skarlett88 Posted November 7, 2013 Share Posted November 7, 2013 My husband left me 6.5 weeks ago. I've been trying my best to accept this and move forward with my life, to grow personally and expand my social horizons. I've always been a bit of a loner so making friends is a difficult thing for me, but a worthy pursuit I think during this time. Well I made one. We discovered a shared interest in Star Trek and philosophy, and bonded during awkward moments of not knowing how to have a "normal" conversation. That started 3 weeks ago and I was quite happy to be friends with this guy. Then there were butterflies and he came over smelling particularly good. We cuddled on my couch while watching Star Trek (none other), and at one point he was looking at me with "that look" and suddenly he kissed me. I finally gave in and broke our platonic rule, culminating in a rather passionate make out session. That is exactly the opposite of what I had hoped for in this relationship. While I like this guy a lot, I never wanted to be anything more than friends. I feel like we just ruined our blossoming friendship, and I'm afraid to hang out again. I really, really do not want to rebound right after my failed marriage. I talked to him about this, and he promised I could trust him, that he wouldn't hurt me, etc, etc. I don't trust him anymore, because he knew at the time how recently my husband left me. The awkward part. My new friend has Aspergers and Clinical Depression. When he was kissing me he said that he didn't remember being happy, and that he guessed that was what this feeling was. I know what depression is like, and I feel really badly about this situation. At the same time, I never signed up to be his more effective antidepressant. How do I deal with this as gracefully as possible without rebounding or hurting my new friend? Link to post Share on other sites
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