A saga needs answering. Any and all replies welcome.

[Rich Hunter]

Note added after finishing: Got very lazing with typing towards the end. Not like me, so apologies if it's difficult to read! Girl in question is known as D1 cos if anyone I know found this particular post I'd feel like hanging myself from the roof! Again, apologies for the increasingly lazy typing towards the end.

 

I found this website when looking for body language websites - want to do a Derren Brown and intimidate people with his "you're looking me up and down so you're a bouncer" thing to confuse people!

 

Anyways, I'm 16 now and in 6th year. In 4th year - two years ago obviously - I used to sit opposite this class girl now known as D1. We used to get on really well, share a joke etc. I sat beside her best m8 in another class, and the pair of them used to tell me what the other one had said about me. They used to come down and watch me play football all the time. I was **** at the time. Literally.

 

Towards October of 4th year, her best m8 started asking Do you fancy D1? Naturally, being a fool, I said No, cos I was a young lad and assumed that this "crush" as it were to me at the time would blow over. She asked a number of times and then didn't when I kept saying no. After this, I got told what the other one had said about me, what I was meant to have said to the other one about them etc. A number of times D1 'waved sarcastically' at me while I was playing football. Her best m8 told me it was cos 'it annoyed me'. It didn't, I thought it was great! but I told her best m8 I found it funny (???)

 

Basically we used to have a laugh a lot. In 5th year, this twerp I sat beside decided it would be funny to make up a little rumour. Through nasty coincidence, it happened to be that I liked D1... Great, eh? He told her to face actually before I got to class one day. Apparently convo went:

 

Twerp: "*some kind of insult to me*"

D1: That's so mean!

Twerp: *my name* likes you!

..........awkward silence............

D1: "...but I don't like him."

 

Anyway, I had the complete piss taken out of me by my m8s until about April - seriously dragged the issue on. Anyway, this fool I know decided to send a note up during Assembly that said "My name for D1"

 

I was not amused!

 

Everything blew over, completely forgotten about her, one of her others m8s who I'd sat in front of for 2 months in a subject this year came up to me randomly and went "are you friends with D1?"

 

I said no - cos I'd have been lying to have said yes

 

She said - but you were in her class last year

 

i said - yea, science

 

she said - its funny cos the two of you h8 each other so much

 

Well, I saw D1 crossing the lights one day and in my infinite wisdom I went up and told her I'd been speaking to her m8 and asked her why she "hated" me. Seriously, I think that was a mistake! Anyway, we established we didn't hate each other and then had a wee convo as we walked into school. All good I thought.

 

however, we both walked past each other in a fairly empty corridor, i was ready to say hello, but she blanked me. Gutted I know! lol

 

Two weeks later, her m8 spoke to me again (please note this aint the same one as 4th year ATM) and said "What did you say to d1?"

 

I said- I asked her why she didnt like me

 

she said - she doesnt not like you

 

i said - no no, why she "hated" me but she didnt, so yay

 

she said - so no one hates anyone anymore

 

i said - indeed, and turned around cos my m8 hadjust walked in

 

next day, im sitting down. her m8 is sitting with d1, and a number of others. she walks up to me, says 'next time u can join in the excitement' does a thumbs up and walks out. meets d1 in the middle of the floor and they walk out the door. she looked back with this huge smirk on her face and i saw d1 try to look back but couldnt see through the group of people... i think anyways.

 

The same m8s 4th year sits beside my best m8 in a subject. she asked him if i liked d1 last week and he said nothing. turns out she "knows" and legit hates me and fired off a bunch of reasons such as "I'm too sarcastic", "I 'boast'# about the size of my feet", "I smell" - all of which are complete and utter crap. I' was never sarcastic to her, I nver boasted about the size of my feet and I always ensured I had nice B.O. and used dioderant every single day. my opinion is that she ist alking bollocks.

 

the only reason I don't take it at face value is cos of previous stuff and more recent stuff. e.g. I've caught her looking at me a number of times this year. like straight at me in that "I'm checking you out" kind of way, and back in 4th year her m8 kept telling me they told my sister i liked d1, or they were gonna tell her I liked her etc.

 

Anyway, I just got moved into one iof her classes after changing one of my subjects which has both pleased and annoyed me. cos id like to make it clear im NOT what she seems to think, however I am so dying to slap her and ask why she didnt just tell me she hated me and we couldve worked it out instead of me finding out through a damn network of friends

 

note: im 16, pretty mature for my age, and intelligent (in my opinion anyway). I'm not a delusionalist, and I'm not obsessed. I'm simply wondering wtf this is all about, cos it is really taking the piss and I want to know whether I should:

 

a) try and rectify matters

b) take the piss out of her and give her good reasons to hate me (which would be fun - cos I dont care what people think of me in regards to matters like this)

 

thnks, should be interesting to see the kind of replies i get, cos I'm under the impression she liked the idea of me liking her and got a wee bit freaked whenver it became a bit cleared i might ask her out. what bothers me is that none of her other friends seemed to know she hated me, cos i got a very gd m8 whos friends with her group and he knew nothing of it. nor any of his m8s cos im sure he wouldve told me to save me wondering!

 

all thoughts welcome!

 

Thanks!

[bhockeyct11]

?I think I was just more confised then I have ever been....M8.... What is what all about? I'm guessing that she liked you at a time, the time passed, and now your screwed. Moral of the story!?...Don't wait to show your feelings next time, when you like someone let them know right away!!

[Pocky]

Your post was confusing from the very beginning not just at the end! You may very well be intelligent as you claimed, but your writing doesn't leave one with that impression. Effective communication is a valuable skill to have. It's possible that your inability to communicate has lead to many misconceptions and that is why she hates you so much.

 

If you care why she dislikes you, then approach her, not her friend, not your friend and not anyone in the network. Find out why she hates you, explain yourself if she has misunderstood the situation and clear the air. If you don't care that she hates you, don't worry about it and just leave her alone. Antagonizing her will only portray you negatively and validate her hatred for you.

[Rich Hunter]

I wanted to establish what I did to piss her off, however all of this "hatred" seems to come from 4th year and all of her reasons are bollocks

 

I suspect you are all confused, but it was hardly the most comfortable thing for me to write about!

 

Anyway, I really couldn't care what SHE thinks, as - I agree with a previous poster who said "now you're screwed". I'm after ideas over what I did to make her detest me with the sheer passion she appears to and then establishing what I did will enable me to know not to do it again. I've found I get on really well with loads of really ugly girls mind, cos I don't actually care what they think and I make jokes etc. and we have a laugh cos I am in no way attracted to them.

 

Strange eh?

 

Just like me!

[Rich Hunter]

Actually, forums are **** for this kind of thing in my opinion.

 

People kind of need to ask questions and the like before they actually know what's happening, but then again - no one will ever completely know cos even I don't... I've now confused myself.

 

If either of the previous posters CARE enough, then add [email protected] to your MSN listings.

[bhockeyct11]

She hates you becasue when she actually did like you, you didn't like her back. She feels like she failed and shes mad at you because she didn't get you. It is not you she doesn't like. It is the fact that she couldn't get you. What she is doing is trying to find every reason to hate you and everything bad about you so she can get over you...however long ago it was.