Disappointed with my friend

[mortensorchid]

I have a friend Rob (not his real name) in another city. He and I have been friends for many years long distance, we've been through a lot of things together. I hate to say it, but he really got himself into a bad situation with a Bad Girl and I am feeling it from afar.

 

Two years ago, he took up with this woman who I didn't know anything about save for her name. All seemed ok until the day when I couldn't reach him on the phone for weeks and weeks. I figured he was just busy until a few months had gone by, then I said he can call me when he can and walked away. He called saying that his gf is jealous of me and accused him of cheating with me. Despite the fact that we live hundreds of miles apart from each other and that would be impossible and despite his assurance that nothing like that is going on, she demanded and he bent. I found this out because they would have a fight, break up, then he would call and apologize about it. Then, of course, he took her back and I wouldn't hear from him again for weeks/months.

 

The last time we talked, I couldn't believe what he told me. He said they had a fight, he threw her out because she accused him of cheating with his DAUGHTER. Then she went out, got drunk out of her mind, then laid siege to his front lawn. He called the police on her and they threw her in the psyche ward. I also decided to do some research and found that there were restraining orders filed against her by my friend and others out there.

 

And then, you guessed it, he took her back AGAIN. I checked his Facebook page and see photos of them at a Sevendust concert together a few weeks ago. I'm outraged that he would be with her again. I have decided not to speak to him anymore because of it, and I don't think it's unreasonable of me.

[lindsay1990]

I have a friend Rob (not his real name) in another city. He and I have been friends for many years long distance, we've been through a lot of things together. I hate to say it, but he really got himself into a bad situation with a Bad Girl and I am feeling it from afar.

 

Two years ago, he took up with this woman who I didn't know anything about save for her name. All seemed ok until the day when I couldn't reach him on the phone for weeks and weeks. I figured he was just busy until a few months had gone by, then I said he can call me when he can and walked away. He called saying that his gf is jealous of me and accused him of cheating with me. Despite the fact that we live hundreds of miles apart from each other and that would be impossible and despite his assurance that nothing like that is going on, she demanded and he bent. I found this out because they would have a fight, break up, then he would call and apologize about it. Then, of course, he took her back and I wouldn't hear from him again for weeks/months.

 

The last time we talked, I couldn't believe what he told me. He said they had a fight, he threw her out because she accused him of cheating with his DAUGHTER. Then she went out, got drunk out of her mind, then laid siege to his front lawn. He called the police on her and they threw her in the psyche ward. I also decided to do some research and found that there were restraining orders filed against her by my friend and others out there.

 

And then, you guessed it, he took her back AGAIN. I checked his Facebook page and see photos of them at a Sevendust concert together a few weeks ago. I'm outraged that he would be with her again. I have decided not to speak to him anymore because of it, and I don't think it's unreasonable of me.

 

Sure, the woman sounds like trouble.

 

You're not asking for advice but if I were you? I would be more worried about Rob than disappointed. This guy got involved with the wrong girl and has had tons of trouble because of it, and the last thing he needs is friends taking HIS drama personally and getting offended because of it. Sounds like you're making poor Rob's ordeal about yourself.

 

Whatever mistakes Rob made in maybe not standing his ground with this woman and trying to appease her, it is clear that he was way in over his head, if his "friend" can't help but make it all about herself and on top of everything judge Rob and be "outraged", I would say he's better off without you as well.

 

You're right in thinking it's not unreasonable. It's not. It's just selfish and petty.