M30USA Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 ...asking her (via courteous email) to not interfere or monitor my phone calls with the children. I kid you not. Lol. Link to post Share on other sites
K Os Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 Wow - that's extreme. Restraining you from what, exactly? Asking her things? Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 I gotta say - you got the full clown car. She and her parents are wacko. How'd you ever breed w that uh- woman? Very scary. Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 Wow - that's extreme. Restraining you from what, exactly? Asking her things? It's just her typical modus operandae: respond with a nuclear threat when someone brings up anything she knows is true and merely requests what is right. Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 I gotta say - you got the full clown car. She and her parents are wacko. How'd you ever breed w that uh- woman? Very scary. I was a stupid, naive, hormone-influenced young man. Did I ever pay the price. And I was never even the kind to go sleeping around, either. But maybe I should have because at least then I would have gotten some experience with weeding out women like her. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 With your children involved - and your (hopefully) continuing relationship with them .. I think it's time for a consultation with a family law attorney. Many will give you a free consultation at the beginning. You need to know how far you can go and to be able to see or talk to your children w/o her pursuing you legally. It kind of seems to me, she could just 'look' for reasons for the restraining order since she even wants control over school functions. (sorry, but I forgot your current visitation arrangements) Do you get to see your children often and consistently? Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) With your children involved - and your (hopefully) continuing relationship with them .. I think it's time for a consultation with a family law attorney. Many will give you a free consultation at the beginning. You need to know how far you can go and to be able to see or talk to your children w/o her pursuing you legally. It kind of seems to me, she could just 'look' for reasons for the restraining order since she even wants control over school functions. (sorry, but I forgot your current visitation arrangements) Do you get to see your children often and consistently? I havd Standard Possession. Every other weekend. If I move closer, I will get expanded possession (added Thursdays every week). The judge specifically ordered that ALL of our communication had to be written. I don't email her that much and it's always about children and nothing else. She, however, has a history of emailing ad nauseum about "putting sunblock on the kids" (evdn though I am). She has asked me over 12 times in last few months about this same thing--sunblock. I don't know how else to express that I feel she is infringing on my legal rights (according to Children's Bill of Rights) to speak with kids without getting monitored or interrupted. She's just doing what I call her usual 3B behavior: BULLY, BLUFF, and BUMRUSH. Her whole family operates the same way. Edited October 28, 2013 by M30USA Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Pick your battles. Remote chance she'll ever change. Thankfully your children will grow older with each passing day. Your developing relationship w th must invve an appreciation for the insurmountable control she and her parents exert on them. Kids have a way of surviving. Tween years will be rough on their crazy mom. Give yourself permission to let some of this go. Sooner than later people like her do themselves in. She has no inclination to recognize natural boundaries. Your kids will catch on. Right now she qualifies her love of them w compliance to her crazy ways pf sullying your character. She's nutz. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 Pick your battles. Remote chance she'll ever change. Thankfully your children will grow older with each passing day. Your developing relationship w th must invve an appreciation for the insurmountable control she and her parents exert on them. Kids have a way of surviving. Tween years will be rough on their crazy mom. Give yourself permission to let some of this go. Sooner than later people like her do themselves in. She has no inclination to recognize natural boundaries. Your kids will catch on. Right now she qualifies her love of them w compliance to her crazy ways pf sullying your character. She's nutz. Thanks for advice. I've been trying to pick my battles as you say. Forgive me, lol, I just got done reading "Men On Strike" so I suppose I was a little...pumped up. But I was quickly reminded why you can't rationalize or make progress with a probable disordered personality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 The progress you make is to persevere to maintain the parent child relationship. Many a parent gives up slowly. She's seeking any fight she can muster. Do you wish she could be self sacrificing for her babies? Of course but that never was to be. Try to remind yourself that kids leave innocent childhood at Tweens - say 12 or 12. Time and sanity are your weapons. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 The progress you make is to persevere to maintain the parent child relationship. Many a parent gives up slowly. She's seeking any fight she can muster. Do you wish she could be self sacrificing for her babies? Of course but that never was to be. Try to remind yourself that kids leave innocent childhood at Tweens - say 12 or 12. Time and sanity are your weapons. Yea I can tell she's trying everything she can to tire me out and turn me away from wanting a relationship with my kids. It's a war of attrition for her. But, truthfully, I'm feeling better now (even with all her crap) than I did during our marriage. So I'm good to go for a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
hayewils Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 It is amazing what kids do grow and learn over the years. I went through a lot, so did the kds when i divorced their wacky mother. They still talk to their mom, and they better otherwise i would be all over the but, they have nothing to do with their wacky grandmother and that one i leave alone. Kids do learn Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 It is amazing what kids do grow and learn over the years. I went through a lot, so did the kds when i divorced their wacky mother. They still talk to their mom, and they better otherwise i would be all over the but, they have nothing to do with their wacky grandmother and that one i leave alone. Kids do learn How/why do your kids have nothing to do with their wacky grandmother? Link to post Share on other sites
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