Long dis. relationship.....advice plz!!!!

[Devlyn]

[color=darkblue][/color]OK, here is my problem....There is a man that I have loved very deeply for the past 3 years.....it was love at first sight for both of us. I was 16 at the time and he was 20 so there was some problems there. Since the age thing bothered both of us, we were going to take it easy untill I turned 17.....which was 2 wks. away. Well 2 days after my birthday he had to move to Dallas for personal/safety reasons and a week later he ran with the wrong crowd and was arrested.

 

That was about 2 years ago and I saw him for the first time since my 17th birthday......I'm 19 now......and I still love him and he feels the same. We've been writing for 8 months. We want to spend our lives together when he gets out.....which can be anywhere from 2-6 years from now. I want to marry this man and have a life together......please does anyone have any advice for getting through these hard times for us? I would like some outside help/advice. thx

 

Jen

[Pocky]

Enjoy life while you can.

[bicyclejunk]

is it really True Love? Ask yourself that.

 

Why is he in Prison? Why did he have to Flee for Safety Reasons?

 

 

 

Only advice I can give to put your heart at ease is to critique the situation.

 

1) Ask yourself if it's worth waiting for him

 

2) Ask yourself if you're not wasting your time, waiting for this guy to get out of prison.

 

You've probably heard this all before, But meeting someone at 16 and wanting to be with

them for the rest of your life is sort of jumping the gun. You haven't had a life yet or experienced

other things. Maybe you have. But have you dated anyone else???

 

If this dude was running with the "wrong Crowd", did he care about what you thought about that?

[Devlyn]

The reason he is in jail is because 1) he had a bad past that he couldn't get away from and 2) wrong place, wrong time......

 

I have dated other guys.....I mean, hell, I'm 19 now and well I have been happy with other people....but not like I was with him. When I saw him this past weekend, I knew that I would always love him.......and I knew he loved me.....I've never seen that look in anyones eyes before.....when he looked at me....... he's the only man I can picture myself living with and growing old with, having children together.......I've never thought like that towards any other guy........never even imagine it. While hes incarcerated.....he told me to do whatever I want to keep myself happy.......even if I am with another guy......... Ive dated one guy and I told him about Matt.........and he understood........I'm not going to hind anything from anyone.....I have no reason to, nor do I want to.

Yeah, he was running with the wrong crowd, he did and still does care about what I think of it, he never knew untill recently about how I really felt about him and if he would of known earlier*two yrs. ago* he would of done everything he could to get out of it.