WrinkledForehead Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 I'm a bit of an empath. I don't believe in much of that type of behavioral attribution, so I prefer to say I'm a compassionate person with a huge heart. I've had to banish several songs from my playlist as I find myself singing as if I'm HER. The heartache over her losing him is something I can project well. I forgave myself for being the catalyst for the end of their R some time ago. I don't feel massive amounts of guilt but I can't deny that she creeps into my thoughts with some amount of frequency. For those who don't know, I was the OW in a 6 month affair with a CM. He left her a bit over a month ago. Their contact is infrequent (he's watched their dog, they've met to exchange personal belongings, talked twice to discuss the few financial ties they shared). I figure I'll forget her as time passes and once our R is fully revealed (we agreed not to reveal it for some time to protect our social standings, to not reveal the A). I have discussed this with him and he's aware of where my mind goes on occasion. Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 I don't know. I cannot compartmentalize it, either. Just can't. Sure would be easier to go about this if I could, but I'm not built like that. Not to t/j, but how are things going with you all otherwise? Have wondered about you off and on. Hope it's going well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WrinkledForehead Posted November 5, 2013 Author Share Posted November 5, 2013 I don't know. I cannot compartmentalize it, either. Just can't. Sure would be easier to go about this if I could, but I'm not built like that. Not to t/j, but how are things going with you all otherwise? Have wondered about you off and on. Hope it's going well. Thanks for asking <3 . Things are mostly well. Stressful, as always, but I'm happier when I'm busy, so I roll with it. Things with bf and I are mostly great. He's a good man. I've often felt awkward saying it because its a horrible compliment, but I chose a good person to have an affair with. He's an amazing man. Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted November 5, 2013 Share Posted November 5, 2013 Good to hear from you, Wrinkled! Have wondered how you are. I understand your perspective on her. Link to post Share on other sites
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