lovehurts5 Posted November 3, 2013 Share Posted November 3, 2013 So I feel like whenever I go out and do something fun (which is not often) my boyfriend always finds a way to do something to aggravate me. Intentional or not idk. I went out for dinner and drinks with 2 of my girlfriends tonight while my boyfriend was at work. Everything's going great until I see his status that says I need a group of friends to plan a trip to Vegas with with for guys trip. So for some of you this may seem like nothing. But to me I feel like Vegas is a huuuuuge place for temptation and the best way to avoid temptation is to avoid it all together. So I text him Vegas? He goes yeah babe I think it'd be fun to go with the boys. And I was like I feel like that's a single mans trip. There's clubbing naked women and gambling and what happens there stays there. And he's like you know I love you too much babe. So I'm like just imagine if I went to sin city with my girlfriends. You know I wouldn't do anything but I'm sure you wouldn't be thrilled with all the guys there. And he goes Maybe ur saying this stuff cause u know u wouldn't trust yourself. But that's not it at all. He's a HUGE flirt as it is, very attractive and I don't want him to get any ideas. He's frustrated with me now cuz he feels like I won't let him go. Even tho I told him he can do what he wants I have no say I'm just uncomfortable. I'm just being honest with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted November 3, 2013 Share Posted November 3, 2013 Thailand is actually more guy fun than Vegas. Just a mention. I don't see what this has to do w a girlie dinner. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehurts5 Posted November 3, 2013 Author Share Posted November 3, 2013 The fact that I was out with my girlfriends now all the sudden he wants to plan a guys trip to Vegas. Link to post Share on other sites
Jaaded Posted November 3, 2013 Share Posted November 3, 2013 My ex used to do that kind of crap. It's immature and juvenile. He's trying to get a rise out of you. Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted November 3, 2013 Share Posted November 3, 2013 There are no more temptations in vegas than any other city. It's really just a stereotype. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 A man who wants to cheat will do so no matter where they are. Vegas itself does not mean anything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 You're insecure & he's immature. He wants to play one-upsmanship & you are letting him wind you up. If the worst things he does in Vegas are get drunk, gamble & look a naked woman, it shouldn't be that big of a deal. If those things offend you, then perhaps you two are not fundamentally compatible & you need to date another guy. I never understand why women automatically think if their guy spends more than 12 hours out of her sight that he's cheating? Where's the trust? And if there's no trust, there is no relationship so what's the point? Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted November 5, 2013 Share Posted November 5, 2013 You're insecure & he's immature. He wants to play one-upsmanship & you are letting him wind you up. If the worst things he does in Vegas are get drunk, gamble & look a naked woman, it shouldn't be that big of a deal. If those things offend you, then perhaps you two are not fundamentally compatible & you need to date another guy. I never understand why women automatically think if their guy spends more than 12 hours out of her sight that he's cheating? Where's the trust? And if there's no trust, there is no relationship so what's the point? While I don't like to generalize and paint all women with the same brush, anytime I've spent a significant time away from my woman they all assumed it was because I was cheating. It wasn't true in any case. I'm not saying men don't do this either but I'm a man and date women so men cheating doesn't play a factor in my personal experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehurts5 Posted November 5, 2013 Author Share Posted November 5, 2013 I just feel like the activities done in Vegas are not very relationship friendly. I don't even feel the need to go to the clubs around me because I figure what's the point? I already have a boyfriend and I don't feel the need to get hit on by random strangers. And in Vegas (he wants to go in the summer) there will be a bunch of girls at the pool in their skimpy bikinis and not all the guys planning on going have girlfriends and are crazy party animals. I just picture the hangover in my head and just feel like it's all a terrible idea. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 5, 2013 Share Posted November 5, 2013 I just feel like the activities done in Vegas are not very relationship friendly. I don't even feel the need to go to the clubs around me because I figure what's the point? I already have a boyfriend and I don't feel the need to get hit on by random strangers. And in Vegas (he wants to go in the summer) there will be a bunch of girls at the pool in their skimpy bikinis and not all the guys planning on going have girlfriends and are crazy party animals. I just picture the hangover in my head and just feel like it's all a terrible idea. He is a handsome flirt and you are super insecure. I did spring break Vegas once. Got drunk, roughed up by Bellagio security, gambled away two paychecks, got tossed into a fountain.. All before 10pm. What I didn't do was go prowl around cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
ginastar Posted November 6, 2013 Share Posted November 6, 2013 yes he will 90% cheat on you in vegas and you have every right to tell him that if he goes you will dump him IMO Link to post Share on other sites
nescafe1982 Posted November 7, 2013 Share Posted November 7, 2013 A boys-only Vegas trip that's not a bachelor party? And it's his idea? Yeah. He strikes me as immature and the idea sounds like it's designed to be provocative. My money says he never gets serious about it. But that's not the point. The point is that he throws hissy-fits when you go out somewhere without him. And that's not right. Tell him you are happy if he has "boys night," but that if he's arranging a group trip to Vegas you want to go. He doesn't like it? There's the door. Maybe that's harsh, but honestly, my BF would never drop something crazy like this on me, because it's just dumb, obvious game-playing. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted November 7, 2013 Share Posted November 7, 2013 There are no more temptations in vegas than any other city. It's really just a stereotype. This is what I was wondering. She says he's a HUGE flirt, but does that mean going to vegas is way worse for the gf a guy like that as opposed to going to Miami or Atlantic City or Seattle with his mates? Are the women in Vegas extra easy so it doesn't take much attention from a guy to get them hanging off him looking for a fun time, wink wink. Do a lot of single women go to Vegas to gamble, party and ****? Link to post Share on other sites
KawaiiChees Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 If he was to only cheat on you in Vegas, and it was guaranteed, would you want to be with this person? Love doesn't have boundaries. I guess what I'm trying to say is, Vegas or not, his intention to do something that will hurt you is there, and if that's the case, you shouldn't be with this person in the first place. If not, Vegas, the world, he could travel without you worrying. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 The fact that I was out with my girlfriends now all the sudden he wants to plan a guys trip to Vegas. You can't see the hypocrisy in your post? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehurts5 Posted November 12, 2013 Author Share Posted November 12, 2013 I went to dinner with 2 of my friends. I'd say that's much different then planning a trip to Vegas. Not a hypocrite. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 So I feel like whenever I go out and do something fun (which is not often) my boyfriend always finds a way to do something to aggravate me. Intentional or not idk. I went out for dinner and drinks with 2 of my girlfriends tonight while my boyfriend was at work. Everything's going great until I see his status that says I need a group of friends to plan a trip to Vegas with with for guys trip. So for some of you this may seem like nothing. But to me I feel like Vegas is a huuuuuge place for temptation and the best way to avoid temptation is to avoid it all together. So I text him Vegas? He goes yeah babe I think it'd be fun to go with the boys. And I was like I feel like that's a single mans trip. There's clubbing naked women and gambling and what happens there stays there. And he's like you know I love you too much babe. So I'm like just imagine if I went to sin city with my girlfriends. You know I wouldn't do anything but I'm sure you wouldn't be thrilled with all the guys there. And he goes Maybe ur saying this stuff cause u know u wouldn't trust yourself. But that's not it at all. He's a HUGE flirt as it is, very attractive and I don't want him to get any ideas. He's frustrated with me now cuz he feels like I won't let him go. Even tho I told him he can do what he wants I have no say I'm just uncomfortable. I'm just being honest with him. 99% chance he cheats on you in Vegas. If not sex with a random or a hooker, he will definitely hit a strip club and get some pay for play. Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 Just a tip ladies: men who are HUGE flirts are not relationship material. They are ticking time bombs. Just a tip men: women who are HUGE flirts are not relationship material. They are ticking time bombs. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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