Naive Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 So I am waiting for "L" to call me, but nope, no call as of yet From the looks of it I am going to be waiting until next week Why do I do this to myself? This is one of those moments when I start to get real depressed I know that it's bad but I put myself in this position. How can I be sooooooo stupid when it comes to him when I am so smart with everything else? Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 Cuz the thought of the way he made/makes you feel is enough to keep you hanging on and just when you think you're done...boom he comes around.... Why not call him? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 Our heart and minds sometimes do odd things...Babe, don't beat up on yourself so much. Just try and keep busy on things that will make you happy. Feel free to PM me anytime OK. Lots of hugs! WWIU Link to post Share on other sites
Author Naive Posted December 10, 2004 Author Share Posted December 10, 2004 Originally posted by Barby Cuz the thought of the way he made/makes you feel is enough to keep you hanging on and just when you think you're done...boom he comes around.... YOU ARE PSYCHIC BARBY!!!!!!!! This always happens!!!!! Why not call him? Well I did the day before yesterday and yesterday, I just thought to myself why does he not call me? So now I am waiting for him to call but he has not yet. I guess he has not thought about me yet Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 Okay so since you tried to call him and he hasn't called you, make him wonder why you haven't called, don't let him know he's got ya hooked again by calling anymore.... Men are such morons sometimes! Dang hearts make us foolish also... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Naive Posted December 10, 2004 Author Share Posted December 10, 2004 That's exactly what I am TRYING to do, but every time the phone ring I hope it's him wondering why I have not called but I end up disappointed Then that makes me think why has he not called to see what's wrong with me. UGGGGGGHHHHHHHH this is so pathetic!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
indigo_moon Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 He's probably busy with his wife, seeing how he's married and all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Naive Posted December 10, 2004 Author Share Posted December 10, 2004 Yeah you are right........ Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted December 11, 2004 Share Posted December 11, 2004 Well he's the one losing out if he's "busy" hahaha! Just try and not let it get ya down...if he's not gonna be there the way he wanted to be before you started giving into seeing him then he doesn't deserve the time of day from you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Naive Posted December 11, 2004 Author Share Posted December 11, 2004 I know......I am going to have to shape up and quit being so weak when it comes to him Link to post Share on other sites
Author Naive Posted December 11, 2004 Author Share Posted December 11, 2004 I feel like all this sh*t is starting all over again Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 Gosh, I understand how you feel. I just broke the whole thing off all together. I cant stand hoping and wishing he is going to call. I just got ugly with him because I am sick of being up in the air for him. I hate it and I started hating him too. Dont wait for him to call anymore. Just call him. Find out what the deal is. You dont have to wait for him anymore. It drove me nuts. Link to post Share on other sites
Patiently waiting Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 we should all get 2gether and get drunk, do facials, shopping, girl stuff...! misery loves company ya' know! Any of you OW going through the "break up" fallout live in the L.A., San Fernando Valley area??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Naive Posted December 12, 2004 Author Share Posted December 12, 2004 Well I did not call him and I did not get a call either, but I said, "*uck it". I went to visit my sis about 2 hours away from here and got back today. The worst thing that I can do is cry a river for him Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 Originally posted by naive_2001 Well I did not call him and I did not get a call either, but I said, "*uck it". I went to visit my sis about 2 hours away from here and got back today. The worst thing that I can do is cry a river for him Sorry Girl.. YES the worst thing you can do is cry about this or dwell on it.. Hang in there sister;) Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 Naive, If he's going to be that way then PLEASE PLEASE don't waste your time on him, even if you're not ready to move on at least don't let him worm his way back in and get to you like this.............. I know I encouraged you before but honestly he made you believe he wanted to be with you and then he's treating you this way....... Well it basically it's obvious but I'll say it again......You DESERVE better Girl!! Link to post Share on other sites
Destiny2004 Posted December 13, 2004 Share Posted December 13, 2004 Originally posted by Patiently waiting we should all get 2gether and get drunk, do facials, shopping, girl stuff...! misery loves company ya' know! Any of you OW going through the "break up" fallout live in the L.A., San Fernando Valley area??? haha, I'm from NY, but i wish i lived in LA cause I would definetly be in on that! Us OW need some time together cause we are the only ones who understand each other. We don't need anyone telling us that we are bad people and we are doing other women wrong! I broke it off with my MM 6 weeks ago and haven't spoke since. I am so happy that I am so strong, that I haven't called him, and it is very hard for me, but i've done it and that feeling is great. I do hate him and hopefully my strength will last and I won't give in. Link to post Share on other sites
Patiently waiting Posted December 13, 2004 Share Posted December 13, 2004 Originally posted by Destiny2004 haha, I'm from NY, but i wish i lived in LA cause I would definetly be in on that! Us OW need some time together cause we are the only ones who understand each other. We don't need anyone telling us that we are bad people and we are doing other women wrong! I broke it off with my MM 6 weeks ago and haven't spoke since. I am so happy that I am so strong, that I haven't called him, and it is very hard for me, but i've done it and that feeling is great. I do hate him and hopefully my strength will last and I won't give in. Well, how often are you in Denver, that's just a short plane ride (compared to New York!). We could all meet in Las Vegas!!!! Now THAT would be FUN!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Shiraz Posted December 13, 2004 Share Posted December 13, 2004 because your human! Non of us are perfect. Others are just like you Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted December 13, 2004 Share Posted December 13, 2004 Naive- You've asked me on another board/post why I would try to work it out with my wife after knowing that she had an emotional affair with someone once. Let me ask the question of you...why would you want to work it out with him, knowing what he's capable of and REALLY like now? Why even hope he'll call? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Naive Posted December 13, 2004 Author Share Posted December 13, 2004 Originally posted by Owl Naive- You've asked me on another board/post why I would try to work it out with my wife after knowing that she had an emotional affair with someone once. Let me ask the question of you...why would you want to work it out with him, knowing what he's capable of and REALLY like now? Why even hope he'll call? I guess because he has never been a bad person with me. He had actually left her before but I decided to not go for it for different reasons. He has always seemed so caring..........whatever though I need to look out for me for once in my life. I decided that I am going to take things as they come. If he calls okay, if he does not call, fine. Life is too short to spend it crying all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted December 13, 2004 Share Posted December 13, 2004 So, I'd guess now maybe you can understand why someone who is married and dealing with a spouse who had an affair would still want to work it out, even through the pain and distrust. You can't trust him anymore than I can trust my wife. You know he lies/lied to his wife...so he's fully capable of doing the same to you. You know now that he IS capable of making decisions that he KNOWS will hurt you, and acting on those decisions. Just like my wife... BUT...you feel what you had with him was strong enough, and he was a good enough person before this incident that its worth fighting for, worth trying to continue, even against the odds... If he's still married, I'd tell you to let him go. Because I'll always have the personal belief that the marriage should be given the chance to recover from the damage of the affair if its possible. But from your last post, I got the impression that he may not be married any longer. If that's the case, you're not hurting anyone else by continuing to maintain this relationship...so based on that...good luck to you! Regardless, I do wish the best for you in your tough times! Link to post Share on other sites
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