uberfrau Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Convert it to cash and pay bills and buy groceries with the money. Buy new shoes for your kids.
sadhubby Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 sorry he wont feel in charge dont do that ..it will kill him to see that thing ego shrinker come on now.his ego is already in the gutter and that will just be like another hand grenade thrown into the battle..sell it and spend it going out somewhere .or you could give it to me sweetz and ill take my wife out just kidding .lol
Author Sweetz Posted December 14, 2004 Author Posted December 14, 2004 Originally posted by Ladyjane14 Maybe you could turn it over to Husband and let him make the decision. You know, that whole "open book" thing. Might make him feel a bit more in charge. If I did that, he may take it and break it into a million pieces and give it back to the OM next time he sees him at a business meeting. I'd rather just take care of the matter myself. So I did. Last night, I took a hammer to it, and banged on it until it was mangled and all scratched up. Then I bounded it in duct tape and put it in a plastic bag and disposed of it at a garbage on my way to work. It felt good too! I don't care if I just threw away $1000 by not selling it. It was worth getting rid of the way I did it. It was ending something I should have never been involved in from day one.
michelangelo Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Bravo! I really like this solution a lot. The symbolism is perfect.
reservoirdog1 Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Good job! I don't really think there was one "right" answer to your question. But the way you dealt with it sounds fine.
SoleMate Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Why not donate the bracelet to a charitable group? (Don't just put it in the bin; walk in and hand it to the manager and get a receipt.)
Author Sweetz Posted December 14, 2004 Author Posted December 14, 2004 Too late. But let's say I could do that, how do I explain what the receipt is for to my H?
Naive Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Originally posted by Sweetz I was cleaning out my closet this past weekend and ran across a gift I got from the OM two year ago. I was given a very expensive diamond tennis bracelet from him. I have not worn it since 2002 but not sure what I should do with it. I know it was expensive but the memories it brings back for me are so painful that I have to get rid of it to move forward with my life. What should I do with it? I hate to just throw it out but I don't know what other options I have. I don't know hor far off this thread is now but here is my opinion anyways. I think that you should sell it or give it away. As long as you keep it there is always a reminder of the OM. I had a lot of memories (good memories) of MM but I threw them out, not because I hate him but because it was a constant reminder. It helped me out a lot.
SoleMate Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Whoops, too late, sorry. Throwing it away was OK. Radical honesty might have required showing it to your H. But it's behind you now, and I'll read more carefully next time. "The love of a good man is worth far above diamonds."
Moose Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 WHAT A FRIGGIN' WASTE! Do you realize what that $1000.00 could've done? Somewhere there's a child who's hungry and won't get a Christams dinner! You are soooo selfish! I hope you realize what you've done! You're a sad excuse for a compasionate human being, I hope you get what you deserve! I hope you lose your heat this winter or your job......apparently you don't need one! Get a real life!
Moose Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 :mad: I know my last post wasn't very Christian of me, I'm soooo mad!!! Shallow people tend to do that to me.....forgive me for venting, but it's hard not to feel like bitchin' someone out for their stupidity! Sweetz, next time your hungry or cold, think of that stupid bracelet and how it could've provided food or clothing to someone less fortunate.....I don't care if you said you're donating your own money to a charity, that's fine, think about how much more you could've done if you hadn't destroyed that thing......so selfish and shallow!!! :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
michelangelo Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Moose, Until you donate every last dollar you have and get rid of any clothing but one shirt on your back, you have no right to tell other people to do anything with their things. even if you go the full mother theresa route, that's pushing it. So, will you please drain your bank account? there are starving kids out there!
Moose Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Originally posted by michelangelo Moose, Until you donate every last dollar you have and get rid of any clothing but one shirt on your back, you have no right to tell other people to do anything with their things. even if you go the full mother theresa route, that's pushing it. So, will you please drain your bank account? there are starving kids out there! Ha! For you information mr. michelangelo, I donate plenty! And more frequently than seasonal.
Author Sweetz Posted December 14, 2004 Author Posted December 14, 2004 Originally posted by Moose WHAT A FRIGGIN' WASTE! Do you realize what that $1000.00 could've done? Somewhere there's a child who's hungry and won't get a Christams dinner! You are soooo selfish! I hope you realize what you've done! You're a sad excuse for a compasionate human being, I hope you get what you deserve! I hope you lose your heat this winter or your job......apparently you don't need one! Get a real life! Sorry you feel that way. My husband and I for the last 4 years cook meals and take them out to the inner city areas (because that is where he works) and feed families basically living on the streets. Last year we even took some alcohol to them because what the heck, it's the holidays! We took 100 the first year and last year we got up to 150 meals. And yes, this is all out of our pockets. We recruit some of our friends who want to help out and last year we only had 2 other people help us. But we did it anyways.
michelangelo Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Hey, You're spending money on internet access instead of feeding starving children! I really do not like self-rightious chest thumping.
Moose Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Sweetz, that sound like a worth while service, I'm just saying though that you threw away $1000.00 and it was a total waste! TOTAL! Nobody in this world, (Besides you I guess), can say that they couldn't use an extra $1000.00......were you just bragging on the fact that you're independently wealthy or something? It's a disgrace, and I can't help thinking of how that money could've been put towards something worth while......you should be ashamed at such an ignorant decision. Hey, You're spending money on internet access instead of feeding starving children! I really do not like self-rightious chest thumping. Tough, I really don't care what you like or dislike. I help starving children AND have internet service......wow....didn't know I could pull that one did you? You don't know what you're getting into when you debate me, so it's best for you to stay out of it!
michelangelo Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Moose, Are there not even more starving children out there that would benefit from the money you now use for internet access? You remind me of the priest at a wedding I went to making a toast to the bride and groom--all the while complaining of the wonderful wedding feast. he said the lavish display of food was wasteful, better that they donate the price of the reception to the starving children. The lady is attempting to salvage her marriage, hello?! Sometimes you just don't concentrate on the ENTIRE WORLD when you are fixing your marriage.
EnigmaXOXO Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 You don't know what you're getting into when you debate me, so it's best for you to stay out of it! Oh, for Pete's sake. Someone call in Mrs. Moose…and tell 'er to bring the tranquilizer gun this time!
Stone Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 A MM gave me a tennis braclet with my birth stone's in it once when I worked in a bar, I never wore it out of respect for my b/f . my mother has the same birth stone as me so I gave it to her for her B-day... She still braggs about what a beautiful gift I bought her and I made her feel like a million bucks ( she still doesn't know) but she appreicates it much more than I did. Give it away you'll make someones day
Moose Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Are there not even more starving children out there that would benefit from the money you now use for internet access? Yes there is, but you know something, without my internet service, I wouldn't be able to earn anything to continue to give, so it's a catch 22, I have to have it to earn my money. Besides, aren't you spending money on internet service as well? Or are you riding on someone's coat tail? You remind me of the priest at a wedding I went to making a toast to the bride and groom--all the while complaining of the wonderful wedding feast. he said the lavish display of food was wasteful, better that they donate the price of the reception to the starving children. And I would probably agree with him if I saw it was being waisted, or going to waste. The lady is attempting to salvage her marriage, hello?! She wouldn't have to had she stayed faithfull to her husband. I don't feel sorry for her. Sometimes you just don't concentrate on the ENTIRE WORLD when you are fixing your marriage. Yeah, well, it's my opinion that all she's been thinking about lately is, "me, me, me" anyways, maybe it is time for her to quit being so selfish.
Joyce Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Hey Sweetz is a nice person who is learning from her mistakes. She has came here for support and advice Not to be judged!! In my opinion she can do whatever she wants with her gifts and her money!
ThumbingMyWay Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Moose... Let me first say, that I admire your conviction. I value the advice you have given me. I think you are a standup type of guy....and I respect your strong opinions. It shows true character and integrity which is lacking in alot of people. BUT brother.....at times you come across holier than thou..... I used to be the same way....but it got me no where...in fact in hindered some of my friendships. I still have strong convictions...and I still have strong opinions.....BUT I have realized that I CANNOT force them upon others. All I can do is be true to myself......and everybody else has there own way of doing things......not that there is a wrong or right way.....its just different....so who am I too say what is right for them. and no I am not going to debate with you.....you and I think alike at times....but like I say, everybody has there own way...and I just agree to disagree.....
michelangelo Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Moose, I pay my own way, donate food to food banks, and grew up in a starving family of 11 kids. What I didn't like about your posting is the holier than though crap. You are trying to say that she wasted such a precious resource that could have been converted to helping starving people. Well, you know what? You use faulty logic if you try to moralize along those lines. If you use ANY resource beyond your basic life maintenance then by your "logic" you are harming the starving children. If what your real agenda is is to whip a cheater, then get out in the open about it. Seems like posting here is time wasted. Why aren't you at a soup kitchen?
Moose Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 Too bad everyone sees this as a holier than thou attitude......all I can say about that is tough cookies. All it is in all reality is someone, ( ME ), saying that it was a total waste, a disgrace, a total loss, a selfish move, and very inconsiderate for what use it could've been put to. Nothing else. I'm not saying I haven't made foolish mistakes like this myself, I screw up just as much as anyone else. The thing is she came in here for advice on what to do with this bracelet, she got great advice including a couple of noble ones, ( Like pawning it and giving the money to charity), but nooooooo.....she chose to destroy it as a, "Symbol", for moving on after an affair. That's selfish if you ask me. I can't help it if noone else sees the benefits this could've been used for. I can't help it if I think of the poor kids or even the hunger adults before I think about my selfish motivations first. I'm not even saying that Sweetz is a bad person. I'm not, "holier than thou", just because I'm witness to a stupid act. What's done is done, frankly, I don't see how she can live up to her quote below her posts.....I certainly couldn't have a clear conscience if I threw away food and clothes and denied it to the needy.....
Owl Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 WOW...what a tangent from the original post!!!! SWEETZ- Great job in realizing that there would have been nothing good in keeping the bracelet! And you didn't even ASK anyone here if you should keep it...you already knew that. So, with that said...hope everything is still going well in you and your husband's work on your marriage!!!
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