Wife's Female Friend Sniffed My Boxers..is this creepy to anyone else?

[2sure]

I change clothes in my closet. And I'm really bad about it, I'll toss clothes on the floor or dresser. I'll be the first to say I will pick up a blouse or thirst and give it a sniff test. But I don't sniff my own underwear, let alone someone else's .

 

I wouldn't feel violated if someone else did though. I just wouldn't care.

[Grumpybutfun]

Maybe your wife just made up this brilliant story so you'd start picking up your knickers and put them where they belong!

 

Heyyyyy Bent...I usually am very good at putting things where they belong...25 years military so I am neater even than my wife. However, I was trying not to carry dirty clothes through the house while other people were drinking and eating in the kitchen. Wow, I am getting more flack for my underwear in my bathroom floor (we have other 2 bathrooms downstairs where guests go btw so I had no idea anyone would travel all the way through a bedroom and a closet to get to ours.)

My male neighbor was there, and none of the other male neighbors had shown up yet, so I was in a hurry because he yelled to me when I came in from watching college football with buddies...."Hey save me, get out here quick. All this estrogen is killing me." Poor guy looked like a deer in headlights.

Usually very neat, thank you very much,

Grumps

 

p.s. Wife said your post was dead on! Then she laughed. Not funny!

[Grumpybutfun]

Not me...If she farted at 8AM id still smell that at 8 PM....No fcking way..

 

TFY

 

Wow, I should take you hunting with me....

[OpheliaSong]

Ophelia:

My wife was referring to gifts bought/made for my wife, not Joan. My wife is into historical maps of exploration. I am a bit of a amateur cartographer so I will make my wife maps of certain historical expeditions she likes (like Scott and Amundsens's race to the South Pole.) Apparently that impressed her very much. I also take my wife traveling a great deal which she wishes Bob would do for her.

No, I did not lead her on. I am polite, but have never been alone with her. If my wife is in the room, there really isn't anyone else really, is there? My wife has the presence of a tiny whirlwind and she pretty much keeps me focused on her.

 

 

Sorry Grumps! I misunderstood. I thought you had bought/made Joan gifts. What a little romantic you are! These maps sound great....did you do them by computer graphics design?

[SincereOnlineGuy]

There was absolutely no way I thought anyone but my wife and I would be in that bathroom...it is a walk from the entertainment areas, but I will not leave my shorts in the floor again when that woman is around.

 

Master bathroom is through the master bedroom and walk-through closet, so my wife was grabbing a sweater because we were all gathered around the fire pit on the verandah and she was cold. She grabbed the sweater looked up and saw her and backed out really quietly. We had music on the speakers throughout the house so she probably didn't hear my wife.

I think my wife was amused by it, and a little tipsy or otherwise she probably wouldn't have told me.

I have come to the conclusion that Joan was maybe a little drunk and did something silly or my wife would have expounded on it as we talk about everything.

Thanks to everyone who agreed it was creepy. Just making sure I wasn't overreacting.

Grumps

 

 

 

Was there a diving board??? and (a young) Phoebe Cates ???

[JamesM]

Was there a diving board??? and (a young) Phoebe Cates ???

 

That was one of my favorite movie scenes way back when. Looking at it now, I wonder at myself.

 

Last night, I walked into the bathroom and there lying on the floor was...my wife's underwear. THIS is the lingerie of the woman that I crush on. This is of the person who I love more than anyone else. Now...do I sniff it, pick it up and put it in the laundry, or leave it? In the past there was no confusion. I would simply pick it up knowing that it dropped out of her arms. Last night I had this strong urge to pick it up and sniff it. Thankfully, there was no one behind me.

 

No, I didn't, but I am sure that the rest of the family was wondering why I was laughing as I walked by to the laundry room with underwear in my hand.

[FitChick]

I have a feeling Joan is much less attractive than your wife. If the reverse were true, your wife would not have been so generous.

[aussietigerwolf]

I'd feel jealous and territorial but... also sorry for joan that her husband does not treat her like he should.

[Sanman]

I have a feeling Joan is much less attractive than your wife. If the reverse were true, your wife would not have been so generous.

 

I had the same thought.

[Grumpybutfun]

I have a feeling Joan is much less attractive than your wife. If the reverse were true, your wife would not have been so generous.

 

 

I think my wife is the more attractive person, but then, I think she is more attractive than most everyone. Joan is, how do I say this without being mean, very fake looking.

 

Platinum hair, fake breasts, tons of makeup, and my wife is very natural looking. She doesn't need anything to be attractive. I also think my wife knows that Joan is not my type because she is so fake looking.

 

My wife has informed me of some really screwed up things "Bob" has done over the years so I think my wife feels for her too. I wouldn't believe everything I hear, but I pretty much thought he was an arse the minute I met him. He is a condescending nitpicker, and doesn't miss a chance for bragging. I can only imagine what he is like in private if he is this unlikeable in front of people.

 

Update:

 

My wife is by nature a very generous forgiving person. Yet, I can tell that she isn't happy with the boxer sniffing incident. She is becoming more vocal about it, and I think she will end up confronting her about it. She said it is hard to be friends with someone who covets your husband. At this point, it isn't a big deal to me but she seems to be getting angrier about it. The more she thinks about it, the more heated she gets.

 

 

Grumps

[Charlie Harper]

I just hope your boxers did not have any "skid marks" on them...

 

THAT would be bloody awful !

[serial muse]

I think my wife is the more attractive person, but then, I think she is more attractive than most everyone. Joan is, how do I say this without being mean, very fake looking.

 

Platinum hair, fake breasts, tons of makeup, and my wife is very natural looking. She doesn't need anything to be attractive. I also think my wife knows that Joan is not my type because she is so fake looking.

 

My wife has informed me of some really screwed up things "Bob" has done over the years so I think my wife feels for her too. I wouldn't believe everything I hear, but I pretty much thought he was an arse the minute I met him. He is a condescending nitpicker, and doesn't miss a chance for bragging. I can only imagine what he is like in private if he is this unlikeable in front of people.

 

Update:

 

My wife is by nature a very generous forgiving person. Yet, I can tell that she isn't happy with the boxer sniffing incident. She is becoming more vocal about it, and I think she will end up confronting her about it. She said it is hard to be friends with someone who covets your husband. At this point, it isn't a big deal to me but she seems to be getting angrier about it. The more she thinks about it, the more heated she gets.

 

 

Grumps

 

Aw. I don't blame your wife at all - that would make me really uncomfortable too, and I think Joan crossed a line there - but it's hard not to feel sorry for Joan too. I suspect her fakeness came about through efforts to get her husband to notice her more. Desperation makes you do crazy things. Sad all around.

[Sanman]

I see a few ways to solve any unresolved feelings about this.

 

1. You guys go their their house and your wife sniffs Bob' underwear in front of Joan. I figure this makes you even, but I have a feeling your wife will not agree to that (though it would be hilarious).

 

2. You give Joan those boxers as a Christmas gift and never mention anything else about it to anyone before or after that.

 

3. You fade out. Really, this is the only mature response as confronting Joan will likely lead to her denying it ever happened out of embarrassment.

 

Whatever happens, keep us posted.

[Grumpybutfun]

I see a few ways to solve any unresolved feelings about this.

 

1. You guys go their their house and your wife sniffs Bob' underwear in front of Joan. I figure this makes you even, but I have a feeling your wife will not agree to that (though it would be hilarious).

 

2. You give Joan those boxers as a Christmas gift and never mention anything else about it to anyone before or after that.

 

3. You fade out. Really, this is the only mature response as confronting Joan will likely lead to her denying it ever happened out of embarrassment.

 

Whatever happens, keep us posted.

 

1 and 2 are not happening. Joan is not getting my boxers for Christmas as they are almost impossible to replace. I had hoped there were skid marks, though wife said there wasn't (odiferous revenge.) And, the thought of sniffing Joan's underwear is just revolting to me. :sick:

 

I agree with 3 also. I have already faded out about it. Agreed it was a creepy incident and now am over it. Plus, it is hunting season so I have been busy. However, my wife seems to be getting angrier and angrier, and I don't interfere in her responses to things.

 

She was on the phone today with her sister and she was saying, "How would Joan feel if I did that to Bob?" And her sister apparently replied that Joan would probably be grateful. Apparently, I am getting a lot of sympathy for unwanted attention, and the consensus is that Joan is out of line. My wife is getting flack for not confronting her in the act, and I think she now wonders if she should have.

 

Staying out of it,

Grumps

[Grumpybutfun]

Wow, another update on the ongoing situation I wish I was not involved in.....

 

Joan sent me a text at work asking me what kind of cologne I wear so she could get some for Bob for Christmas. I didn't answer. Gave wife the text and told her that her friend is using my work phone for personal calls, and I find that unacceptable. Not sure how she got that number, btw. I do not share it outside of work. This is getting annoying. Wife is livid!

SMH,

Grumps

[Outsider77]

That's actually kind of creepy stalker-like behavior, when you look at the other things she's done.

[OpheliaSong]

Wow, another update on the ongoing situation I wish I was not involved in.....

 

Joan sent me a text at work asking me what kind of cologne I wear so she could get some for Bob for Christmas. I didn't answer. Gave wife the text and told her that her friend is using my work phone for personal calls, and I find that unacceptable. Not sure how she got that number, btw. I do not share it outside of work. This is getting annoying. Wife is livid!

SMH,

Grumps

 

I was afraid of something like this happening. I think she has an unnatural obsession with you. I am also thinking your wife should have confronted her when she saw her sniff your undies. Obviously the woman has no boundaries and now she is actively pursuing you. I wonder if she smelled your cologne on your undies...this would make me very angry if I was your wife.

[JamesM]

Joan sent me a text at work asking me what kind of cologne I wear so she could get some for Bob for Christmas. I didn't answer.

 

Really?

 

Odeur de l'entrejambe

 

Sorry. I couldn't resist.

 

Anyhow, this is weird. I know one thing....this "line" is similar to one that men use when they want to pick up a woman. Methinks Joan is step by step getting on your good side with the intention of starting something.

 

I think it is wise that you did not respond to her text. It was a way to get a connection with you or a start of a process to snare you in.

 

First she asks for the cologne brand. Then she tells you how when she smells it on Bob, it reminds her of you. Then she tells you that it doesn't smell the same on Bob as ob you. Then she wants to sniff you (as opposed to just your boxers), And if you allow her, then who knows.

 

Your wife should be angry, and she should put a stop to it now. This is not how friends treat other friends. It would be nice if she could do so without embarrassing Joan, Bob, or the two of you. And it would be nice if you could still stay friends.

 

My guess is that Joan will move on to another man in time if you don't respond to her.

[serial muse]

Wow, another update on the ongoing situation I wish I was not involved in.....

 

Joan sent me a text at work asking me what kind of cologne I wear so she could get some for Bob for Christmas. I didn't answer. Gave wife the text and told her that her friend is using my work phone for personal calls, and I find that unacceptable. Not sure how she got that number, btw. I do not share it outside of work. This is getting annoying. Wife is livid!

SMH,

Grumps

 

Oh, ugh. I would be livid too! This is where the sympathy for Poor Joan ends. It's one thing to get carried away in a drunken moment of wistfulness, and quite another to send inappropriate texts to your friend's H at work when you're stone cold sober. I'm very glad you showed the text to your wife; hopefully she will find some way to shut. this. down.

[Art_Critic]

Well.. maybe it was drunk texting

 

Time for a coming to jesus meeting..IMO it might be time for her to mention the briefs thing...

[hotpotato]

She likes you. Too much.

 

I would document her creepy behavior just in case the poo really hits the fan.

[whichwayisup]

Wow, another update on the ongoing situation I wish I was not involved in.....

 

Joan sent me a text at work asking me what kind of cologne I wear so she could get some for Bob for Christmas. I didn't answer. Gave wife the text and told her that her friend is using my work phone for personal calls, and I find that unacceptable. Not sure how she got that number, btw. I do not share it outside of work. This is getting annoying. Wife is livid!

SMH,

Grumps

 

I told you that this crush of hers is not right. It's doing damage to her, as well as creeping you out and now your wife is mad.

 

Time for you and your wife to distance yourself from Joan and cut her out of your lives. She is obsessed with you!!

[salparadise]

Joan is not getting my boxers for Christmas as they are almost impossible to replace.

 

I'm sure she'd by happy with a facsimile thereof, as long as they're properly scented. Wondering if you got Bob to scent a pair and you gave them to her as yours, maybe she'd switch teams and become obsessed with her husband and everyone could live happily ever after. Worth at try doncha think?

[xxoo]

Time to distances yourselves from this friend. She's on her way off the deep end, and you don't want to join her....

[stillafool]

Wow, another update on the ongoing situation I wish I was not involved in.....

 

Joan sent me a text at work asking me what kind of cologne I wear so she could get some for Bob for Christmas. I didn't answer. Gave wife the text and told her that her friend is using my work phone for personal calls, and I find that unacceptable. Not sure how she got that number, btw. I do not share it outside of work. This is getting annoying. Wife is livid!

SMH,

Grumps

 

Now Joan is really starting to cross boundaries. I would have went totally off if anyone was sniffing my husbands boxers and especially following up with a phone call to find out his scent. Why should I feel sorry for her just because she is a woman. My husband would feel no sympathy for a man if he caught him doing such a thing. Your wife needs to burn her butt at this point and knowing me I would put a lid on the friendship. Friends don't do these type of things to each other.