Things that annoyed you about ex

[AnnaAnna]

Lazy (late for work every day),Never cleans his house (dirty dishes and stuff all over),

Takes forever to get ready (Longer than me and I'm a girl)

Low self esteem (I had to assure him he looked good all the time),

Thinks he's fun when drunk (He's a total d**k),

Drinks way too much (Every night is a party),

Likes his own Facebook statuses (pictures too)....

[HorseLuck]

Reading some of these posts make me chuckle and gives me a sense of comfort. I'm in.

 

Would cut me off in the middle of a sentence when I was speaking or spoke over me. Talked my head off.

 

Repressed emotions (wouldn't bring up issues until the last minute)

 

Very short attention span, easily distracted

 

Could be critical of himself, lacked confidence

 

Always wanted to listen to his radio stations in the car

 

Belching

 

Judged or questioned people's choices constantly

 

Would grow sensitive if I made a joke but it was ok for him to dish them out

 

Almost always anxious, couldn't relax. Felt the need to be productive all the time

 

Would ask for hugs a lot. Fine in person but not through text. With text we could go all day without speaking and when we do the first thing he asks is for a hug. How about a hello or some form of conversation? o_o It sounds funny but I found it demanding and odd, almost like I was there for his amusement.

 

Was shy to kiss me in public. Bugged me every now and than.

 

That's all I can think of..

 

I'm definitely no saint and if anything have more issues than what he had. I think I'll compose a list a of my own flaws from his view. It would be a good form of reflection to correct them.

[Lost_Dragon]

Some things I did that annoyed her, Okay..

I'll post what she said annoyed her or what I know did.

Without defending myself here.

 

I'm always negative.

 

I never support her decisions.

 

I take too long during sex.

 

I don't like talking on the phone for too long.

 

Me having female friends.

 

I was scared when she was driving.

 

I didn't like most of her music choices. Or movies.

 

Correcting her misuse or mispronunciation of words and phrases.

 

Me wearing any revealing clothes n public. Tank top etc.

 

Not visiting her family enough.

 

Me not liking her online friends.

I'm always right.

 

Me being able to go NC on her.

 

That's all my brain can stand to remember for now.

[Lost_Dragon]

Reading some of these posts make me chuckle and gives me a sense of comfort. I'm in.

 

Would cut me off in the middle of a sentence when I was speaking or spoke over me. Talked my head off.

 

Repressed emotions (wouldn't bring up issues until the last minute)

 

Very short attention span, easily distracted

 

Could be critical of himself, lacked confidence

 

Always wanted to listen to his radio stations in the car

 

Belching

 

Judged or questioned people's choices constantly

 

Would grow sensitive if I made a joke but it was ok for him to dish them out

 

Almost always anxious, couldn't relax. Felt the need to be productive all the time

 

Would ask for hugs a lot. Fine in person but not through text. With text we could go all day without speaking and when we do the first thing he asks is for a hug. How about a hello or some form of conversation? o_o It sounds funny but I found it demanding and odd, almost like I was there for his amusement.

 

Was shy to kiss me in public. Bugged me every now and than.

 

That's all I can think of..

 

I'm definitely no saint and if anything have more issues than what he had. I think I'll compose a list a of my own flaws from his view. It would be a good form of reflection to correct them.

Funny because most of these qualities about your ex are the same as mine. Only mine is a girl.. Belching/Farting included. Not attractive but she swore it was hilarious. You describe her down to a tee. Spot on. Kinda creeping me out because if she met your ex, they would be a match made in heaven/hell. Spooky.

Edited October 24, 2013 by Lost_Dragon

[aaron11892]

She smoked

 

She had many health problems

 

She was putting on weight

 

She always argued with her mum, and eventually starting arguing with me

 

She was lazy

 

She was very prone to mood swings

 

She was stubborn

 

She is my ex, and it's staying that way

[Lost_Dragon]

Reading some of these posts make me chuckle and gives me a sense of comfort. I'm in.

 

Would cut me off in the middle of a sentence when I was speaking or spoke over me. Talked my head off.

 

Repressed emotions (wouldn't bring up issues until the last minute)

 

Very short attention span, easily distracted

 

Could be critical of himself, lacked confidence

 

Always wanted to listen to his radio stations in the car

 

Belching

 

Judged or questioned people's choices constantly

 

Would grow sensitive if I made a joke but it was ok for him to dish them out

 

Almost always anxious, couldn't relax. Felt the need to be productive all the time

 

Would ask for hugs a lot. Fine in person but not through text. With text we could go all day without speaking and when we do the first thing he asks is for a hug. How about a hello or some form of conversation? o_o It sounds funny but I found it demanding and odd, almost like I was there for his amusement.

 

Was shy to kiss me in public. Bugged me every now and than.

 

That's all I can think of..

 

I'm definitely no saint and if anything have more issues than what he had. I think I'll compose a list a of my own flaws from his view. It would be a good form of reflection to correct them.

 

Yes, a hi and how are you is the perfect way to greet. I never got them either. Always was "what are you doing" or why didn't I do this or that.. Always demands and questioning. I was expected to be the first to say "I love you" otherwise she would say "No I love you?" Instant argument right there. The shy thing also bugged me. Not only in public but in our own home and bed. Like a stranger or first date might act. The entire 10+ years together. Bugged me out BIG TIME. I notice now, she doesn't even know herself yet. Is struggling with it and trying to be someone she is not. She is 36 and still acts like a teenager.

[Lost_Dragon]

Would you guys have put up with this amount of BS?

 

Not the STD part.. The kid part is not for me.. Oh and the convict ex is a red flag as well. So H3LL NO!

[todreaminblue]

he drank....and did really stupid things...

 

sometimes he scared me

 

 

he would go scary silent and eyes were combative..men were scared of him no one really or rarely argued with him.....even though he never really showed physical aggression, he didnt have to ...his size was enough......he wasa fighter.....he never had to fight.....his aura .....made guys back off

 

he could be ignorant and arrogant....with people.....while he was with me over time..he became more forgiving not as quick to write people off.....he gave more than one chance often

 

he had problems with being faithful normally always involved drinking and or other things

 

 

i cant say there were many things i found annoying.....i loved him and i accepted all of him...bar the fidelity the alcohol....and other things

 

 

i could not be with him again......h was not a bad person....had some wonderful qualities.....once when he was in school...a friend of his had some kind of fit......he was dying...no one would do anything....they stood around in shock, unsure ...scared he pushed everyone out of the way and picked up his friend.....his friend had started to release in death throes his bladder and sphincter........he held that boy to his chest and carried him into the library.......this big boy covered in piss holding a dead friend...askign for help to save him.....with tears in his eyes......they werent abel to brign th eboy back.....

 

 

when i think of exes or people who have hurt me....when i am healed....i have one story....that makes me forgive them..i actually have many i collect them stories of above and beyond behavior..........but one special one......

 

you can remember all the horrible annoying things about someone that makes you feel superior and gloat about how disgusting they were....or you can choose to let someone go who wasnt right for you

 

 

this one guy hurt me recently, i actually really care about him, much to my dismay, he has hurt me quite a few times...unintentional most likely....i have his story......one of courage....that softens my heart and i smile........harden your heart ...soften your heart...your choice......

 

but

 

 

if you go into the next relationship with a hardened heart...your story that your next partner remembers will be so much harder to find....and then to keep forever .....why would someone want to....hard hearts have no courage....only soft ones do....there are many in this thread...rock on...soft hearts...cheers.....to stories of good heartedness.deb

[AnyaNova]

@Todream-- as long as said story of goodness doesn't keep you bound in harmful relationships.

 

@Lostdragon--one more to add, my ex always pointed out on HD tv's areas of pixelation around competing colors. Now even when I'm watching my own tv, I can't "unsee" them.

[Lost_Dragon]

@Todream-- as long as said story of goodness doesn't keep you bound in harmful relationships.

 

@Lostdragon--one more to add, my ex always pointed out on HD tv's areas of pixelation around competing colors. Now even when I'm watching my own tv, I can't "unsee" them.

 

I know what you mean.. little trivial things that remind us of them constantly. Maybe nothing is trivial? Try reducing the color or brightness on your tv? IDK.. Play around with the settings or sit further away? But then you'll remember why you were doing those things was because of him too..

 

One good thing doesn't erase the bad or vice versa.

 

I could help a little old lady cross the street then take her purse and run..

[faithfully]

He thought he was right about everything. Never gave in!! Picky bout most food. Never tried anything different

[ColdAlone]

Sadly, nothing. She took care of me better than my mom did (and mom was good at it). I was falling in love with her every day from beginning to end. I was being overwhelmed with love every day.

I can be harsh. I have hurt her with my words. And sometimes she was hurt for 'perceived' things. I took responsibility for my part.

 

So ye I'm taking the extra steps to make sure it's really over, or not. Doesn't sound like it, not from her side either.

 

But you can't love without the risk of being hurt. And I guess that goes for the both of us... I'm taking that risk. And I'm hoping she will too...

[todreaminblue]

I know what you mean.. little trivial things that remind us of them constantly. Maybe nothing is trivial? Try reducing the color or brightness on your tv? IDK.. Play around with the settings or sit further away? But then you'll remember why you were doing those things was because of him too..

 

One good thing doesn't erase the bad or vice versa.

 

I could help a little old lady cross the street then take her purse and run..

 

 

i am no longer with my ex....i remember good things about people so i can forgive them.....so i am not lost in horrible times and bitter thoughts that eat me alive.......no matter how you look at it......if you want to think of horribel things how does that make you grow as a person...

 

 

no it doesnt erase the bad helps me deal with it though....

 

 

i struggled for many years trying to find something good in the couple that sexually assaulted me as a child......i found something that made me be abel to forgive them.......

 

they had a baby who i adored ......the baby was impaired......and they loved that baby......theres my good...i can forgive.....

 

 

or the teen boys who surrounded em when i was around ten and stoned me.........they had really vicious parents who they were scared of who probably beat them every day......i can forgive

 

 

i can also over my life look at things differently...i can talk about things without having to get upset and be reminded.....because some things just happen......i wouldnt go kiss my rapist on the cheek because i forgive him or because i can remember something good.......fact is that couple destroyed me as a girl to lead em into insecurities held by an adult woman and they6 took soemthing really special they took my virginity..my first tiem should have been with soemoen who truly loved me.....the only thing i feel when i write that is a little sad.......what do you want me to feel......what do you think is "good " for me to feel...revenge,bitterness,hatred

 

 

or just acceptance it happened and forgiveness...

 

maybe because i have had more s hit happen, soul destroying stuff, that was extremely bad i can forgive the nose picking the farting the leaving the toilet seat up although that is highly annoying..........and not count my blessings on another's short comings.....doesnt seem the right thing to do ....count your blessings on someones annoying faults..............i dont.... want to concentrate on bad qualities in people i would rather find the good, doesnt mean i have to sleep with them though or hug them stupid.....just means i have moved on.....when you have bitterness in your heart you are nowhere good...an dyou arent moving forward if you hold onto it....you do what you need to do ...btu then you let it go....thi sis my opinon who knows i may be just really impaired because of hwat has happened to me....to think the way i do....but i am impaired and not bitter.........deb

[Upmyheart]

Let's see:

 

* He was obnoxiously loud even when in nice restaurants.

* He would ask for a massage when I got off of work, drove to his house to see him while he didn't do anything all day!

* He could never drive to my house to hang out (we live about 15 minutes away from each other), but he could drive across town to see his female 'friend'.

* He could never hold down a job.

* His mom constantly called him when we were on dates and ask him to ran an errand for her (while in my car too).

* He didn't stand up for me when his mom told me I was gaining weight!

* He had a negative comment about all my friends and some family members too.

* I always had to do all the work!

* Shallow note the guy wore skinny jeans... he didn't belong in them either.

[Never Again]

Nothing ever REALLY annoyed me, but I accepted and embraced her flaws, but here goes:

 

- Would call me negative or a "Negatron" whenever I voiced frustrations (all of which were external to the relationship). Sometimes I just needed to vent to the person I was closest to

 

- Would get excited about a plan, would ask me and get me excited, and then would never mention it again. If she wanted to start a project together, like making costumes, I expected her to initiate the actual process. I'll do my part and I'll take point on plans I initiate, but I need my partner to do the same.

 

- Found reasons to uninvite me. She invited me on a two week trip with her friends, then repealed the invitation weeks later when the logistics of travel became complicated and expensive. I offered an alternative solution so that I could still go, and she didn't advocate for me - but she did expect me to watch her cat. Not the only time this happened.

 

- Inability to communicate. If it wasn't happy, fun or sugar-coated, she couldn't talk about it...and if she tried, she'd cry.

 

- Never told me what she needed/wanted. I was left guessing, and apparently I guessed wrong.

 

- Never opened up about how things made her feel. She only wanted to feel happy, and refused to articulate when things made her feel otherwise.

 

- Held minor grudges instead of telling me if I bothered her

[SMALLTOWNBLUES]

in no particular order or timeline:

 

- didn't read any books, articles, no knowledge of current events

- broke my windshield with a rock

- trashed my room

- broke into my house (punched out the window to the front door...see above)

- talked s*it on all my friends, some of whom she has befriended postbreakup

- cheated on me with my good friend (f**k him too)

- talked s*it on my mom who has recently passed away right after she cheated on me.....then she texts "I wish I could be there for you...I cared about her so much"

- I either worked too much or didn't work enough (depending on if we needed anything for our house)

- showed up to my work drunk a bunch and one time accused me of trying to sleep with my female boss which led me to getting canned from the gig (I wasn't)....same night she lost her purse at the club I was working at so after being humiliated and canned from job had to stay to help her find purse

- was never a giver in bed, now tells me she gives oral to all her new guys and loves it

- told me I was fat (I am 5'9 and weigh 160 at my worst)

 

I had my faults too but compared to these they were miniscule....messy room, sometimes I came too soon, didn't eat vegetarian like her...I took a trip to Europe with a female friend (planned for months in advance) when we my ex and I first started dating and when I got back she accused me of cheating so she blamed all of her behavior on that as a solid reason. Admittedly, I didn't cheat but knew that female friend had a crush on me but prevented anything from happening. Still felt guilty cos I went but knowing I didnt do anything made me feel resolved that I wasnt as wretched as she said and that I didnt deserve the abuse she put me through....

 

the funny thing is, she used to complain about my smoking and working in bars so I quit smoking and got a legit 9-5, then she started smoking and dating a bartender....go figure.

 

I can't shake her cos I am going through my mother's passing and this breakup...it hurts to see her move on and to have seemingly wiped me from her mind. All the girls I've tried to either have a one night stand with or genuinely have gotten a crush on have some complication that prevents it. I'm frustrated and ready to give up....but have to admit...posting these things helped me remember that I'm lucky.

 

Thanks!

[Familia]

Hey mate would you like to text or chat ? looking to chat with someone so I don't contact the ex, so much similar regarding our EXs

 

in no particular order or timeline:

 

- didn't read any books, articles, no knowledge of current events

- broke my windshield with a rock

- trashed my room

- broke into my house (punched out the window to the front door...see above)

- talked s*it on all my friends, some of whom she has befriended postbreakup

- cheated on me with my good friend (f**k him too)

- talked s*it on my mom who has recently passed away right after she cheated on me.....then she texts "I wish I could be there for you...I cared about her so much"

- I either worked too much or didn't work enough (depending on if we needed anything for our house)

- showed up to my work drunk a bunch and one time accused me of trying to sleep with my female boss which led me to getting canned from the gig (I wasn't)....same night she lost her purse at the club I was working at so after being humiliated and canned from job had to stay to help her find purse

- was never a giver in bed, now tells me she gives oral to all her new guys and loves it

- told me I was fat (I am 5'9 and weigh 160 at my worst)

 

I had my faults too but compared to these they were miniscule....messy room, sometimes I came too soon, didn't eat vegetarian like her...I took a trip to Europe with a female friend (planned for months in advance) when we my ex and I first started dating and when I got back she accused me of cheating so she blamed all of her behavior on that as a solid reason. Admittedly, I didn't cheat but knew that female friend had a crush on me but prevented anything from happening. Still felt guilty cos I went but knowing I didnt do anything made me feel resolved that I wasnt as wretched as she said and that I didnt deserve the abuse she put me through....

 

the funny thing is, she used to complain about my smoking and working in bars so I quit smoking and got a legit 9-5, then she started smoking and dating a bartender....go figure.

 

I can't shake her cos I am going through my mother's passing and this breakup...it hurts to see her move on and to have seemingly wiped me from her mind. All the girls I've tried to either have a one night stand with or genuinely have gotten a crush on have some complication that prevents it. I'm frustrated and ready to give up....but have to admit...posting these things helped me remember that I'm lucky.

 

Thanks!

[SMALLTOWNBLUES]

you can find me on facebook man....don't know how to chat on here... my name is mike dillon. live in durham, nc. don't even care about anyone knowing my info! you can ALL hit me up.

[Familia]

Hey mate have just added you on Facebook

 

you can find me on facebook man....don't know how to chat on here... my name is mike dillon. live in durham, nc. don't even care about anyone knowing my info! you can ALL hit me up.

[L1ght]

Her taste in music. My word I really couldn't stand her crazy taste in music.......abstract Russian love songs from the 60's and 70's that made me cringe every time I had to endure the torment, classical crap that was so boring I just wanted to smash the stereo with a hammer, love songs that were so depressing I just wanted to slit my wrists there and then on the spot yet she absolutely loved all of it.

Crazy woman with the most bizarre taste in music I've ever heard. Its amazing the things we put up with when we like someone but not any more though.....thank goodness I don't have to listen to that rubbish any more.

[lindsay1990]

Edit:

 

 

In retrospect, just his personality and his people.

Edited October 25, 2013 by lindsay1990

[Lost_Dragon]

Everything was a competition. Even hate.

 

Her stupid duck face pictures.

 

Her jacked tattoos.

[AnyaNova]

When we were discussing food for the first time I cooked for him, he literally said that "I'd have to talk to his mother, because the list of his disliked foods was so long that he could never remember it."

 

I should have known that there were problems when his mother a)refused to discuss even over email his food dislikes (even when he admitted that he couldn't remember all of them himself) and b)kept calling on our date nights (and yes, she knew about us, and I'm pretty sure she knew exactly when we were going to be together).

[JoelBarish]

When we were discussing food for the first time I cooked for him, he literally said that "I'd have to talk to his mother, because the list of his disliked foods was so long that he could never remember it."

 

I should have known that there were problems when his mother a)refused to discuss even over email his food dislikes (even when he admitted that he couldn't remember all of them himself) and b)kept calling on our date nights (and yes, she knew about us, and I'm pretty sure she knew exactly when we were going to be together).

 

Were you dating Norman Bates

[Omei]

That whenever I tried to have a civil conversation about something that upset me it was always im being crazy or irrational and I should just not complain and the issues we had would go away, that they never needed to be talked over. But when something was on his chest I listened, and he always got comfort and at least attempts of undertsanding from me and he never realised how much he avoided any issue even small ones.

 

Oh his Brother was so dépendant on him being around 24/7 its was like dating both sometimes they should of just might as well been Butt buddies

Edited October 26, 2013 by Omei