nerdlingZA Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 I'm not sure if this is good or bad , but today I felt something that I have never felt b4 , I feel disgusted towards my ex , I don't know why , when I thought of her I felt like punking (I'm serious) , its been 9months now , I've always loved her from NC to LC , to Insults to sweets conversations , my feelings never changed , but today I feel disgusted. Perhaps alittle bit of hate. Has anyone else come to this point ? Please help 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 I think it's just part of the process. It's part of the roller coaster we're all going through... I preferred that stage waaaay better than when I was sad/depressed. Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 After almost 8 months NC, I find myself dipping back down into a valley again. Feelin' kinda blue. Not as bad as in the past, and I know I will get past it, but still sucks just the same. Think it might be a trigger from Halloween. We always had a good time together on Halloween. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Confusedbeyondbelief Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 I haven't decided to 100% leave my current boyfriend of one year, but if I do, I'd prefer hate over sadness. Sadness is crushing... Link to post Share on other sites
Author nerdlingZA Posted November 1, 2013 Author Share Posted November 1, 2013 I think it's just part of the process. It's part of the roller coaster we're all going through... I preferred that stage waaaay better than when I was sad/depressed. If its a rollercoster , then there's many rollercoster stages , I also think I'm in a better stage now , rather than "I miss her / I don't miss her" Rollercoster or "I'm happy / I'm depressed" Rollercoster , are you still sad ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author nerdlingZA Posted November 1, 2013 Author Share Posted November 1, 2013 I haven't decided to 100% leave my current boyfriend of one year, but if I do, I'd prefer hate over sadness. Sadness is crushing... Sadness is really something else , I remember when I was sad earlier thru the breakup , I couldn't do anything nor function like I normally do , why do u wanna leave ur bf ? Link to post Share on other sites
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 I was sad for five weeks. Now I hate her. Seven years, 260 miles away. I invested so much into her and I truly believed she loved me too. I blamed myself for the break-up. What a joke. She dumped me to make herself single and back on the market because she has a crush on a co-worker. She posts on Twitter how much she needs to get laid and blah blah blah knowing I was looking at it before. She also posted how over me she is, laughing. I hate hate hate her, she's a damn selfish faker. She fooled me for a long time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 If its a rollercoster , then there's many rollercoster stages , I also think I'm in a better stage now , rather than "I miss her / I don't miss her" Rollercoster or "I'm happy / I'm depressed" Rollercoster , are you still sad ? No, thank goodness. Here's how it went with me: denial (the hardest I think, I remember not being able to sleep, waking up in the middle of the night thinking it was all a bad nightmare, etc...), depression (loss of appetite, crying even when I was on the bus), anger and finally acceptance. Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 I was sad for five weeks. Now I hate her. Seven years, 260 miles away. I invested so much into her and I truly believed she loved me too. I blamed myself for the break-up. What a joke. She dumped me to make herself single and back on the market because she has a crush on a co-worker. She posts on Twitter how much she needs to get laid and blah blah blah knowing I was looking at it before. She also posted how over me she is, laughing. I hate hate hate her, she's a damn selfish faker. She fooled me for a long time. ..wow how rude and not really "lady like" behaviour. Be happy that it's over! :-) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 I'm not sure if this is good or bad , but today I felt something that I have never felt b4 , I feel disgusted towards my ex , I don't know why , when I thought of her I felt like punking (I'm serious) , its been 9months now , I've always loved her from NC to LC , to Insults to sweets conversations , my feelings never changed , but today I feel disgusted. Perhaps alittle bit of hate. Has anyone else come to this point ? Please help Interesting, I feel the same way. The thought of my ex really makes me sick. I shiver when I think of him and NOT in a good way, I feel disgusted.. Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 ..wow how rude and not really "lady like" behaviour. Be happy that it's over! :-) "Ladylike" behavior? What does that even mean...? Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 "Ladylike" behavior? What does that even mean...? good point :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 I just thought that sharing your personal needs on a social network isn't something a woman should do...but then again, I have been wrong soooo many, many times.. Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 I just thought that sharing your personal needs on a social network isn't something a woman should do...but then again, I have been wrong soooo many, many times.. Yeah, it's pretty immature. I just don't like it when people think women shouldn't do certain things, and it's ok when men do it. You know double standard. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz_sassy_77 Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 I always thought my EX was an ok guy....until this BU. Even though he BU with me he makes himself out to be the victim. Telling everyone how unhappy he was in the RS. If that is the case he never expressed it to me. I don't hate my EX but I don't think much of him now. I just don't think he is a decent person now. Shame I feel that way after 3 years with them. He's actually done me a favor because It's made it easy for me to realize he's not the one for me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 Yeah, it's pretty immature. I just don't like it when people think women shouldn't do certain things, and it's ok when men do it. You know double standard. I don't think it's fair that if a women has few partners in her life is "labeled" a s***, but a men can have as many women as he wants and it is considered "cool" or "experienced" in that area...lol...however, for a woman to say that she needs "to get laid" is pathetic, for her to say that she "needs to ge laid" in order to make her ex feel jealous, is even more pathetic.. a woman should have a little more grace and dignity than that, and not share her desires online, for the world to see...femininity, grace... That's the difference between men and women. Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 I don't think it's fair that if a women has few partners in her life is "labeled" a s***, but a men can have as many women as he wants and it is considered "cool" or "experienced" in that area...lol...however, for a woman to say that she needs "to get laid" is pathetic, for her to say that she "needs to ge laid" in order to make her ex feel jealous, is even more pathetic.. a woman should have a little more grace and dignity than that, and not share her desires online, for the world to see...femininity, grace... That's the difference between men and women. I disagree with how women should have a little more grace and dignity than men. Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Lilith Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 I disagree with how women should have a little more grace and dignity than men. Fair enough, I respect that. Link to post Share on other sites
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 No you just don't air your dirty laundry in public like that. She posts loads about it, she just looks desperate and sl00ty. Even if it was a guy. She never used to be like this either. Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted November 2, 2013 Share Posted November 2, 2013 I'm not sure if this is good or bad , but today I felt something that I have never felt b4 , I feel disgusted towards my ex , I don't know why , when I thought of her I felt like punking (I'm serious) , its been 9months now , I've always loved her from NC to LC , to Insults to sweets conversations , my feelings never changed , but today I feel disgusted. Perhaps alittle bit of hate. Has anyone else come to this point ? Please help I ever had this feeling, when I thought of my ex I was like eWww and distressed it out by complaining about him to my ex (ok that was like about 2 years back during the recovery period) It's all part of the process. Link to post Share on other sites
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