Heartbroken Eagle Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 Last night whilst dropping my son off at the meeting point with to his mother I have finally met the guy who moved into our old home. To say he was not what I was expecting would be an understatement. Apparently he is younger than me but does not look it, smaller than me in build,shorter than me, (I'm 5 ft 6") and wore the thickest lenses i've seen on a pair of glasses. He tried to shake my hand, but I just looked at him. He then withdrew his hand and looked away. As I walked back to the car I was thinking WTF was that all about.Then I add it all up. They met in May, he moved in August. She does not enjoy time on her own, has no friends only family. It spells REBOUND to me. It made me realised that my ex is not really in a good place. She would not have chosen this man if she was, she is that shallow. But she was the one who cheated on me so I cannot symphasis for her. Actually It made me finally realised that I'm so much better without her or her family. I think I may have almost moved on from her. Only time will tell. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 Next you will say he is balding. As you probably know, none of the physical attributes of a person can be used to determine why he or she is chosen. Why your ex chose this guy probably has absolutely nothing to do with his looks but more to do with how he treats her or fulfills a need that she has. And (with all due respect to you), it may have been your personality that caused her to be attracted to you, too. Women (more so than men) tend to gravitate towards personality with looks versus looks and personality. My guess is that he fulfills a void inside of her whether it be that he is patient, kind, a good listener, or caring. Thick glasses are not a reason to disrespect someone nor is height or build. Who he is and who you are are much more than outward looks. I doubt that this choice indicates her shallowness or how she feels at this point. This guy may actually be an anchor in the midst of her storms of life. You are right though. If the reason she chose him is only due to a need she feels now, then it could be that this is a short term relationship. In time, she will move on and he will be discarded. This happens often during breakups. Hopefully, your analysis whether right or wrong, WILL help you to move on and choose someone more appropriately fitted to you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nyclovin Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 Was he balding? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Heartbroken Eagle Posted November 4, 2013 Author Share Posted November 4, 2013 Was he balding? LOL... yes he was balding, but I'm fully shaven myself so I won't hold it against him. Look, thinking back, maybe I might be a tad jealous because this man is now seeing more of my son than me. Also, I want my ex to suffer like I have been because of her lies and cheating. I was treated like crap by her for the last year of our relationship. Maybe I'm not 100% over her!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThrashMetalHealing Posted November 5, 2013 Share Posted November 5, 2013 Heh, I know what you mean OP. My last gal broke up with me and I found out she started dating a guy she had been "just friends" with soon after. He is shorter than me, wears thicker glasses, makes less money than me (I am guessing based on his dress and apartment), and seems overall more of a 'beta' male. I watched for them to breakup thinking is was just a fling but they have been together 6 months already so I doubt it. However I will have to agree with JamesM above. Even though I feel I could dominate this man from a certain point of view, I also believe he provides her with what she was really looking for and I was not giving during our relationship :/ Link to post Share on other sites
BottleofHope Posted November 5, 2013 Share Posted November 5, 2013 I don't want to sound like an ass but I am a well dress man with great taste in music and lifestyle and I'm pursuing life with great opportunities. My ex-gf left me for a cheap-ass guy who still dress like a high school boy with a hoodie and gym shorts that still drives his mum's car. If she doesn't appreciate what I have to give and wants to lower her standards, it's fine with me. Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted November 5, 2013 Share Posted November 5, 2013 But she was the one who cheated on me so I cannot symphasis for her. If I can do nothing else for you, let me do this: "symphasis" =/= sympathize 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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