I hurt my bf but will he eventually get better with time?

[Chi townD]

Ok so we're still trying to work it out but it's going to take a while.

 

Spectre did you not read clearly when I posted that there was no sex involved. I stopped it before it even got there. We did the other things but sex. Let me repeat it again, I never got penetrated by his friend.

 

okay, fine. You didn't have sex. But, you don't have to have intercourse to cheat. A good definition of cheating is saying or doing something with someone else that you wouldn't do in front of your significant other. That's cheating.

 

Therefore, you cheated.

[stillafool]

Ok so we're still trying to work it out but it's going to take a while.

 

It's doubtful it will last. He will eventually move on to another girl.

[ascendotum]

I have apologized countless of times and know nothing excuses what I did. Then he wrote this message on my email ''You know I was really going to surprise you with a date. I was saving money and had told all my friends about it. But no, I had to see that stupid, cheap Olive Garden picture. You ruined my plans. You ruined everything. I was going to take you somewhere better. Now I don't even want to take you anywhere. If Mickie D was so offensive to you, now we're not going anywhere.''

 

Im not sure where in the timeline of events this email came. I am guessing it was maybe soon after he knew of you going out with his friend. If this was recent or he has not taken you out anywhere in the last 6 mths and you are still struggling to have things get back to normal, then I'd say forget it. The relationship is too wounded. I realize there was no sex involved but your bf does not know that for sure and going out with his ex best friend is going to be especially hurtful for him (what a choice + to get photographed....geez).

At the same time with him, you don't know how much of a saint he has been when he would break plans with you to go out to hit the clubs. You & us will have no idea if he did a lot more with girls than just say hi as they passed by, when he was out clubbing without you. If you haven't recently then you should have a heart to heart talk with him to get his true feelings on the current status of the relationship to see if it is worth continuing with. He's likely still harboring some resentment and like someone else said he could easily just be treading water with you till he finds someone else to fall in love with.

Edited November 7, 2013 by ascendotum

[Spectre]

Ok so we're still trying to work it out but it's going to take a while.

 

Spectre did you not read clearly when I posted that there was no sex involved. I stopped it before it even got there. We did the other things but sex. Let me repeat it again, I never got penetrated by his friend.

 

Ok you didn't have sex, but you did do something. If you truly loved this person you wouldn't of blown his friend. It is pretty much that simple. I think the best thing you can do is to just move on and next time you have feelings for someone do not cheat on them.

[Kate9292]

Ok you didn't have sex, but you did do something. If you truly loved this person you wouldn't of blown his friend. It is pretty much that simple. I think the best thing you can do is to just move on and next time you have feelings for someone do not cheat on them.

 

No it's not.

 

Loving someone doesn't mean other people stop existing sexually. I love my bf but have no problem finding other guys sexy too. Some of them may be even sexier than him but I still want to be with him.