Bohdi10 Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 Do girls actually call guys and then say they are going to hang out and then disappear? Why do they do that? Wouldn't it be easier to just not make plans at all and end it there? Or not call the guy? Or is there something guys aren't getting? I mean this has happen to me a few times and I'm wondering what I am doing wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 Did you call them back to ask them out? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 This problem/issue ISN'T gender specific.. happens to girls and guys.. What are you doing wrong? I don't think it's that YOU are doing something wrong really.. it's maybe more that you've read the "signs of interest/not interested" wrong. People will often doing this to get out of saying "No thanks" Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 Maybe they feel bad rejecting the guy straight out so they say yes and then they disappear so they don't have to face them. It's just another form of saying, "I'm not interested, but I am to BIG of a wimp to tell you straight out". Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 Dear Bodhi10: For any of 1,000 diff reasons: - maybe her ex b/f in back - maybe she's mad cause she had to call you instead of other way round - maybe she is PMS-ing - maybe she just isn't all that into you - maybe she gets a thrill out of blowing you off - maybe she is a bitch - maybe she in feeling bad that day cause her kat died - maybe there's a great sale going on a TJ Maxx that she'd rather go to - maybe she's involved in some type of espionage - maybe she's having sex with your best buddy ...see it could be anything, this list in by no means all inclusive. just don't waste any time thinking bout it. If she blows you off then move on the the next broad. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 Maybe they feel bad rejecting the guy straight out so they say yes and then they disappear so they don't have to face them. It's just another form of saying, "I'm not interested, but I am to BIG of a wimp to tell you straight out". But why call him???? I don't get this. It would make perfect sense if he had been the one calling. If you are not interested in someone, why calling him to say you're going to hang out? Wouldn't it be easier not to call at all? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 It also depends on how its worded. If someone says "yeah, we'll hang out on Wednesday at The Coffee Cup Shoppe - see you around five pm", then thats a pretty good indication they meant it. If they ditch you after making firm plans, then thats inconsiderate - you can call and say "hey, what happened to you the other day?" However... If its a case of "yeah, we'll hang out sometime" and give no time/date/month/year, then thats a nice way to brush someone off. If you call someone back after getting that and want to know why you haven't hung out yet, then you'll likely to never hear from them again - if you ever were going to in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bohdi10 Posted December 16, 2004 Author Share Posted December 16, 2004 i talked to her on sunday and asked if she wanted to hang out sometime this week like thursday, and she was like okay. So then SHE called me out of the blue on Tuesday. So we just talked and then we talked Wednesday night and i was like we still hanging out thursday? She was like if you want to , I have to go to the mall. so she said she would call me today when she was done work. And this is current girl. There have been others in the past where this same thing has happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 Originally posted by Bohdi10 i talked to her on sunday and asked if she wanted to hang out sometime this week like thursday, and she was like okay. So then SHE called me out of the blue on Tuesday. So we just talked and then we talked Wednesday night and i was like we still hanging out thursday? She was like if you want to , I have to go to the mall. so she said she would call me today when she was done work. And this is current girl. There have been others in the past where this same thing has happened. Am I lost? So whats the issue? She DID call you right? She DID say she still wanted to hang out tonite.. She DID say she would call you when she was done with work *Looks a watch* She is probably still at work.. so yeah.. she HASN'T blown you off (as of now) So whats the issue? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bohdi10 Posted December 16, 2004 Author Share Posted December 16, 2004 I have that feeling that she isn't going to call because it has happened in the past. Plus, she is done work at 4 so I'm thinking it is going to be me waiting around for no call. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 Her responses when you asked her to hang out: "Okay" "If you want to" It sounds more like she was just agreeing to hang out with you rather than wanting to hang out with you. Do you have more of an interest in this girl than just 'hanging out'? I know that if you try to push 'hanging out' and 'being friends' too far, or turn it into an obligation - it can really creep a girl out - particularly if she is not interested in dating you. Are you maybe just a tad insistent about it? That could explain why it tends to happen to you repeatedly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bohdi10 Posted December 16, 2004 Author Share Posted December 16, 2004 k, that makes alot of sense. so if she does decide to call me and i'm just overreacting? since we are doing something simple like going to the mall, what would you suggest i do about plans for the weekend if things seem to be good? so i dont' seem pushy, do i ask her to hang out tomorrow? or do i just wait.. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 Originally posted by Bohdi10 I have that feeling that she isn't going to call because it has happened in the past. Plus, she is done work at 4 so I'm thinking it is going to be me waiting around for no call. Because something happend in the past with SOMEONE ELSE doesn't mean it's going to happen again. I really believe sometimes we set ourselves up to fail with our own expectations.. know what I mean? Give her some time and the benefit of the doubt. Link to post Share on other sites
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