He wants me back!

[Zoe Lilith]

I just haad the need to share this with you, I don't know if this site helped me or my new hobby (ballroom dancing), but I felt I need to share this with you. I received an email from my ex today. He said that after all I've done to him, he is willing to forget about that, he would like to talk things out, and that we belong together, blah, blah, blah.....I wasn't excited about that at all, I was angry. I haven't even read the email fully thru, nor have I responded. In fact, I was so upset that I blocked his email address. Strange that I moved on that quickly, after me begging him to take me back, just a few weeks back..I am affraid that I might be in denial or that I am really mad, since I allowed myself to go that low and beg a dude to talk to me and to reconsider...I have no feelings for him (or is it just my anger), but I was finally able to 'breathe' again, before his stupid email. I don't care what he thnks or does, I just hope that this isn't my denial.

[Toddbt12y1]

Looks like the roles have reversed. I am happy you blocked his email. That is the right thing to do. This guy is very selfish. A control freak, I mean, he will "forgive" you for all you've done? Lol, what a piece. What, he has done, he should be asking you to forgive him.

 

He doesn't care.

 

He doesn't even see his own wrong doing here. He's a narcissist. I do believe you dodged the bullet. Anger here is a great thing. It is a healthy progress through these stages.

 

Don't give in. Feel proud, and be happy: You did the right thing, blocked him. He reverted to trying to get you back. You got the power to deny him, and did so. That is reclaiming some power.

Edited October 29, 2013 by Toddbt12y1

[Zoe Lilith]

Looks like the roles have reversed. I am happy you blocked his email. That is the right thing to do. This guy is very selfish. A control freak, I mean, he will "forgive" you for all you've done? Lol, what a piece. What, he has done, he should be asking you to forgive him.

 

He doesn't care.

 

He doesn't even see his own wrong doing here. He's a narcissist. I do believe you dodged the bullet. Anger here is a great thing. It is a healthy progress through these stages.

 

Don't give in. Feel proud, and be happy: You did the right thing, blocked him. He reverted to trying to get you back. You got the power to deny him, and did so. That is reclaiming some power.

Well, I did call him names after realising that he was lying...anyway, I really don't want to hear it or have anything to do with this individual any more. Thank you so much for your support and logic :-)

[Toddbt12y1]

Well, I did call him names after realising that he was lying...anyway, I really don't want to hear it or have anything to do with this individual any more. Thank you so much for your support and logic :-)

 

Name calling happens. Don't bite any bait he may try to hook you with. I thinj you are doing a fine job with all this.

[Never Again]

Your feelings are your own - and you're doing the right thing by following them.

 

Even *if* you wanted him back, it's not something that should be easy on him...not after what he did.

 

I think you're doing the right thing. If you have no feelings for him, if you want nothing to do with him, then congratulations!

 

HOWEVER, please spend the time to really investigate your own feelings.

 

The fact that you're wondering if your lack of feelings for him could be due to anger or denial...well, you need to figure that out. The last thing you want is to making a post in a month or two about how you "regret missing your chance!"

 

He has to operate on your timeline. If he squirms under the pressure, great. He made you wait while he figured out what he wanted...now he gets to be patient while you find your zen.

[Zoe Lilith]

Name calling happens. Don't bite any bait he may try to hook you with. I thinj you are doing a fine job with all this.

I don't intend to, no way! I don't feel anything towards that person. That's why I wondered if I am in denial... I thought it's going to take me forever to move on... Anyway, the email is blocked and I have no intention of comunicating or discussing anything, since there is nothing to discuss. It's the past..Done! Gone!

[Zoe Lilith]

Your feelings are your own - and you're doing the right thing by following them.

 

Even *if* you wanted him back, it's not something that should be easy on him...not after what he did.

 

I think you're doing the right thing. If you have no feelings for him, if you want nothing to do with him, then congratulations!

 

HOWEVER, please spend the time to really investigate your own feelings.

 

The fact that you're wondering if your lack of feelings for him could be due to anger or denial...well, you need to figure that out. The last thing you want is to making a post in a month or two about how you "regret missing your chance!"

 

He has to operate on your timeline. If he squirms under the pressure, great. He made you wait while he figured out what he wanted...now he gets to be patient while you find your zen.

Thank you for sharing your though/experience... I have no intention of looking back. I think I moved on sooner than I thought I would.

[Lizrd3000]

I wanted to say:

 

''BUT DO YOU WANT HIM BACK?''

after I read your title.

 

but then I read your post, and made me happy for you, I truly am!

enjoy it!

[Zahara]

Good for you, Zoe!

 

What a tool -- he forgives you?!

 

Keep moving forward!

[Fufu]

I just haad the need to share this with you, I don't know if this site helped me or my new hobby (ballroom dancing), but I felt I need to share this with you. I received an email from my ex today. He said that after all I've done to him, he is willing to forget about that, he would like to talk things out, and that we belong together, blah, blah, blah.....I wasn't excited about that at all, I was angry. I haven't even read the email fully thru, nor have I responded. In fact, I was so upset that I blocked his email address. Strange that I moved on that quickly, after me begging him to take me back, just a few weeks back..I am affraid that I might be in denial or that I am really mad, since I allowed myself to go that low and beg a dude to talk to me and to reconsider...I have no feelings for him (or is it just my anger), but I was finally able to 'breathe' again, before his stupid email. I don't care what he thnks or does, I just hope that this isn't my denial.

 

I believe during this period of "NC", you truly find out that he's not your one.

[Zoe Lilith]

Good for you, Zoe!

 

What a tool -- he forgives you?!

 

Keep moving forward!

 

..Since I've been "forgiven", I can now move forward. :-)

[Zahara]

..Since I've been "forgiven", I can now move forward. :-)

 

Hahaha! He handed you a gift. Say thank you and move one.

 

How funny things turn out! So much ahead of you.

[im_thedude]

The dumpers who come back under the condition that they'll forgive all the things the dumpee has done are among the most selfish and delusional.

 

It's sad because I know my ex, who dumped me and did a lot of screwed up crap, is the exact type of person who will pull that stunt. Good on you Zoe for being strong - I hope if the same happens for me I can remember this.

[MoooOinkBaaa]

Hahaha this thread is great. I'm in the anger stage now after seven weeks, much better than the sad stage.

 

Your guy walked right into the gun.

 

I got to ask though would it be different if his e-mail was composed more appropriately?

[Zoe Lilith]

The dumpers who come back under the condition that they'll forgive all the things the dumpee has done are among the most selfish and delusional.

 

It's sad because I know my ex, who dumped me and did a lot of screwed up crap, is the exact type of person who will pull that stunt. Good on you Zoe for being strong - I hope if the same happens for me I can remember this.

I am not strong, I just don't care anymore..I don't know how it happened, but it did. I guess I got really emotionally, way too tired, I don't know Whatever the reason, I like the way I feel. I wasn't even tempted to respond, like I said, I didn't even read the email properly...I couldn't care less abot him or what he has to say.

[Zoe Lilith]

Hahaha this thread is great. I'm in the anger stage now after seven weeks, much better than the sad stage.

 

Your guy walked right into the gun.

 

I got to ask though would it be different if his e-mail was composed more appropriately?

No! I saw something like " you know we belong together..I can forget and forgve all the things you said"....something like that. I am just over it! That s why I was wondering if I could be in denial. I have torepeat myself..there was nothing I wouldn't have done for that man, just a few days ago...It's amazng and scary how I am over the whole thing..

anyway, I am "forgiven", what more could I want? :-)

Edited October 29, 2013 by Zoe Lilith

[Zoe Lilith]

Hahaha! He handed you a gift. Say thank you and move one.

 

How funny things turn out! So much ahead of you.

I never thought that would be possible, not so soon anyway. :-)

[Zoe Lilith]

I was going thru really difficult time. I was one of these "psycho women" who just couldn't accept the fact, and take NO as an answer. Then I went to denial stage, when one tries to convince oneself (in order to make themselves feel better), that he'll never find anyone like me...LOL..I know, pathetic. The strangest thing is, it was only few days ago that I felt like that. I was mentally all over the place...

[MoooOinkBaaa]

Hmmm I'm glad you're the one who's in control now.

 

I went and still am going through what you did. I'm edging on letting go but I know I'm still angry. You could be on a reverse dumpers high, now you're the one who feels alive.

Edited October 29, 2013 by MoooOinkBaaa

[Zoe Lilith]

Hmmm I'm glad you're the one who's in control now.

 

I went and still am going through what you did. I'm edging on letting go but I know I'm still angry.

I don't want to be controling anything...It doesn't makes me feel good or special that he contacted me, it rather annoyed me and made me angry. I just want to move on, I don't want him to suffer, or to miss me, or to love me...I want to be left alone.

Edited October 29, 2013 by Zoe Lilith

[MoooOinkBaaa]

I mean in control of yourself now, I read your other threads. I guess I'm not at your stage yet.

[Zoe Lilith]

I received a SMS today from my ex, probabaly e-mails as well, but like I said, I blocked his address. He is asking me to reconsider as I am making a big mstake and that I will realize that, but when I do, it's going to be too late! I am really annoyed by that and don't know if I should just ignore it, or tell him to F*** off! I have the feeling that, no matter what I say, it will be a start of a conversation. I don't want any conversations, but would like to let him know that I honestly don't care about him

[headinthecloud]

I received a SMS today from my ex, probabaly e-mails as well, but like I said, I blocked his address. He is asking me to reconsider as I am making a big mstake and that I will realize that, but when I do, it's going to be too late! I am really annoyed by that and don't know if I should just ignore it, or tell him to F*** off! I have the feeling that, no matter what I say, it will be a start of a conversation. I don't want any conversations, but would like to let him know that I honestly don't care about him

 

He doesn't really love you if he tells you that you are making a big mistake by not taking him back - that's just his bruised ego talking. If he loved you he would be respectful but persistent. Stay NC, he's just baiting you.

[Zahara]

I received a SMS today from my ex, probabaly e-mails as well, but like I said, I blocked his address. He is asking me to reconsider as I am making a big mstake and that I will realize that, but when I do, it's going to be too late! I am really annoyed by that and don't know if I should just ignore it, or tell him to F*** off! I have the feeling that, no matter what I say, it will be a start of a conversation. I don't want any conversations, but would like to let him know that I honestly don't care about him

 

The ego on this douche.

 

Firstly, he forgives you and is now ready to take you back.

 

Secondly, you are now making a big mistake because you are choosing to pass up on the great prize that he is.

 

You know what bothers these ego maniacs? Silence. They cannot stand being ignored. Infact him sending you this message is clearly a man that cannot take not being in control.

[Zoe Lilith]

The ego on this douche.

 

Firstly, he forgives you and is now ready to take you back.

 

Secondly, you are now making a big mistake because you are choosing to pass up on the great prize that he is.

 

You know what bothers these ego maniacs? Silence. They cannot stand being ignored. Infact him sending you this message is clearly a man that cannot take not being in control.

You are absolutely right. I will change my number, since only very few people have my number, changing it, wouldn't be a problem...He wanted an end and he finaly got it, I don't know what is it that he wants form me now. I got few more messages, but haven't responded to any of them, nor I am going to...