Friend is confusing

[thatmusicdude]

Ok, this is kind of a long story but hopefully you guys/gals can offer some advice. I am having problems understanding my one friend and what to see what you think. Matt and I have been friends for over a year and at this point I consider him to be my best "guy" friend. The weird thing is that both of us were use to having "girl" friends and never a guy friend, so it is really cool for the both of us. Anyway sometimes Matt acts in ways were I have to question why? For example, he also refers to me as his Best Friend but his behavior every once in a while does not show it. Recently we were at school and I knew that after I would not be doing anything and kept trying to find something to do since my Sarah was busy. Well Matt made a comment about not having anything to do after school so I figured I could hangout with him. Problem is that neither of us will ask the other to hangout. It's almost as if we fear rejection from one another. He made a brief comment about going out with his Mom to get something but did not say that day. When Sarah's Dad came to pick her up she asked us if we where going to hangout and Matt said probably not and when she asked why he said that I had homework. I told him no I didn't and he said oh and then said he should probably go shopping with his Mom. I just get confused as to why he does this. I mean their are other things too.

One minute you can joke and mess with him and he will come back at you. The next minute he sits quietly. Sometimes I wonder if it is the whole deal with always having girl friends and no guy friends. I know for me sometimes I dunno what to do. But I feel bad when he does this because it's like he doesn't want to be my friend.

My Mom said that maybe he had been rejected so many times in the past that he still holds that inside and that's why he never speaks up.

 

Well this post is kinda long already so I'll let you guys work on this one and post again later. I would really like to hear any suggestions you guys have. I mean if we are suppose to be Best Friends. I would hope we could act like it. Other than this commmunication issue we are Best Friends. Thanks everyone in advance.

[Pocky]

Problem is that neither of us will ask the other to hangout.

 

I would hope we could act like it.

 

So why aren't YOU acting like it? Maybe he's taking your lead and thinks that because you don't ask him to do things that you don't want to do anything with him? You both may be feeling exactly the same way but because you don't initiate quality time with your friend you don't have quality in your relationship.

 

Wouldn't it just be easier to ask him to hang out? Ask him what he's doing one weekend and do guy things? Maybe he'd feel more like a friend and start acting like one.

[thatmusicdude]

I know but I have made many attempts on my end. The other thing is I always feel guilty because he calls me and I rarely call him. But the thing is he is usually at work and says I can call, yet the times I call he is usually irritated and I never get a full conversation with him. I never call his house because he is rarely home and he is paranoid about people calling his house. I am just curious how I can have a supposed friendship that acts so distant.