lollipopspot Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 she is attractive just curious, if you care to answer, and not trying to be critical of you, but what is attractive to you? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 You would be strangers in the beginning and learning each others schedules might take a bit of time but not impossible. You are missing my point; it isn't about schedules. It is about personalities and setting out on a year-long adventure with someone you don't know -- but under the auspices of it being nefarious -- is fraught with catastrophe. She is still free to leave at any time if she is not comfortable. And she gets to keep the $100k? He loves shopping way more than backpacking. Irrelevant. The last relationship I was in involved tremendous amounts of travel and it is one of the things that ripped us apart. I was the one who wanted museums and historical landmarks. He wanted shopping and nightclubs. And we were ostensibly in love with each other and traveling together was a nightmare because of our different interests. We got to the airport in Belize and he immediately wanted to sit at Jet's Bar and hangout (it is a famous rum bar), relaxing and chatting with the locals. I am antsy because I am in a famous locale, anxious to see the sites and the last thing I want to do is sit in an airport bar. Get the idea? Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 (edited) You are missing my point; it isn't about schedules. It is about personalities and setting out on a year-long adventure with someone you don't know -- but under the auspices of it being nefarious -- is fraught with catastrophe. [she gets to keep tAndhe $100k? Irrelevant. The last relationship I was in involved tremendous amounts of travel and it is one of the things that ripped us apart. I was the one who wanted museums and historical landmarks. He wanted shopping and nightclubs. And we were ostensibly in love with each other and traveling together was a nightmare because of our different interests. We got to the airport in Belize and he immediately wanted to sit at Jet's Bar and hangout (it is a famous rum bar), relaxing and chatting with the locals. I am antsy because I am in a famous locale, anxious to see the sites and the last thing I want to do is sit in an airport bar. Get the idea? She would get to keep the money based on the time together, one month is 1/12 th of the time so 1/12 th of the money and so on. I would say that the site would dictate the activities, Florence as an example has half the worlds art, art would be on the agenda. They also have great cooking schools, that would be fun to try. They have great wineries, why not? They make fabulous jewelry there. Too much of one thing would get boring. The idea is choosing things that both want to do. Edited October 27, 2013 by aliveagain Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 No, sorry. If I liked the man then I don't need 1 million to spend time with him, if I don't know him or don't like him then 1 million isn't enough. Please I don't think my husband or animals would appreciate it. Plus what I pull in on my own, 1 million really isn't that high a number. What if the man realizes that this woman is annoying the crap out of him, does he have the ability to end it for any reason? Why would you want to shackle yourself for a year to someone with the only perimeter they are attractive? There are a lot of attractive but annoying as fu%k people. Be careful opening this Pandora's box. And faithful? For how long, the duration of the trip? How would you feel that she is everything you want throughout this year but realize at the end of it, it was just a business proposition for her and she leaves you at that time? She has fulfilled your requirements. How do you prevent your feelings being hurt? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eclypse Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 I can't believe no ones asked this... But would she be required to have sex with him? Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 Honestly, if I liked the man, even as a friend, what an incredible adventure that would be. Even if you take away financial compensation. It sounds like a tremendous opportunity that I wish were actually possible for me! I love traveling, love adventure and cannot wait to do more of it. "The only things I own which are still worth what they cost me are my travel memories...the mind - pictures of places which I have been hoarding like a happy miser." (Burton Homes) Link to post Share on other sites
Kate9292 Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 If a man was trustworthy, I'd do that. Even now when I have a bf. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 No, sorry. If I liked the man then I don't need 1 million to spend time with him, if I don't know him or don't like him then 1 million isn't enough. Please I don't think my husband or animals would appreciate it. Plus what I pull in on my own, 1 million really isn't that high a number. What if the man realizes that this woman is annoying the crap out of him, does he have the ability to end it for any reason? Why would you want to shackle yourself for a year to someone with the only perimeter they are attractive? There are a lot of attractive but annoying as fu%k people. Be careful opening this Pandora's box. And faithful? For how long, the duration of the trip? How would you feel that she is everything you want throughout this year but realize at the end of it, it was just a business proposition for her and she leaves you at that time? She has fulfilled your requirements. How do you prevent your feelings being hurt? Got it, sorry but she would have to be unattached, no one is here to promote cheating specially when the man making the offer was on the receiving end of infidelity. There would have to be an interview, a one on one so both parties could make a final decision to move forward or decline, hopefully any annoying as fu%k would show up. Your both taking a chance on the feelings part, everyone's human. New options are always an option. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 Before I answer, does he look like he belongs up in a bell tower somewhere? Who_Knows, no he is not Quasimodo, he is very likable but may decide to visit a watchtower on their travels, LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 I assume that's part of the deal. That's what necessitated my question above this post. Yes, but not necessarily a big part of it, sharing an adventure with someone you enjoy being with is the key point. It would be something you would never forget(in a good way) and most never get to experience. People that haven't traveled that much don't know that different places all have different fragrances, the air is different, the birds sing differently, the sound of traffic is different, car horns sound different, the sound of motor scooters by the hundreds zipping by you is an experience in itself. Sitting in a garden surrounded by a 10 foot tall hedge of Bay leaves after a rain is hard to explain to someone until they experience it for themselves. Only you will know what memories become important to you. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 Let me make it clear that I'm not a candidate and wouldn't have been even in my younger, broke days. What about the details? You haven't said whether she is required or strongly expected to allow physical intimacies. What does the requirement for her to be faithful mean exactly? If you find her happily chatting and laughing in public with a local man, does she get angrily fired? Is she required to show affection to you? Could she just be a professional companion without any sexual/physical component? This was common for elderly, wealthy people in the 19th century. Usually the employer was a despot and the companions were resentful drudges. Is this female traveller in fact your employee? Are you the boss? What are her job duties? All in all, problematic. You will doubtless find plenty of women to take you up on it but I would worry about them. Present company excepted, someone eager for the deal as you've described it might be.....kinda sketchy once you get to know her. Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 Women what if someone offered you $100,000.00 dollars after taxes to spend a year travelling with him, would you do it? The only criteria is that you are attractive, enjoy travelling and are faithful. Would you take a year off for the experience if it didn't cost you one cent? Would age matter? Would race matter? Not even remotely tempted. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 Let me make it clear that I'm not a candidate and wouldn't have been even in my younger, broke days. What about the details? You haven't said whether she is required or strongly expected to allow physical intimacies. What does the requirement for her to be faithful mean exactly? If you find her happily chatting and laughing in public with a local man, does she get angrily fired? Is she required to show affection to you? Could she just be a professional companion without any sexual/physical component? This was common for elderly, wealthy people in the 19th century. Usually the employer was a despot and the companions were resentful drudges. Is this female traveller in fact your employee? Are you the boss? What are her job duties? All in all, problematic. You will doubtless find plenty of women to take you up on it but I would worry about them. Present company excepted, someone eager for the deal as you've described it might be.....kinda sketchy once you get to know her. She would not be my employee and is free to talk to anyone she wants to. Openly dating someone would be very disrespectful and thus the requirement for the term faithful and also cause for immediate termination of our agreement. Her only duty is to be herself and treat me with respect, she should have an air of dignity but fun. I'm not too elderly yet, there would be intimacy but nothing forced or expected on demand. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 Not even remotely tempted. Speakingofwhich, this would not be for everyone, just one. Your reply is appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
pinkie Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 Yes Yes! Monaco... Let's go! My passport is still good for the next 2 years, let's get these interviews lined up and get this ball rolling! Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 He is a man that isn't sure he wants to go through the process of another relationship but wants someone to travel with and enjoy the experience with. You would be in a relationship with him, do everything as a couple and he would pay for the trips, hotels, restaurants as if he were your husband. This sounds very strange to me. If the guy isn't sure he wants to be in a relationship, why then pay some girl $100K to be in a fake one? Why not just travel with her or anyone else as a friend? Why lie about being a couple, is the guy that insecure about being single? No amount of money will allow him to bypass the process of developing an actual relationship with someone. He is very sane, not at all desperate Sorry, to me this screams "desperation." Maybe this guy should check out www.misstravel.com. It arranges things like this and insists it's not an escort service. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 This sounds very strange to me. If the guy isn't sure he wants to be in a relationship, why then pay some girl $100K to be in a fake one? Why not just travel with her or anyone else as a friend? Why lie about being a couple, is the guy that insecure about being single? No amount of money will allow him to bypass the process of developing an actual relationship with someone. Sorry, to me this screams "desperation." Maybe this guy should check out www.misstravel.com. It arranges things like this and insists it's not an escort service. normal person, again, no desperation, misstravel would be a far cheaper arrangement. There is no lying if she would prefer to be called a friend, that is fine, we are a couple in appearance so we do not have to explain the arrangement, it is no one elses business but ours. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 I'll find you the girl pay me the $100k. I think you'd have more luck just taking a girl and not paying her. Let the gifts you buy and the expense paid trip be enough. If she's worried about making house payments make them for her. I think the 100k part will actually turn off most quality girls. Thank's GroovyHM, part of the reason for posting this is to get opinions. Last thing I want is to turn off any quality girls because after all that's the ultimate goal, to find a quality woman to share this experience with. The $100K is just to help them get started again. Who knows what her story is. This offer is only to one woman. She could save $1000 a month after tax's and in just 8 1/2 years end up in the same place less the experience of the year long adventure. Perhaps there's a woman that lost a lot in the break up of her past relationship that doesn't want to wait 8 years to be financially secure again, I don't know, maybe your right, this approach might scare the woman that should be with me on this trip away? Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 just curious, if you care to answer, and not trying to be critical of you, but what is attractive to you? lollipopspot, attractive to me is someone who is sure of themselves, looks after her appearance, intelligent, has a flair for fashion, has dignity and is pleasing to the eye without being stunning, I've had it with stunning women, they bring too much trouble into my life. Not looking for someone that uses their sex to attract attention to themselves. She has to be honest above all else. Nationality is not an issue, I myself am of European decent. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 You're going to lose quality girls with the $100k thing. Guaranteed. Better off to just woo them with the all expense paid trip around the world. Don't make it about the money though. Just ask them to travel with you and say they don't have to worry about anything you'll take care of them. The entire I'll give you $100k after taxes will really weird them out. You'll down you odds of finding a quality girl and up your chances of getting a hookerish girl who is there to play tricks on you. GroovyHM, I live outside a large city in a country acreage setting. I'm more than done with the bar and club scene. When I'm ready to go I don't want to waste time trying to meet someone, I just want to go. If the money weird's them out they can refuse it and still have an amazing year of travel. The intent is not to weird out, buy someone or make them feel like a hooker but compensate them for their time away. How else would you prove to someone that the offer is legitimate and real? Ladies, any idea's that would clear this up? Link to post Share on other sites
Furious Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 GroovyHM, I live outside a large city in a country acreage setting. I'm more than done with the bar and club scene. When I'm ready to go I don't want to waste time trying to meet someone, I just want to go. If the money weird's them out they can refuse it and still have an amazing year of travel. The intent is not to weird out, buy someone or make them feel like a hooker but compensate them for their time away. How else would you prove to someone that the offer is legitimate and real? Ladies, any idea's that would clear this up? Either way you cut it, you're basically paying someone for sex and companionship. The way you've phrased it is just a prettier way of saying you require the services of a prostitute and will generously pay for their services. Quality women, who earn their own way and can travel whenever it pleases them will not be tempted by your offer. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 I can't believe no ones asked this... But would she be required to have sex with him? I assumed that it was implied. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 Actually in all seriousness the tax implications of this for the other person would have to be considered. It is far more than the IRS' allowance for a gift so they would need to claim the income on their taxes. Are you grossing up so they have the full amount? Was it 100K or 1 million? 100K that isn't going to be worth some women's time as they are making more than that. Have you thought about sites like sugar daddy or sugar baby? Sounds like what you might be looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 I really think if the sex weren't expected - and explicitly so - that it would be much more likely to attract the kind of woman you might enjoy spending time with. Maybe just someone who wants an adventure. I also think if you are a great guy and she sees that, that you'd get sex out of it anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 Actually in all seriousness the tax implications of this for the other person would have to be considered. It is far more than the IRS' allowance for a gift so they would need to claim the income on their taxes. Are you grossing up so they have the full amount? Was it 100K or 1 million? 100K that isn't going to be worth some women's time as they are making more than that. Have you thought about sites like sugar daddy or sugar baby? Sounds like what you might be looking for. The $100,000.00 is after tax, assuming they are in the 30-40% bracket, they would get enough to compensate for the tax, and yes they would have to claim it as income. If they earn $500K and just want me to pay their tax's that won't work. I would expect the trip to be worth more than the money. Never thought about such site's as sugar babe, someone posted regarding a travel site earlier. I am not looking for a permanent relationship with anyone, not saying that couldn't happen, just a travel partner that enjoys Art, good food, good wine, adventure, beautiful sites, history, fashion. They would come back with amazing memories and enough money in the bank to start something or just take their time deciding what they want to do. Link to post Share on other sites
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