I love my bestfriend and at 1 point she liked me but not now>Let her go or Hold on?

[Lostinlove247]

It all started about 4 years ago when i was in 8th grade and i met this girl and i didnt know it yet, but she was goin to be my best friend, the person i love and the person who may possibly be destrying my life...

 

In the beginning of our friendship she didnt really like me as a friend...i started to like her in between 9th and 10th grade (by the way i am 16 and in 11th grade) and she didnt really want anything to do with me but over the summer goin into 11th grade we got really close...we spent everyday together and it was a friendship were we can just sit around and play videogames or talk...and she kinda know that i like her but she has a b/f who is a dick and abuses her, hes also im my grade, but he told her that he liked another girl and they were kinda on a break but not offically broken up... so i saw this as my chance and i spent every moment i could with her and we did everything together, ppl would come up to me and be like are u 2 goin out and i would be like "no" and they are like "u guys look so cute together though" and then one day during the week that i was spending about 12 hours a day with her we go back to her house and we are watching a movie and its just me and her and i make the worst move of my life and lean in and as she leans in i kiss her on the CHEEK...i felt so stupid...

 

So then her and her boyfriend clear things up and they get back together..then one nite we get kinda drunk and we are walking around and i am with her and a bunch of friends and we go to the bathroom and so i wait outside and she is like can i lay on u and im like sure and she lays on me and she leans her forhead up against mine and like the idiot i am i dont do anything...another miss oppurtunity

 

And now the summer is over and i descide maybe if i ignore her and go for like the freshman shell get jealous well one thing leads to another and she starts to like it but i didnt realize she liked me till after the fact that she had liked me...

 

Now its about a week ago and her and her boyfriend had broken up and ive waited about a month and i tell her i like her...i tell her that the onli thing i care about is her and being with her... and she tells me she doesnt know how she feels and now i feel like shes slipping away from me and she might be getting with some other guy

 

Well i dont know if i should grab on to her and try to get her to like me again or to let her go and move on and risk the friendship being destroy (which rite now is a risk i am willing to take)?

[Hannah]

I've been in your position, i think you should just leave it just carry on with the relationship as friends she knows how u feel its up to her now to make the final move. Still keep an eye open for other girls, don't tie yaself down to her , u don't want to put pressure on her as that may spoil the friendship. You never know in the future what could cum of your friendship, but right now she has just found out that someone she has been close friends with and has been comfortable with now likes her , so if u find that she is not as close its may be because she doesn't want to give u any wrong signs.

 

hope this helps in anyway

 

hannah x

[SuperFantastico]

Kid, i've been stuck in your position for 10 years. Sort of the same situation as

you are in. Basically there is a window of oportunity. You might have missed it

im sorry to say. Now you are stuck in the friend zone.

 

My advice to you is to back off from her for a while. If you hang with her all the time

you will just reinforce the fact that you are just her buddy(lol i was told i was like

a brother to her ....er my girl not yours ) Hang around with your other

friends, and keep this girl in the every once in a while friend. You are still young

and there are probably alot more girls that like you that you have been ignoring.

 

The time for you to get this girl is a couple years down the road, maybe even

first or second year university. You have to get out of her head that you are

only her friend. Perhaps if she sees you hook up with a girl or two and that

you treat them very well, she will come around. Worse case, you hooked up

with a girl or two

 

But putting your life on hold to wait for something that might happen isnt gonna

solve anything and will eat you up inside. Belive me, im actually hollow