Friend is Confusing Me

[thatmusicdude]

Ok, this is kind of a long story but hopefully you guys/gals can offer some advice. I am having problems understanding my one friend and what to see what you think. Matt and I have been friends for over a year and at this point I consider him to be my best "guy" friend. The weird thing is that both of us were use to having "girl" friends and never a guy friend, so it is really cool for the both of us. Anyway sometimes Matt acts in ways were I have to question why? For example, he also refers to me as his Best Friend but his behavior every once in a while does not show it. Recently we were at school and I knew that after I would not be doing anything and kept trying to find something to do since my Sarah was busy. Well Matt made a comment about not having anything to do after school so I figured I could hangout with him. Problem is that neither of us will ask the other to hangout. It's almost as if we fear rejection from one another. He made a brief comment about going out with his Mom to get something but did not say that day. When Sarah's Dad came to pick her up she asked us if we where going to hangout and Matt said probably not and when she asked why he said that I had homework. I told him no I didn't and he said oh and then said he should probably go shopping with his Mom. I just get confused as to why he does this. I mean their are other things too.

One minute you can joke and mess with him and he will come back at you. The next minute he sits quietly. Sometimes I wonder if it is the whole deal with always having girl friends and no guy friends. I know for me sometimes I dunno what to do. But I feel bad when he does this because it's like he doesn't want to be my friend.

My Mom said that maybe he had been rejected so many times in the past that he still holds that inside and that's why he never speaks up.

 

Well this post is kinda long already so I'll let you guys work on this one and post again later. I would really like to hear any suggestions you guys have. I mean if we are suppose to be Best Friends. I would hope we could act like it. Other than this commmunication issue we are Best Friends. Thanks everyone in advance.

[Barby]

Maybe he's too embarassed to let on that he's interested in you?

[thatmusicdude]

Neither of us are gay, but is that what your referring too? Would this behavior say that he might be?

[thatmusicdude]

I mean we are both Best Friends but there seems to be some fear sometimes. Like neither of us will ask the other to hangout. Rarely, and when we do decide to do something neither of us can think of something to do. I think for me I am just afraid of rejection. Girl friends I can deal with because I have always gotten along with girls. Now I have a best guy friend and it is like we dunno how to act around another guy because in the past before we became friends we only had girl friends. I just dunno why he is so distant sometimes or fearful. I am afraid to talk about it in fear something bad could happen. It would just be nice to understand why our friendship is like this. What is out problem?

[Barby]

I'm sorry being tired I mis read and didn't pay much attention to your name...

 

 

On that note, maybe he's just nervous too and doesn't want to seem to clingy as a friend, or maybe as I said (now realizing the situation) maybe he feels awkward around you because maybe he's experiencing feelings for you....what would you do if you found out this was the case?

[thatmusicdude]

I believe you are asking me what I would do if it turned out that he liked me as more then friends. Meaning that he had sexual feelings for me. I think I could accept that. He is the Best guy friend I have ever had and don't want to lose him. In the past I have girl friends of mine be attracted to me but still remained their friend. He is a great guy, but you would think a person could admit this to their friends.