Monkeylicious Posted December 14, 2004 Share Posted December 14, 2004 I have a question... i dont know what to do...heres the story... There this one co-worker of mine. ever since i started working at my job i thought he was cute but thats all and he thought the same way towards me. then one day one of the girls that i worked with introduced us. this was on the 4th of july, like around mid august we went on a lake trip. we were there for about 4 days and he would always be looking for me and i would be doing the same thing. him and his room mates would come to our room and party, we would drink and play games...just party. we never did mess around or did anything on the trip. when we went back to work the next week he would always go to my work place to visit me. then we started talking on the phone and started to date... we would go to the movies the club or jus parties. but one time at the club while we were dancing i turned around and he kissed me so thatswhen we both started to take things a little more seriously then just friends. its like we were bf & gf but we werent officialy a couple. he actualy never asked me out. later on we both started school, and one night he told me that we couldnt keep going like this that he would prefer to just stay friend. because he wasnt going to have time for me because he had too many things going on. he was coaching football, working and going to school at the same time. and i truly respected his decision.. we stayed friends for a while when all of a suden he would just start ignoring me and stoped talking to me. dat kinda hurt but i couldnt tell him anything. his birthday came around and i left him his present and a birthday card on his desk before i left home for that weekend. he called me the next day and said thanks and everything. thats when i asked him why did he stop talking to me all of a sudden and he appolagized and said that that wasnt his intention he didnt mean to hurt my feelings. so we started talking again but now he told me straight out that he likes me and that he wouldnt mind being friends with benefits. he says that he doesnt want a serious relationship, and i guess he just wants a messaround. He asked me if i would actualy do something with him with out us being bf & gf. that thing is that i really like him an di would want to but im just affraid of him going around and spreding rumors about me. or what if hes just asking me this to test me to see if an easy grl or not. what do yah think i should do? any advie or opinions Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 14, 2004 Share Posted December 14, 2004 its like we were bf & gf but we werent officialy a couple. he actualy never asked me out. one night he told me that we couldnt keep going like this that he would prefer to just stay friend. we stayed friends for a while when all of a suden he would just start ignoring me and stoped talking to me. so we started talking again but now he told me straight out that he likes me and that he wouldnt mind being friends with benefits. he says that he doesnt want a serious relationship, and i guess he just wants a messaround. He asked me if i would actualy do something with him with out us being bf & gf. that thing is that i really like him an di would want to but im just affraid of him going around and spreding rumors about me. or what if hes just asking me this to test me to see if an easy grl or not. what do yah think i should do? any advie or opinions This guy is perfectly clear about his intentions. He is agreeing to hang out with you as long as its sexual, but he doesn't want to be friends with you or be your boyfriend. I don't think he is testing you by asking you that, he is verifying that you won't try to push it any further than what he is telling you that he is willing to give. What you should do largely depends on what your expectations are from the relationship: he is telling you that you are good enough to have sex with, but that you aren't good enough for him to want to have a relationship with. Not only that, he's double checking to make sure that you don't try to push it into an actual relationship. Is that the type of relationship you want? Link to post Share on other sites
rabidfan Posted December 17, 2004 Share Posted December 17, 2004 LucreziaBorgia is right. to put it grossly..he wants the milk without having to buy the cow. not that there is anything wrong with a purely casual sex relationship. but if it's your intention to be in a relationship or you're not sure, then you have to stay away from this guy. he's made it clear he wants the sex but doesn't want a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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