Bubblegumkitty Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 So I'm in love with a real close friend. I told her that I'm in love with her and she said that she likes me, but we shouldn't date because we live about two hours away from each other. I understood that at first but then I got thinking and I really want that to change...and I've tried to talk to her about it but idk how to bring it up without sounding annoying. So does anyone know what I should say to her?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bubblegumkitty Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 So I'm in love with a real close friend. I have known her for about three to four years now but we were never really that close untill just this pass july. I told her that I'm in love with her and she said that she likes me, but we shouldn't date because we live about two hours away from each other. I understood that at first but then I got thinking and I really want that to change...and I've tried to talk to her about it but idk how to bring it up without sounding annoying. So does anyone know what I should say to her?? Cuz I just feel completly lost without her... Link to post Share on other sites
jagon Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 You may think I'm an ******* for saying this, but I must be honest! This is what you want, and need. So no bull****, or pandering, or trying to make you feel good about yourself. I'm going to be brutally honest. When a girl finds a reason, no matter what it is, to "not" date you, it's a clear indication that she's not whole heartedly into the idea at all. In a way I'm glad that you saw this now, rather than later on in the relationship. I get the feeling you love her and would do anything for her. Maybe even put up with a bad situation just to keep her. So my answer is just a plain no. Feel lost, be lost, get comfortable with lost. When she can feel that you genuinely don't want/need her, she MIGHT (read: maybe, it usually works but not always) come to you and lay down her feelings at your mercy. Let me know how it goes Link to post Share on other sites
theothersully Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 Wow, this is really good advice that hits home for me in a similar situation. Thank you for this post. You may think I'm an ******* for saying this, but I must be honest! This is what you want, and need. So no bull****, or pandering, or trying to make you feel good about yourself. I'm going to be brutally honest. When a girl finds a reason, no matter what it is, to "not" date you, it's a clear indication that she's not whole heartedly into the idea at all. In a way I'm glad that you saw this now, rather than later on in the relationship. I get the feeling you love her and would do anything for her. Maybe even put up with a bad situation just to keep her. So my answer is just a plain no. Feel lost, be lost, get comfortable with lost. When she can feel that you genuinely don't want/need her, she MIGHT (read: maybe, it usually works but not always) come to you and lay down her feelings at your mercy. Let me know how it goes Link to post Share on other sites
jagon Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 No offense, but it's clear that you are a bit young. This article is fascinatingly correct and wrong at the same time. I would love to meet you. In a couple of years you will be embarrassed by this piece because you will know more/better. And I look forward to seeing what you bring to the table in future. Link to post Share on other sites
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