Relink Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 (edited) I'm sure this is the same ol' thread, refurbished and brought anew, but I'd like to share my story as quickly as I can. 5 year relationship, she had anger problems but we were still in love. We didn't have much in common and butted heads quite a bit, but we were still in love. We had planned on getting married but I waited too long apparently... She left me... through texts. She had horrible communication problems and I stem that from her family issues at an early age. She went to a man she had been friends with for a decade. The day after we broke up she went on a trip with him out of town. I pined for her about as bad as any broken man could. I contacted her friends and family looking for an answer for weeks on end. I heard through her family she wanted to make it work eventually but she didn't know how to get back to square one. I contacted her and she ignored me. For weeks she didn't speak a word to me and was off with her new man. It broke..my..heart. I was completely crushed, but picked myself off the ground. After 2 months I started to despise her and started healing. I met a girl, we had fun, I realized my potential with other women and started seeing the other side. I don't speak with her this whole time. A few months pass (4 to be exact) and everything is going great. I barely think about her anymore. Out of the blue, I hear her rebound is going terribly and she speaks of me to her friends. The same day she decides to text me after months of very low contact. I am feeling she is trying to weave her way back into my life. So after sleeping with another man for 4 months, leaving me out to dry, making me feel awful, treating me horribly, she is being sweet and is wanting to meet up (from what I have gathered, it's for reconciliation) The feelings recirculate and I'm home again where I was months ago. This seems to be a common occurrence. How do you deal with the feelings? I see some people get back with their ex lovers and it works and I see some that are firm on NEVER speaking to them again. How do you honestly decide what to do? Edited October 25, 2013 by Relink Link to post Share on other sites
forgetmenot75 Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 She had anger problems. She broke with you by text after five years relationship. She most probably cheated on you. She wrnt on v trip with her lover the day after she broke with you. Now her rebound goes horrible wrong and she wants you back. Dude, are you serious? It seems to me you're way better without her. Just ignore the bitch, it's bad news. Cheater one time, cheater always. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 5 year relationship, she had anger problems but we were still in love. We didn't have much in common and butted heads quite a bit, but we were still in love. We had planned on getting married but I waited too long apparently... I personally feel that relationship that have fights too often is not ideal for a long-term committed relationship. Especially after marriage, it will get even tiring unless both of you are able to work things out together. Breaking up via text is just totally insincere in my opinion especially both of you were together for 5 years. And before she broke up with you, did she ever speak to you how she feel? Or as common as it is, it's a total shocker to you? She broke up with you and the next day she went on a trip with another man. In my opinion, there's probably more to meet the eye. I'm guessing and there's a possibility that she could be seeing this guy even when she was still with you. So you after 4 months, you began to heal, met a new girl and had fun and probably felt a little better. But now you heard her rebound is bad from friends and now you are thinking she probably wants to get back with you. You have to ask yourself this question, do you want to be with this person again especially after what she had done to you? (So after sleeping with another man for 4 months, leaving me out to dry, making me feel awful, treating me horribly, she is being sweet and is wanting to meet up) No one can give you an answer because we are not you, however I strongly urge you to think wisely and don't jump into it. Link to post Share on other sites
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