Sweetz Posted December 15, 2004 Share Posted December 15, 2004 I deleted it. BUT... upon seeing his name appear in my inbox, my heart started to beat fast, I started to feel flush. It was that "rush" that I use to get all the time when I went through these cycles of anticipation of when or how I would see the OM again. This time though it was different. I know I can't afford to take even one step backwards in the progress that I have made thus far. I have to say I have surprised myself at how well things have been going lately. I am not willing to take any chances. Now, I must go home tonight and tell my H that the OM emailed me. I just had to put him through any more hurt, he doesn't deserve it one bit. I just hope things continue to go in the positive direction from here. Any advice ? Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted December 15, 2004 Share Posted December 15, 2004 Block his emails, get a restraining order on him, walk up to him in a public setting and tell him you're no longer interested in him and to quit trying to get in your pants.........there's a thousand ways to make him know you're no longer interested in commiting adultry with him. Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted December 15, 2004 Share Posted December 15, 2004 I think you should phone your H right away and tell him. That will demonstrate that you're not hiding anything, even for a few hours. Tell him that you deleted it. Then, when you get home, with your H watching, send a final, terse, businesslike, stay-out-of-my-life email to OM. Let your H send him something similar if he wants to. Then, block OM's emails to you. I think you need to show OM that you and your H are, once again, a united front, that there will be no part of his attempted interactions with you that doesn't get immediately disclosed to your H. The message from your H, if he wants to send one, will hammer this home. And all of this will hopefully give OM a pretty clear message that he shouldn't contact you again. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted December 15, 2004 Share Posted December 15, 2004 You just got some excellent advice from a couple of stand up guys Sweetz. One more thing...if he emails you again, DON'T delete it before your husband has a chance to see it. He may or may not WANT to...give him that choice. That way, he KNOWS you are being TOTALLY up front and honest with him. Good moves so far...and listen to what these guys have said. Its all on the money! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetz Posted December 15, 2004 Author Share Posted December 15, 2004 Thanks everyone. I 'll let you know how it goes tonight. My husband is in the field and I can't contact him until later today, plus I don't want to interrupt him during work with this type of stuff and make him lose concentration on his business he's taking care of. I will see what he wants me to do next. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
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