Author aliveagain Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 I really think if the sex weren't expected - and explicitly so - that it would be much more likely to attract the kind of woman you might enjoy spending time with. Maybe just someone who wants an adventure. I also think if you are a great guy and she sees that, that you'd get sex out of it anyway. Wouldn't that get awkward, she may want to meet up with men she meets on the trip, where does that leave me? I don't want to pay for two suits or rooms everywhere we go. It get's messed up. Link to post Share on other sites
Betterthanthis13 Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 This whole thing sounds like a terrible idea for you. It seems like you are trying to shortcut building intimacy with someone who would go on such a trip with you, because you are frustrated and impatient. I'm 100% positive you could find a woman that superficially meets all your criteria to join you, but it just sounds like the wrong way to go about getting to know someone. What would you think if it were the opposite and the tables were turned- a woman proposing a similar arrangement? Would you take her up on it if it was financially beneficial to you? How would you feel about it? About her? Your idea sounds like a recipe for disaster and like you are openly inviting the possibility more pain and drama into your life, although I think I understand in theory where you are coming from, I'm not judging, just curious. Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 Wouldn't that get awkward, she may want to meet up with men she meets on the trip, where does that leave me? I don't want to pay for two suits or rooms everywhere we go. It get's messed up. Well I think you could fairly ask that she not date anyone on the trip because your reason for inviting her is to be a social companion to you, and adding another person triangulates things. If you don't want to pay for 2 rooms, there's the problem. See, it's just hard for me to imagine agreeing to spend a year (or even a night) alone with a guy I don't even know in the same hotel room with these expectations. It turns it from a fun adventure into something a little darker to me. I definitely think it could evolve to what you want, maybe even quickly, but to start out that way is probably problematic for many women. Unless they're professional escorts. I'm trying to be open-minded to your idea, and without the expectation of sex it's interesting. But the expectation of sex turns it into prostitution. Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 He is a man that isn't sure he wants to go through the process of another relationship but wants someone to travel with and enjoy the experience with. You would be in a relationship with him, do everything as a couple and he would pay for the trips, hotels, restaurants as if he were your husband. You would be treated with respect and only the two of you would know about the arrangement. You would be involved with the itinerary and travel arraignments. The amount of time spent in one place wouldn't be an issue. The agreement would be for one year. You would both decide on which places to go to. He is very sane, not at all desperate, and would be able to afford it. So basically you would be working as an escort. I could never do this. I cannot keep my emotions separate from my actions. I would either become attached to him and get hurt from the experience, or it's possible he could piss me off and I would have a miserable time and have to cut the arrangement short. One year is a long time to spend around just one person. I would miss being in my own home. What if I meet someone else and want to pursue a relationship with them but can't because of the fake relationship I am in? No I wouldn't do it. Too many complications. Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 I really think if the sex weren't expected - and explicitly so - that it would be much more likely to attract the kind of woman you might enjoy spending time with. Maybe just someone who wants an adventure. I also think if you are a great guy and she sees that, that you'd get sex out of it anyway. I agree with this. My previous answers did not include the later knowledge that a physical/sexual relationship would be expected. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 I guess it's not good to agree in advance that sex is on the table but I should still pay for everything for someone that isn't in a permanent relationship with me, have I got that right? That I should quickly find someone, wherever that be, to take with me. I have already promised trips to female friends of mine that want to come with me on travels. These female friends don't interest me sexually even though they are very attractive, they are and always will be my friends, they are best friends. I am helping them in other ways. They don't want to be left behind and will never allow me to be somewhere they can't find me. Meeting women that want to use me is easy, I don't need help with that. I want to meet someone who is real and understands where we both stand, no games. Again, it only applies to one woman and I promise her life will be better for knowing me. People that come into my life and become my friend do so for a lifetime. My intent was not to solicit women on this site, my intent was to post an ad where it could be done tastefully and be seen by many. My reason to post here was to ask strangers for their opinion, a litmus test so I don't make a mistake and offend anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) You seem kind to your friends. It's unfortunate that you can't find someone to be actual partners with. But be clear that with sex being expected in exchange for your money, you are soliciting prostitution, and that will really affect the kind of woman who will take your offer. One thing you could do is do trial runs - like make your offer for companionship (with no expectation of sex!) for a week or two vacation. Buy two rooms. If you find someone you really hit it off with, and there is chemistry there, make the bigger offer. Since she knows you better by that time, you can ask her if single room accommodations with two beds, but still absolutely no expectation of sex, is acceptable. Since you already have chemistry, a physical relationship would probably happen naturally in the course of the trip. Edited October 28, 2013 by lollipopspot 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pinkie Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 I'm looking for adventure. The money doesn't matter either way. I would love the opportunity to see and do things I've only ever read about in books, seen in movies or day dreamed of. Heck, I will carry my own bags!!! Life is short. I don't care what anyone else thinks. As stated here many times. This proposition isn't for everybody. There's no need to insult the 'quality' or 'integrity' of a person for being interested in such an arrangement. It could be a once in a lifetime opportunity for someone. A generous offer, for someone who would appreciate it... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 This proposition isn't for everybody. There's no need to insult the 'quality' or 'integrity' of a person for being interested in such an arrangement. It could be a once in a lifetime opportunity for someone. A generous offer, for someone who would appreciate it... I did not mean for anything I said to be taken personally for any individual, so please don't take it that way I'm curious (and no judgement) though: how would you feel about having to sleep with this guy as part of the arrangement? Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 So many go through life by merely existing. All involved would have to consent before anything can happen and that would require a face to face meeting, a personal interview of each other as well as proof of one's ability to meet the financial terms. The offer is not available to anyone in a relationship, they would have to be unencumbered and free to travel. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 The $100,000.00 is after tax, assuming they are in the 30-40% bracket, they would get enough to compensate for the tax, and yes they would have to claim it as income. If they earn $500K and just want me to pay their tax's that won't work. I would expect the trip to be worth more than the money. Never thought about such site's as sugar babe, someone posted regarding a travel site earlier. I am not looking for a permanent relationship with anyone, not saying that couldn't happen, just a travel partner that enjoys Art, good food, good wine, adventure, beautiful sites, history, fashion. They would come back with amazing memories and enough money in the bank to start something or just take their time deciding what they want to do. Not everyone/most on there are necessarily looking for long term relationships. I am not thrilled to say but my father has used them. It is what it is but has found many young women who are interested in his time though the crux of it is based on his wealth. He is dating one woman now that I believe he met through this site or similar that we actually like a good deal. She is younger but not as young as some of the others and seems to truly care for him. She is also not looking to rush him to marriage and is staying long distance due to younger children. So that may be a better option for you on this endeavor. Meet some women, interview them/date them a time or two and then extend this offer to them. Don't do it upfront necessarily until you decided that they are someone that you see a compatibility with. If everyone is upfront and clear on where things stand in the beginning I am pretty much a "whatever floats your boat" person. Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Um... no way. Not a guy I didn't know and wasn't already in a relationship with! No amount of sightseeing would wipe away the thought that I was selling myself and my body to somebody who needed to spend 100k to get someone to go travelling with him. Not to mention being unwilling to take a year off from my studies, my work, my close friendships, my volunteering etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 I have been offered trips round the world with some wealthy guys I've chatted to online. I turned them down because the guys weren't my type anyway and seemed very basic and not very nice people. It was pretty clear why they were offering money to women - because they weren't nice people. I'd love a trip round the world on a cruise ship or whatever, but not with someone I don't like as a person. If he were nice and attractive to me, maybe, but the money aspect would make it seem like a financial contract. I doubt that would be a good start to any holiday. It's best to only go away with someone who's company you enjoy and for it to be clear that you only sleep together if you both choose to do that, not for it to be part of a deal. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted October 30, 2013 Share Posted October 30, 2013 Seems to me that you're not exactly just looking for a 'travel partner', are you? The whole deal sounds a lot like prostitution to me. No thanks. "No, sorry. If I liked the man then I don't need 1 million to spend time with him, if I don't know him or don't like him then 1 million isn't enough. " - sounds about right. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliveagain Posted October 31, 2013 Author Share Posted October 31, 2013 Not Prostitution, not looking for a new long term relationship. I will be doing these things regardless of bringing someone with me or I meet someone in each city. I am just tired of playing games, time is short and what I offer won't be available to most, no one will be hurt by the offer, if they think they will be they shouldn't apply. This offer is available to just 1 adventurous woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 Not Prostitution Are you or are you not paying for someone to travel and have sex with you for the 1 year period? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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