barbossa Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 You say you are attractive or your friends say you are You or your friends say you are fun to be with, funny smart etc you like to work hard and play hard etc you've tried OLD you say you are looking for a relationship yet.... you are still single? yes men and women both play games, lie, cheat, flake etc. Why do you remain single? Why haven't you found someone ? Link to post Share on other sites
pyramid Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 I am currently in a relationship, but was single for 7 years after my divorce. There were lots of reasons, and they changed over the years. But once I was truly ready for a long term relationship, it took about a year and a half. I would say that the main reason was that I had to learn how to date (I never "dated" in high school, had two LTR in college and married the second one). I had to learn what I truly was looking for via this time around, how to find it, how to take things at a good pace, and then find someone who was a good fit! I'm a lot more picky at 36 than I was at 19, go figure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Harradin Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 Not tried since what happened to me with the past ex. I realised that I was standing still when everything else moved forward. Trying POF but it isn't getting me anywhere despite the POF Forum saying I had a good profile, but other then that starting to chat to a hot girl at uni who seems relatively interested to talk to me Link to post Share on other sites
ls32ssibm Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 I don't get out that much and rarely see girls around my own age. I live in a "high school town", so to speak. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 Because I haven't met a girl I really like or want to invest the time, energy, and money into yet. As soon as I do I'll be open to it, but I'm not going to date some one I'm not into on all levels. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTKO Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 You say you are attractive or your friends say you are You or your friends say you are fun to be with, funny smart etc you like to work hard and play hard etc you've tried OLD you say you are looking for a relationship yet.... you are still single? yes men and women both play games, lie, cheat, flake etc. Why do you remain single? Why haven't you found someone ? Does having a friend with benefits count as single? I really enjoy my freedom, not having to answer to anyone or nagging me to do this that and the other. Moreover, when attractive woman lurk in the background and make offers I can't refuse, I don't see what the upside is to being with one person day in day out in a relationship that eventually will run its course. Being single,having a great love life, active socially, and having a strong family and friend support network is the best thing you can ask for in my book Link to post Share on other sites
JourneyLady Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 You say you are attractive or your friends say you are You or your friends say you are fun to be with, funny smart etc you like to work hard and play hard etc you've tried OLD you say you are looking for a relationship yet.... you are still single? yes men and women both play games, lie, cheat, flake etc. Why do you remain single? Why haven't you found someone ? Because I'm late 50's and there are certain things I want to get done before I'm 60 or older. For one, I have a lot of hobbies and having been devoted to my ex-bf for 5 years I wasn't able to do them as much as I wanted. (Taking care of him, massage, cleaning, etc etc.) Genealogy, writing, computer graphics, photography, gardening, decorating, socializing, walking, travel, and some part-time work... to name just a FEW. It would take someone special (and close by) to bring me out of singledom. I'm overweight ("fluffy" apparently), and not the ideal shape that most men my age are looking for as well as being older than men my age are looking for. Most of the men I meet are either looking past me, or are boring intellectually or spiritually. Or they are married or taken, and I won't go there. Or they just want sex and I can't give sex without my heart. I'm working on my spiritual development and it's easier to do that outside of a relationship. AND I am studying paganism and druidry and that limits my choices due to lack of acceptance. On OLD in this area most men list themselves as Christian or Baptist. The men that aren't are associated with the college and THEY want a more educated/independent/higher income woman. So I don't appeal to them. A man that wants a poet/designer/country woman is the man for me. He simply hasn't shown up yet and I don't have the time for anyone else. You might ask, why am I here then. I don't know anymore. In the beginning I was trying to knock the kinks out of my relationship with ex-bf. In the end, I think it's because if "he" ever shows up, I do want to understand better what I'm doing and what he expects and how to know if we're a good fit. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Joaquin Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 One afternoon, a man and his friend were sitting in a cafe, drinking tea and talking about life and love. His friend asked: “How come you never married? ”“Well,” said The Man “to tell you the truth, I spent my youth looking for the perfect woman. In Cairo I met a beautiful and intelligent woman, but she was unkind. Then in Baghdad, I met a woman who was a wonderful and generous soul, but we had no common interests. One woman after another would seem just right, but there would always be something missing. Then, one day, I met her. Beautiful, intelligent, generous and kind. We had very much in common. In fact, she was perfect!”“What happened?” asked the Man’s friend, “Why didn’t you marry her?” The Man sipped his tea reflectively. “Well,” he replied, “it’s really the sad story of my life… It seemed she was looking for the perfect man…. 13 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss_raptor Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 Because I can be. Because I'm working full time, going to school full-time, trying to make friends, and figure my life out. I am seeing someone exclusively, but we're taking it slow. I don't feel the need to get married and start a family, so I'm just enjoying his company. I feel like I have the best of both worlds, honestly. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jba10582 Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 Why do you remain single? Why haven't you found someone ? My world crashed about 3 months after a break-up with with a girl I was going to marry. We had just moved to a small town for job reasons where I had no friends or family. So screw being depressed after doing everything wrong after break-up and waiting around for a few months... I am dating around and not taking it to seriously, trying to move out of this small town. Someone else mentioned part of what makes a male attractive is the man's lifestyle and being passionate about that would make him happy sort of puts any pressure off any new girl to make him happy kind hit some sense into why I had been focusing alot on certain things like old hobbies and finding new good FRIENDS again. I am basically building a foundation for better lifestyle again. This was a powerful reason I starting getting serious with my ex to begin with. Having a successful job now would help with that but I have neglected a lot of my friends over the years with stressful jobs and it had been easy to reflect on these things over three month span. Link to post Share on other sites
Leegh Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 I am happily single! No need to be married. I'm not a millionaire, but finances are OK. Sure, if I met a great guy I would go out with him, but all is well without a significant other. I've known quite a number of married folks, who are semi-happy or not happily married, who are pretending to be happy. Speaking for myself, I would find that a big energy drain. The key is finding the right person. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 Because I haven't met the a woman that I would have zero doubts about marrying. I would rather be single than go through a bad marriage. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
AlliceInWL Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 If I'm going to get married, it's going to be for love and no other reason. It's not going to be so I can have a family, or so I can get ahead financially, or so I will never have to worry about being lonely. If and when I meet someone whom I believe I can love for a lifetime, I will marry him. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Lost561 Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Because I don't make a lot of money. Because I'm not 6 feet tall or above. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Heart of the Desert Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Not that there aren't those who are clear about why they are single, or that there isn't some truth in the explanations every one gives, but I have doubts that many accurately understand exactly why it is that they are single. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 *shrug* meh. haha. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Because I haven't found a guy that was head over heals/crazy about me AND who I felt the same way about AND who stayed into me for more than a couple of weeks. Because I would rather be single than settle for the current guy who is totally nuts over me and treats me like a princess, yet who I do not have any romantic feelings towards. Because the guys who had been crazy about me initially changed their mind early on and left. Because I won't settle for less than crazy chemistry AND a guy who also treats me wonderfully. My best friend found a guy who was HEAD OVER HEALS for her, who she felt the same way about, who is her best friend AND who actually worked out long term AND who had crazy chemistry with. I do not even care if they are poor or bad looking; if I feel it I feel it, and I have "felt it" for guys who are not good looking, so I am hoping that the crazy chemistry AND both falling crazy in love are both easy enough to come by! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Because I broke up with someone last weekend. I thought he was The One. I'm sad that he turned out not to be. But I'll get over it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 You say you are attractive or your friends say you are You or your friends say you are fun to be with, funny smart etc you like to work hard and play hard etc you've tried OLD you say you are looking for a relationship yet.... you are still single? yes men and women both play games, lie, cheat, flake etc. Why do you remain single? Why haven't you found someone ? Why? I haven't met the right person for me. I refuse to settle with someone I'm lukewarm for or they're lukewarm on me. I'm a big believer you should know right away - passion, compatibility, family approval, meshing well together, over look flaws - that who you're with is the one you can live your life with... I just haven't met a woman after 6 months I felt I could tell them that I love them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 You say you are attractive or your friends say you are You or your friends say you are fun to be with, funny smart etc you like to work hard and play hard etc you've tried OLD you say you are looking for a relationship yet.... you are still single? yes men and women both play games, lie, cheat, flake etc. Why do you remain single? Why haven't you found someone ? I remain single....Because I want to BE single! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lishabello Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 I am single because I want to find the best man for me. I don't mean in terms of appearance but in terms of having the whole package. I don't want to be with a guy and find out he is not the right fit for me. There are many fish in the sea, so why not pick the best fish? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
farva2 Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 My social circle is pretty devoid of females, just a bunch of bros who hang out and do bro things. We all go to separate commuter colleges so we really need to put in that extra effort to get out there and do it. I don't know about them but I don't put much effort it into it, school and work keep me busy enough to not get too lonely so if something comes along great, if not then I'll manage. Link to post Share on other sites
felicity1 Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 I love the thrill of the chase but once I've got the guy I'm not interested anymore-afraid of commitment/rejection??? Still trying to work myself out! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 So why are you single? 1. Pretty much the same issue as from before I was married. Lack of demonstrably single women in my demographic. I count three in the last four years, one who's my best friend's sister, another who's in her 70's (widowed), and another who's in her 60's and a devout religious person and health nut, so not really compatible. 2. I've been on strike since my D three years ago, meaning not really interested in furthering any interactions with women while I recover financially and emotionally from divorce. As a man, it's easy to stay single, due to that 'furthering' part. In my generation, unless a man is blatantly assertive, he's invisible. That's been pretty consistent and I've experimented with it over the decades for confirmation. Link to post Share on other sites
Moe'sTavern Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 I'm single because I don't date. Simple enough answer. Link to post Share on other sites
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