Should he be scolding me like this?

[peanutgallery]

So, I'm turning to working out to keep my sanity through a number of problems with my marriage, life and job stresses.* I have REALLY kicked it up a few notches.** I have asked my husband to join me (he is constantly telling me he's ashamed of his body (skinny with spare time and no muscle).* He hasn't worked out in a long time.*

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When I asked him to join me...he said something very passive aggressive like..."oh, you really think I am THAT unattractive, eh?* I knew you hated the way I looked".* I said no...and reassured him I just wanted him to join me...and it's good to keep ourselves healthy.* He said no thanks...someday.* (We have an elliptical and free weights in our house!)

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So, I started eating better...told him about the diet plan and he loves to cook.* He started making some of my healthy meals... and said he wanted to support me.* I thanked him, of course.** But I honestly don't like what he's making.* I didn't tell him that, of course.* I just kept trying to make my own stuff and just doing things on my own.*

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Well, last night I grabbed a little chocolate candy and he asked me if "it was in my meal plan" and started to scold me for what I was eating.* He continues to eat like crap... and then judges me for what I am eating.* He even told me that I shouldn't eat cheerios because I knew better.*

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So, he's not working out...gets passive aggressive when I suggest he join me for morale support...and then chastises me for what I'm eating.** I have found myself acting out and binging on candy because of all this weird drama.

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Am I wrong to think she should completely keep his opinion to himself.* I mean i'm a size 4 ...I'm just trying to get in elite shape...to keep positive mind and body...*

[melell]

All I can think when I read this is it is like someone trying to quit smoking.

 

The quitter may go on and on about it, talk about their plan etc, and the person hearing all about it gets on board, and takes what is said seriously. The result, when that person has a cigarette the other takes it personally.

 

I know it is a lot different than quitting smoking, but still.

 

Also sounds to me like he is a bit annoyed about you expecting him to join you.

 

You expecting him to do the same is as petty as him scolding you when you eat badly.

 

Pettiness, and unnecessary.