He doesn't want children, should I worry?

[pink_sugar]

I have a friend who is pregnant with her THIRD child and turning 25 next month. 3 different fathers, one child she doesn't have custody of and she's never been married. I remember her posting on facebook one time about how birth control is expensive. And kids are cheaper than birth control?

[beatcuff]

I'm very, very interested in the stats for this please. Could you post? The OP might find it useful too.

 

do we seriously need 'stats' to prove what we all know to be true/ideal --- two loving parents, that are insink [sic], are mature (a/k/a mentally stable), are financially comfortable (which is different for each family).

 

Versus --- in this case one parent is not 'ready'. and the other appears to be stooping her foot --- 'i want it NOW'.

[Silly_Girl]

I asked about this:

 

For every young Mother that had an easy time about it, I'm sure there are 10 who would sing a different tune. For every kid who looks back and says, 'I never went without!' There are 10 more like me who say, "I went hungry, I went without clothing and the stress of being a young Mother drove MY Mother to abuse me."

 

I am truely glad that women like you made it work. But understand that makes you exceptional. You are not the norm.

 

Not this:

 

do we seriously need 'stats' to prove what we all know to be true/ideal --- two loving parents, that are insink [sic], are mature (a/k/a mentally stable), are financially comfortable (which is different for each family).

 

[pteromom]

This doesn't have to be a young mother vs. older mother debate. Obviously, there are pros and cons to both.

 

But in this case, the OP is young and in a relationship with someone who doesn't want children. So pointing out the PROS of being an older mom benefit her.

 

There are good and bad mothers, in every age range.