CAboysurfer Posted December 15, 2004 Share Posted December 15, 2004 My friend and I decided to date in the summer just for fun...we hooked up had many many laughs and a good time. We both were happy. She always second guesses herself and she started stressing about college applications. At this time she was hearing about all her friends that decided to cut it off with there old boyfriends and it got her to thinking. It would be way to hard for her to break up with me and jepordize our friendship. We have been friends since freshman year were not seniors. After we broke up at the start of school, she wanted a guy at school to ask her to homecoming...she has never had a guy ask her, and i thought it would be cool. But she always seemed to talk about it and that was always on her mind more than me in my eyes. Maybe she thought about me more than i thought but it wasnt expressed at all and that hurt. I didnt know what to do and it got to the point where i didnt want to talk to the person who i loved talking to, who i loved, and who i care about deeply cause i just didnt wana hear about her and her guys. Thats not all she talked about but we never talked and had that brought up. I stoped answering her calls for about a week and half, 2 weeks....she got mad i said sorry and tried talking to her again...she started to ignore me. I just gave up and said ya know what if u wana talk come to me (not to her) but she never came and i didnt go to hear...2 more weeks passed until i said hey online, she ignored me... this went on for a while and i told her i was sooo sorry and regret it, it was something i had to deal with. We both love each other, or did...i still love her, but i believe true love never dies... she was so pissed she would talk to me at all, even in person she wouldnt. I have not seen her in 2 months and i saw her and i said hi do u wana talk...she said no and turned her shoulder... that night she told me whats up with her and she understand how im hurt and how i have my way of dealing with things and it was giving myself space, now she needs her space...that 2 month period was not a break, now im telling you i need one... i respect that and i told her i did several time i told her "ill be waiting..." , was that a bad move?? I wont make contact with her for a week then its christmas i want to do something for her; nothing big cause she said she needed a break from everything... but i was thinking just a xmas card saying to a great friend merry xmas love, me ... plus a pink rose along with the card and ill leave it on her car when shes at work... would she get mad going just leave me alone!! or actually think of me as the nice guy she really knew for 3 years or just how ive been the last few weeks... what do u think ... any advice ... Link to post Share on other sites
Universe Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 I'll be waiting wasn't a good move. But now that you've said that, the best thing is to not contact her at all ever. No x-mas card. No flower. No leaving stuff on her car. She knows how you feel. She's asked to be left alone. So respect that and get straight to work on your own issues. The longer she makes you wait, the greater the likelihood that YOU will move on and find someone else. That goes without saying and you don't need to tell her that. You've told her everything you need to tell her. So don't go repeating yourself and telling her anymore. Let her miss you. And get on with your life. You'll be more attractive to her when she eventually does contact you. But don't waste your time waiting. It'll just drive you crazy. Good luck. I know how hard it is. But you're young. You have a whole life of relationships ahead of you. Go out and enjoy it. Link to post Share on other sites
theone44 Posted December 18, 2004 Share Posted December 18, 2004 Originally posted by CAboysurfer My friend and I decided to date in the summer just for fun...we hooked up had many many laughs and a good time. We both were happy. She always second guesses herself and she started stressing about college applications. At this time she was hearing about all her friends that decided to cut it off with there old boyfriends and it got her to thinking. It would be way to hard for her to break up with me and jepordize our friendship. We have been friends since freshman year were not seniors. After we broke up at the start of school, she wanted a guy at school to ask her to homecoming...she has never had a guy ask her, and i thought it would be cool. But she always seemed to talk about it and that was always on her mind more than me in my eyes. Maybe she thought about me more than i thought but it wasnt expressed at all and that hurt. I didnt know what to do and it got to the point where i didnt want to talk to the person who i loved talking to, who i loved, and who i care about deeply cause i just didnt wana hear about her and her guys. Thats not all she talked about but we never talked and had that brought up. I stoped answering her calls for about a week and half, 2 weeks....she got mad i said sorry and tried talking to her again...she started to ignore me. I just gave up and said ya know what if u wana talk come to me (not to her) but she never came and i didnt go to hear...2 more weeks passed until i said hey online, she ignored me... this went on for a while and i told her i was sooo sorry and regret it, it was something i had to deal with. We both love each other, or did...i still love her, but i believe true love never dies... she was so pissed she would talk to me at all, even in person she wouldnt. I have not seen her in 2 months and i saw her and i said hi do u wana talk...she said no and turned her shoulder... that night she told me whats up with her and she understand how im hurt and how i have my way of dealing with things and it was giving myself space, now she needs her space...that 2 month period was not a break, now im telling you i need one... i respect that and i told her i did several time i told her "ill be waiting..." , was that a bad move?? I wont make contact with her for a week then its christmas i want to do something for her; nothing big cause she said she needed a break from everything... but i was thinking just a xmas card saying to a great friend merry xmas love, me ... plus a pink rose along with the card and ill leave it on her car when shes at work... would she get mad going just leave me alone!! or actually think of me as the nice guy she really knew for 3 years or just how ive been the last few weeks... what do u think ... any advice ... Why is you rewarding this woman for her bad bahavior. man get a spine and some backbone and don't contact this woman again,unless you want to be misuse. Link to post Share on other sites
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