thekiss Posted December 26, 2005 Share Posted December 26, 2005 This post is so far down on the list, that I don't know if anyone will read it or if I will be repeating what someone else has said. However, I have to say a couple of things on this subject. Women: It isn't personal...it has nothing to do with you. Guys are attracted to it whether we like it or not. If you don't like it, and alot of us don't, you need to find a guy that doesn't use porn, because they are out there, no matter what your significant other may tell you. As women we need to understand this and not let it affect our self esteem. I have seen perfectly esteem filled women turn into quivering pools of goo over this subject. Please, I implore any woman that gets upset about this to turn the tables around. Read some porn, watch a movie...it is sexually stimulating and you will find it has absolutely NO bearing on how you feel about your significant other. Men: As much as we need to realize that you may use it and learn not to take it personally. You also need to realize that women DO take it personally. If your woman has an issue with it, it needs to be handled delicatley. If you start spouting off about her low self esteem and all the other crap you all say when confronted with this...the relationship is NOT going to get better. You will be NAGGED, your computer will continue to be checked. Trust me, a little TLC up front and maybe even laying off of it until she starts feeling better about the whole subject will save you a lot of headache in the future. Also, hiding it isn't going to do anything for ya'. She's gonna find it, and when she does, it will be 10 fold the headache as the first time she found it. Ladies and Gentleman, this is my humble opinion becasue I have been here, I've done this... Link to post Share on other sites
dnm1010 Posted December 30, 2005 Share Posted December 30, 2005 i agree with u- i think a lot of the issue is that men shrug the topic of porn off with the usual "all guys do it" instead of putting the time and effort into making the woman understand. it might help to watch it together and talk about it so that she understands what porn is to you. telling her shes stupid for being upset is not going to help. Link to post Share on other sites
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