Emotionally unavailable man broke up with me. I need to understand.

[M30USA]

He may be very self-contained, maybe even mildly autistic. It could be that he hasn't got what you need because of that. If he was close to or bordering on mild autism, he would find your emotional needs too much and irrelevant to him. I don't say that to hurt, he just would. A member of my family has mild autism and sees emotions much in the same way as we might see an annoying fly - something to avoid or bat out of the way if it gets too irritating. He might at some level realise he is not pleasing you and so decided not to continue.

 

This is an opportunity for you to meet a guy who can give you what you need. There is no point trying to cope with less just because of the way a guy is. I suspect he simply couldn't handle normal emotional involvement and that there is no other reason. If he's like that, it's even doubtful he could feel love. Honestly, I think you deserve a more open and emotional kind of guy who you could relate to and vice versa.

 

Love is an action, not a feeling.