind about her. Her cutesy baby talk to me and our cats. For example: It wasn't "I love you" It was "I LUB LOO" or she would call our cat a "beautiful queen" but sounded like "Bootiful Keen".. When I would make her food and give it to her she would say "NUMMIES!" But in the end I was told that I was the one who needed to "grow up". Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 I'm really past the anger and what annoyed me about her phase. It worked for I while, made be feel like I was to good for her, but in reality we all have our faults and I had as much responsibility for being in the relationship as her. Link to post Share on other sites
JustaRegularGuyZ Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Well, lets play this game then. I will include mine as well that she hated. But I Loved her for all of her imperfections, yet she couldn't coop with mine. Her's: * She was super messy (Never cleaned her room, layers of dust, never washed dishes) * She couldn't control her voice in public places when she discussed gross stuff (like all of her vet clinic stories) - I loved the stories though. * Awful self-esteem even after 6 years, she couldn't stand infront of the mirrow and say she was pretty * Zero imagination, was a dead fish in the bed * Loved to "get" but couldn't understand why she should "give" * Couldn't control her drinking when she was out with her friends so I would end up picked her up smashed everytime. * Could never accept arguments to ber her fault or take any criticism, she would just start yelling and crying * Would talk **** about Religion and God. I respected her opinion but not when was saying her opinion on the bus. * Could never make good friends so I had to introduce her to all of mine Mine's: * She hated me cracking my knuckles * She hated when I would spit outside * She hated when I would blow my nose in the sink * She hated when I'd keep the sit up * She hated that I had a religion, which I have never forced and even made an agreement never to discuss religion. * She hated that I wasn't White-White (that I wasn't brought up in Western culture) * She hated when I would get extremely angry at stupid things when i'm wasted (I did get over the top) * She hated me for never moving out together. (I am emberassed about it and It IS my fault) * She hated that I didn't drive (I made too many excuses and always stalled. Trust me, I hate myself for things that I could've worked on) * She hated that I had 2 rabbits and could never understand why such a guy would Love rabbits. Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 (edited) Alright, I'll play. Hers: * She was often moody for our only date night once per week * She is a tax accountant and often works 7 days per week with little to no time to date * Was often quick with me and complained I never listened * Told me she felt jaded because her ex husband abandoned her * She rarely came to my house, always had an excuse (her kid), I drove every week to her place 50 miles away (she came over twice in 9 months this year) * Didn't greet me when I came over to her place, just opened the door * She showed up way too late for a pro football game once I paid $300 for tix, missed game * She never invited me to much that she was doing her cop out response was "feel free to come to anything me and my son do" so I couldn't complain * She loved horses and arranged a ride with seven of her friends, didn't invite me. But she invited her sister's new boyfriend of two weeks, we had been dating over a year! * I bought her a nice watch for her birthday and her response was "I already have a watch, why did you buy me another one?" And she had an STD and an convicted convict ex husband who was her son's father to boot. And I dated her why? Good riddance. Edited October 23, 2013 by ponchsox Link to post Share on other sites
TylerDurdenn Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 No conversational skills Worried about how she looked People watched Constant negative views on situations Boring Took ages to get ready Not very clever Constant panic attacks when she's a passenger in my car Lazy Boring Secretive Kept everything bottled up - for no reason No ambition Rubbish job Would complains she was bored but never wanted to go out Disliked my friends Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Alright, I'll play. Hers: * She was often moody for our only date night once per week * She is a tax accountant and often works 7 days per week with little to no time to date * Was often quick with me and complained I never listened * Told me she felt jaded because her ex husband abandoned her * She rarely came to my house, always had an excuse (her kid), I drove every week to her place 50 miles away (she came over twice in 9 months this year) * Didn't greet me when I came over to her place, just opened the door * She showed up way too late for a pro football game once I paid $300 for tix, missed game * She never invited me to much that she was doing her cop out response was "feel free to come to anything me and my son do" so I couldn't complain * She loved horses and arranged a ride with seven of her friends, didn't invite me. But she invited her sister's new boyfriend of two weeks, we had been dating over a year! * I bought her a nice watch for her birthday and her response was "I already have a watch, why did you buy me another one?" And she had an STD and an convicted convict ex husband who was her son's father to boot. And I dated her why? Good riddance. Would you guys have put up with this amount of BS? Link to post Share on other sites
JustaRegularGuyZ Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 ponchsox: No way man, that is just unreal Link to post Share on other sites
maturityassets Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Couldn't even imagine me being in a relationship with my ex lmao XD Link to post Share on other sites
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