How to move on from this toxic "friends w/benefits" relationship?

[Simon Phoenix]

As an update... I get a random chat message at the end of the day on Thursday that says: "having a good day/week?"

 

I haven't talked to him for almost 2 weeks (since I "ended" me being his play toy), then I get that.

 

It was so weird. I saw a chat message pop up out of the corner of my eye as I was trying to complete my day at work, but never in a million years expected it to be him.

 

When I saw it was his name... My whole body went cold and my stomach sank... Weirdest feeling I've had in a long time. I buried my head in my hands, sighed, and didn't know what to do.

 

Well... Good thing is I never responded back. He didn't even give me time to (thankfully). He logged off less than 1 minute after sending me that message. I'll admit part of me wanted to send a text acknowledging that I saw his chat msg but I refrained. There was no point in trying to carry on that conversation into the evening over text.

 

Freakin weird. Why send a message then bolt?

 

Does it matter?

[deponie12]

blocking texts and calls and email is the way to go ( and social media) I have friends that are so upset over texts they are reading from their Ex's.... ummm... BLOCK THEIR NUMBER!!! Therefore, you don't have to read the crap they text you!!!!! It's that simple- be strong and do it, day #17 for me and each day I feel better.... NC is the way to go!!!! Get your life back, quit looking for a text... move on and be happy!

[what_a_blonde]

Does it matter?

 

 

It shouldn't.. but its still something that sends my head spinning in confusion and slight frustration...

[Simon Phoenix]

It shouldn't.. but its still something that sends my head spinning in confusion and slight frustration...

 

If it meant anything, he would have stuck around. Honestly, the simplest answer is almost always the correct one. Devoting time to it is a waste.

[what_a_blonde]

If it meant anything, he would have stuck around. Honestly, the simplest answer is almost always the correct one. Devoting time to it is a waste.

 

You're right. Sorry for carrying this on. It's just been hard realizing I was so naive and let him use me for one thing. That's all he will ever want. I just wish I would have never given in.

[stillafool]

He's not worth it! This guy is a player and players only respect one thing - women who won't give in to their advances. Women that make them chase until the pads in their little feet wear out. Seriously, women I know who ended up marrying reformed players didn't even know the guys were players until they were told by someone. One girl said "him???" When these guys find the one they want they are like any other man in love.