weird situation

[jimmy]

my brother is a total pain in the ass....i am sorry to just blurt that right out, but its getting to be too much. he had the cable modem installed on his computer a month or 2 ago [we each have our own computers since he cant share and i need school work done (i am a senior, he is a couple years more than me)], and set up some network thingy so that i could use it too...well the a**h*** shut it off me. i have tried to be nice to him, but it aint working no more. this is all culminating to that i talk to this girl that i really like online, but now this screws me over. this could be a blessing in disguise in a way since i am really shy and get nervous and dont talk to her at school much, but she has told me she is interested in doin something but its best if we work something out online since she lives a while away and her parents get mad when people call late. well anyway i dunno what to do. i mean i can talk to her at school and stuff, but its tough since we really have no classes together. i have considered gettin my own cable modem thingy so i can do school work, but i dont know if its allowed to have more than 1 type of connection like that in one's house.

 

oh yeah i also think my brother needs help......not to be nosey or anything but i kinda cracked his password and browsed his computer and became disturbed at what i saw. he has a lot of pornography on it, and i like the female body and all, but it just disgusts me at what i saw, like a 12-19 age range.......i just couldnt believe it. i am sorry for mentioning all this to everyone, but i needed to vent and try to get answers. he is my brother and i can't really hate the guy since it is not in my morals, but i think he hates me by the way he acts (constant fighting). i just dont understand why my brother is like this.

 

once again i am really sorry but i just needed an anonymous person(s) to talk to since i dont think i can talk to my parents about the latter statement.

[Tony T]

I don't mean to be sarcastic here, but men and women had great relationships with each other for millions of years prior to the Internet...which has only been a significant force in the world for about six years. Most of the people on this planet did not know what a cable modem was only four years ago. My bet is most of them don't know even now.

 

You didn't say why your brother cut you off. Was it something you said or did that pissed him off? You need to talk to your brother and see if you can't work things out. Apologize to him. Ask him if you can contribute financially to half the cost of the modem. He was extremely nice in setting up the sharing system, why would he rip it away if you didn't do something that torked him?

 

Now, he may have been afraid you would access his computer in this network sharing system. He may not have known how to block you from his files, which is easily done. If you find this is the issue, you can let him know he can password protect his files and still share the modem...part of the network. Just don't let on you know about the pictures or anything else in his files.

 

Life is a constant set of trials, problems and conflicts that we have to deal with. Work things out with your brother. He may be very impressed if you show a sincere concern about his feelings. Just don't be combative or confrontive. Show a real concern for how you can make this up to him or work this out.

 

You can always purchase a dial-up modem, these days pretty cheap. They aren't nearly as fast as cable, about 48kbps max on a 56K, but certainly fast enough to help you get laid with this girl.

 

As for the pictures your brother has stored in his computer, they certainly aren't your business. However, if they are nude pictures of minors and someone who doesn't like him turns him in, he will spend some time in the slammer. But there is nothing theoretically wrong with saving pictures that you like to your hard drive. He has no exclusive franchise on that. This may be the start of a problem he will have to deal with in the future. Have compassion for him, don't judge this right now, but be sure you don't mention these pictures to anyone else.

 

I think you would be a nice brother to have and I would certainly share my modem with you.