dumped2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Share Posted October 30, 2013 I told y'all I broke NC last Friday night . I have been doing NC since and at this point I don't care what she is doing. I'm just saying that it works . I have a pet sitter coming by next week to take care of my Cat while I am on vacation by myself . She wanted to stay here and I told her I have it covered . Practice the NC to move forward 3 Link to post Share on other sites
thompkevin Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 Great work. Continue the NC and pretty soon you'll be completely over her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 I read your story in various threads in here and I wanted to say my opinion. Firstly regarding what really happened with your wife, I believe she had started to feel kinda bored in the marriage and she may have met some guy online in France, talk to him, get to know him, without considering ever to meet him. It's really easy to open up to a stranger and tell him your deepest secrets if you are sure you'll never actually meet him in real life. I can only imagine she talked with him about her problems, her thoughts, maybe even her complaints towards you, her dreams etc etc. And then one day this friendship went another way. Maybe he said "I feel such connection with you, I feel like I've known you forever and it sucks we'll never meet". Maybe she said "I know, I feel this with you as well and I feel so guilty for having these feelings for another man than my husband". So the conversation went on and it was something she couldn't share with you of course cause she thought she could handle it. And one day this guy maybe said "hey why don't you come meet me in Paris? nothing will happen between us, I just want to meet the woman who seems like my other half, even though she's taken" and maybe she said "ok I'll do this". And she went having lied to you cause she maybe thought that if she meets this man the dream and the magic will go away and she will be able to go back to her husband again. Maybe she indeed did not have sex with this person. Maybe she just needed attention, a friend, someone who fell in love for her and who flirted with her, maybe something she had missed in her marriage. And then you found out about this. Maybe she felt that if she told you the whole story you would never forgive her, maybe she keeps the hope at the moment that one day, after some time has passed, you will forgive her, you will believe she didn't cheat (physically at least) and you will take her back. Maybe she is just giving you some time to process now. And I don't know why, how the hell can I call this? instinct? insight? I don't know, but something inside me tells me you will one day take her back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dumped2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Author Share Posted November 21, 2013 Nope, I can't take back someone that I can't trust. It's over. There are plenty of honest women out there to fall in love with. I actually am starting to like being by myself. At least I don't have to wonder what she's out doing anymore....... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 Well I had to give my opinion 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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